This Can Happen If You Break The 3 DAY RULE With A Bar Girl In Thailand

We all want love ❤️ I think 💭 🤔 she is like somebody that has a lot of pets she loves them all 🦖🐌🦄🦉🐸🦗🐳🦈🐊🦧🦍🐖🐿️🦥🦚🐇🦩🐓
But just like anybody that has pets, especially farm animals 🐄🐫🐃🐂🫏🐑🐐🦙 they get milked

Id say don't bother 'falling in love'. Period. Thai, german, or any woman. Enjoy your life and stay single.

Holy moly. Ya can't be serious. Love??

1st your English is better than a lot of Americans. You sound like a squared away young man with a bright future, but what you just described is nothing more than a memory.

This is the best story ive listened to in a long time. It could be a movie. I know that it could definitely be her just working her customers but it would be easy for me to fall for her especially since the women in the usa are lying cunts that work to not only steal your money and your soul but to completely destroy you. In my opinion the working women of Thailand that love their family are honorable. If you can find an equitable way to have love and happiness there go for it. Just know the situation as best you can. And keep some money hid to fall back on. Life is short my friend.❤

You can take the girl out of the bar, but you can never take the bar out of the girl. Sad to say that despite the fact that she may have some feelings for you but she will just be a long term player who is being supported financially by possibly 4 or 5 other farlangs. It has been my experience that what seems genuine is just a peripheral cover for extracting as much money as they can. I married one and after 7 years she was off with others. A new game had started and it was about more money, more travel, more for a house in Thailand etc. I cant begin to tell you about the heartbreak that tens of thousands of foreign men have endured as a result of looking for love or experiencing feelings of love. You may never find a woman who turns you on like this lady but you must comfort yourself that you didn't mortgage your future for a dose of infatuation.

It is the biggest load of BS i have heard of.
Your just some dumb arse 'German', so who cares. You'll get whats coming to you....🤣🤣

Girls that sleep with dozens of guys end up emotionally broken, they are damaged goods and toxic. One in a hundred can emotionally recover and become a decent wife.

She is a master manipulator lol.
I know girls like her, in the end she only cares about the money.

They are pro con artists. They know all the angles and tricks. She drugged you so she could get your account and pin number. The bartenders and food servers are in on it.

Dudes are going there to get laid , enough said

Eventually the guy needs to either move to thailand or he needs to move on. Otherwise eventually he will be an atm.

Move on !!! Save your money.

You aren't the first to break the rule and you won't be the last. Perhaps she does have feelings, or at least thinks she has feelings, but most likely she does not. What they do is very hard and they generally have to distance themselves from feelings. Still I have seen some broken hearts and sometimes they do fall in love. The desire to find someone who could rescue them from all that would be natural. What can I say? When we play with fire we sometimes get burned. The best thing is probably to move on. This type of love is like a drug addiction. You will go through a withdrawal period but in time you will recover.

Suggestion: Meet a Thai girl -- that is NOT a bar girl. Nothing wrong with having fun/partying with bar girls, but at the end of the night, or your vacay, say goodbye and keep it classy.😋

You have gotten a lot of good advice but we know it doesn’t always replace how you feel. Continue the long term friendship and maintain the connection you want. No marriage and no to financial assistance. Give it at least a year and visit again to decide. Remember, she will be with other guys when you are not available. That’s usually what they pay for.

if you ask "is it a trap" you are asking the correct question..es its a trap... its a long game trap... right now she needs only a few thousand here and there... and after a while she WILL need a new telephone or she will need a scooter or her family is ill.. and then you are so far along that you think "she never asked me so she is NOT scamming me" and you will bend over backwards to help her... taking out credit or credit card in Germany.. send her money and till have nothing and wont get anything from her or with her

Yeah. It is kind of long play. It will come a time when she will ask you in some point to help her. You will see. And you will be in horrible dilemma because you are thinking about your self as her good friend (maybe more). You are human and as a person we are all expected to treat others as a humans. These people know that and they broadly use that fact of human character. But you should know that she and others in that industry are morally and ethically imbalanced and weak. But they are still humans and have their own plans even if they have feelings as well.

The day you move to Thailand for that girl is the day she'll play her cards... as a foreigner you can't own land in Thailand. You can buy a condo which does not exceed 49% of the floor in the building... unless you marry... but then you'll soon find out that you still don't have many rights there and she'll drain you to the last penny. There is people stuck in Thailand unable to buy plane tickets to go back home because of this. Whatever you do thread very carefully.

Sounds like the soft sell.

5k thai baht is $140 which should be more than enough for 5 days survive

wake up bro...

She did not love you

She probably does love you, people in these comments are so cold hearted by their own experiences. However, that doesn't mean that this will ever work out. First, she already has a child with another man. Second, she's older than you and sleeps with other men as part of her job. Life is hard in places like Thailand. She's not that young anymore, has gone through a lot of trauma and disappointments. Of course she wants to rely on herself. To expect anything else from a woman in her position is a lack of empathy. And third, you don't really know her at all. You spent less than a month there, you have no idea who she is and what you're really getting into. That doesn't mean you can't have genuine feelings for each other, but that's not what makes a functional relationship. She's probably naive like you, hoping that something will come out of this. Just wish her the best and move on.

don't look in the bars for love! Find you a girl from the countryside that expects little from life and truly cares for you . Forget her, find someone who would walk to Germany for you ...That is the one that you should marry!

