The Subtle Signs You’re Forcing a Relationship With the Wrong Person

My question: What if you have a guy who doesn't consistently communicate every once in a while? Then he says he wants to be with me. However, it doesn't feel like he does with his actions he doesn't try to get to know me better, it's very surface level, and I consistently tell him my boundaries it just feels like it's falling on deaf ears I care about him yet I think it's time for me to walk away just not sure how to tell him without triggering him I want to end things without it being chaos or drama what what I say and how would I do it please any advice ❤

Ticking all 4 check boxes is as easy as stumbling across a 4 leaf clover. 😂

I so needed to hear that, thankyou so much for sharing.

Very true, personal values have to be considered no matter how great we feel together

I don’t know how you do it. But you always post the content that I really need in the moment that I really need. Thank you for all your work Matthew

We were on level 3. He admitted he likes me but doesn’t know about long term. The chemistry is there. We are so compatible in many things. I thought he liked me because he was so insistent during the initial stage, then it turned out to be a fwb situation.

We kept going back and forth if we should cut ties off. I’m just hurt that he doesn’t see me as someone who is capable to be a wife for him. 😢

Being in your 30s (turning 30 soon) is really tough to be especially in today’s dating scene. I regret not having a high school sweetheart. I was too focused on school and my future.

Mathew you are my brother from another mother- love from 🇮🇳 India

This is so great!!!!!! I use to watch your content years ago, it’s so amazing to see you matured and speaking from a true place of someone who gets it. The cookie cutter “love yourself” dating advice is so tiring to those who have been married for years and don’t seem to understand dating now days is not the same! Love these levels- so insightful

How are you always resonating with my exact love life situation? 😭😂😂

It's because I left first in 2020 and a lot more complicated but yeah then after a short while they choose someone else. I understand now. Time for me to love myself.

Matthew, I beg of you to put something here for over 50's dating. The men are too old for dancing and getting out of the house or they're perverted. HELP for a 61 year young Woman

This is the BEST video you've EVER done and rhis helped me SO much.... I don't know how to thank you!! ❤

Well we were at level 4 then all of a sudden he says I don’t want to marry you anymore 😢 oh well

I love this and you can even apply this to friendships too.

I grew up with no parents, I made ALL the mistakes, I will sit down with my 15yo child this evening and watch this mind blowing life lesson I never learned, put together in perfect simplicity. Thank you Mathew. I grateful I didn’t go another day without hearing this 💚🙏

Comment from another perspective: I'm in my 40s, knew I don't want marriage or kids since I was 10, still don't want it (I do want a serious relationship). I think of myself as pretty easy to get along with. However, I'm single, because at that moment when I say that I don't want marriage or kids they all run away! And the men are supposed to be afraid of marriage and kids?? Or I simply find the ones who want that? But every. Single. F*ckin. Time?? Seriously??

IM so curious i just saw a video where matthew said he wouldnt date a girl unless she offered to pay on their first date. Im wondering if he still thinks this way… did your wife offer to pay on the first date! has your pov changed?

If you were gonna do something different you would have done something different.

The guy likes mature women who are older but isnt ready for kids????? That’s contradicting

"Are you drinking poison expecting the other person to die?" Wow.

Wow, Mathew, your ability to reframe the deep disappointment of a lost love dream is remarkable and special.

I'm glad you mentioned parenthood and how the inability to be honest with and accountable for oneself in a relationship can deeply affect someone's life.

Umm 🤔 then there is soul connections. Love isn’t enough as if you can’t talk about hard things and go deep then you can only love from afar but never up close. The other part is if they are in another relationship then it never/ hardly ever works because when they get bored they will do the same thing again. I have a no monkey brushing policy and my soul connections so far have always been in relationships with other people so I walk
Away once I realize what is going on. Do I stop loving them or caring? Nope but I must stick to my policy and stand my ground.

This video came out just as I am going thru it.

Yeah, I thought that was insightful that he started with such a question re biological clock! Wow

On point as always my brother. The biggest conundrum is are we learning from the wisdom you are imparting or we like to play it " safe?".

Right qualities wrong person. Keep yourself open to meeting your person.

He just said it right now. I asked him are your feelings fading of me? He said : Long gone. Stop keeping ask all the time. It’s annoying.

Relationships are like farts, if you need to force them, it's gonna be sh*t.

Hi Matthew, why compatibility stands after the commitment (at stage 4) and not before it?

What doesn't make sense to women is that the chemistry can be off the charts, the values and beliefs are aligned, the respect is there, the man has a stable job and yet still does not want commitment and starts to make excuses. All I can think is that chemistry is so much easier for men to find, to the point where they take it almost for granted, probably they trip over it every weekend at the pub.

You're saving lives. Thank you!

Spot on! Love is NOT all we need, it's compatibility.

Reframing it ... Never thought about it, I was stuck in the "what if, if only, we could/would...". I needed to hear this, no matter how good some things were, the bad stuff made us incompatible. (MIN 14-18)

Merry Christmas

I haven't watched this yet (as of writing this comment) but I saw the title and immediately went "ohno." Knowing how Matthew ALWAYS somehow posts stuff that reflect my life at the right time lmao HE'S A WIZARD

Thanks it’s been spoke. You need to be chosen not almost chosen. Lots mislead their faith and hope. Please save it.

you need a yes. so true. before anything else.

The right person is the one who chooses us

“What makes you think you know everything about your story?!!!” Pure gold Matthew!! Thank you!!

Love this! So inspiring! My mind has been completely consumed by thoughts of him. It’s been six months since he left, and the pain of losing him feels like a physical ache. The laughter, the memories, the adventures sadly, it’s all gone. I’ve tried everything to distract myself, but the harder I try, the more I find myself thinking about him. How do people let go and move on? It’s been months, yet the memories of him are still so vivid. I miss him more than words can say.

What about older people who really dont want to bother with getting married, but are happy to be in a friendship, and LDR?

Thank you for this the timing is prefect for me. I've been waiting for a man i right was perfect for me and he isn't ready to commit. I'm done

Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)

Wonderful content. So insightful and helpful. Thank you!

I've been seeing this woman for a bout 2 months and we decided to become a couple, but my gut was telling me, that it wasn't a good idea. When you don't get excited about seeing someone at the beginning of the relationship, then you need to get out of it. It's incredible how your body trys to warn you. I ended it and it was such a relief. Listen to your gut...

What a pity I can't find a Matthew!! He's so HOT, kind, compassionate ATTRACTIVE AND INTELLIGENT!! Lol. ❤❤❤