Oh yeah, don’t be a Butterfly

As a guy with experience with ladies of the night, the idea of having to talk to girls, buy them drinks and hang out with them for a day or days instead of just getting to business and saying our good-byes afterwards, astounds me.

Also, as a guy with years of experience living in a "developing world," go to the doctor if you get more than flu like nausea. 99% it's food poisoning and requires medical treatment.

Last thing, don't fall for those types of ladies. Once you're done with the transaction, MOVE ON and don't talk to them again.

Brother walk away. As hard as it is close it and tell her your done. Maybe she dose have feelings for you, but they aren't enough and you and what you have will never be enough. Keep the memory of the time and the experience but unless you are both ready to commit with out excuse then cut it off. Very noble of you to want to help but how many other men are sending her money, as well as what she earns. Do yourself a favor and end it. Stop thinking about her and end it. Take a train to Prauge next time and have a good time there but don't fall in love. Until your ready to commit and when you are look for a real woman who hasn't been in that line of work. To many games with your heart and emotion. Walk away or better yet run.

100 % worst in Cambodia ...

Finding love in Pattaya. Oh, the sweet taste of being unexperienced 😅 They play you and you play them back, that's the game. Poor girl living in the bar and going to live a boring life in Germany on a budget. Not fair for a bar girl. Thai girls are for fun, nothing more. Otherwise you would not be visiting Pattaya. Truth! ☺

She is keeping her options open and if someone sticks, then good for her. You are probably one of many. It's up to you to have a closer relationship.

OK so I get it do not stay any longer than 3 DAYS with a Thailand bar girl because They'll cause you to fall in love with them. I see

How's about the money stolen from your credit card from Nigeria, I doubt if that was an incident on it's own... Wondering if it was much. I can imagine your situation and feelings.
And your getting sick all that suddenly did you find out what was the cause of it? You're still in love and hoping for something, giving her hope, or she keeps giving you hope, probably thinking you may decide to go back to visit her someday and than you may offer her more or decide to stay there. But it sounds like tricky

What is the 3 day bar rule?

You can take the girl out of the bar. But you can’t take the bar out of the girl.

Lovely story

It's a nice Pattaya story and will be a fond memory for you in the future.

That girl is collecting money from plenty men.

Stay away from her, no future with that relationship - others you will loose a lot... all this is in your story is part of her business - sorry

I would be careful my friend. You have to remember that Thailand, The Philippines and many other Asian countries as you even said, value their family most. You have to think about it as an investment for her if she is calling you every day still for 1 hour even. If you did agree to the 10,000 Thai baht, that would be 10,000 she never had before. (Not to mention the Euro and U.S. dollar is the highest currency in the world in value). Then imagine if she had 3 other guys doing the same. That would give her 40,000 a month just for talking on the phone for 4 hours at most per day. Never forget or assume that their culture is anything like yours when it comes to love. Being a bar girl, you can only imagine that she has most likely said she loved others. After doing that for a long time saying I love you is like saying hello. I am not saying she is a bad person but you have to understand why she is a bar girl. She needs money and is most likely making a huge sacrifice for her family. It is a sad thing but I think you are playing with a fire that you need to put out.

I have great deal of expierience in Asia. love Asian women. Plan to move there for good. Cost of living is cheap houses are cheaper, every day above ground is a great day. your a long time dead .. so just enjoy your life and enjoy oneanother. You will never know if its real unless you move there. its about choices. only you can make the choice. WHATS MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU ??? good luck whatever you choose hope everything works out for you.. Is she the one you want to wake up with every morning. ??

You can take the girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl.... PERIOD

I would go back one more time and ride the brakes off that gem,, Then set it free, if she comes to you then it was meant to be, If not then it never was...

Run brother, do not send her anything . My story is a nightmare with a girl in the Philippines.

1 beer rule works better.

Is pattaya dangerous at night?

Sometimes in life you got to take chances. Spend a little more time with her to figure it out. But she did stay with you while you were sick. Some of her answers sound genuine, but you got to listen to your heart and gut on what you should do. She does not want to be in that work forever . She also does not want to get hurt , and no-one does. I was surprised she paid for the time and food, because a real hustler will not risk loosing any money . She took that chance with you. Because she seen some good in you. Been married and divorced 2 times. She already done more for you than any American woman not in love would do. If she were trying to scam you why would she risk loosing her own money for time with you? That does not make sense. Wish you all the best and take care. Thanks for the story and information . I think you know what you want and need to do already is what it sounds like, and you do not need a bunch of guys giving you information . Trust in yourself and your decisions because regret sucks.

Sounds like shes great at playing the game, its like going to a strip club, its a fantasy world and sounds like you got caught up in it. Just be glad you didnt spend more money. Use it as a lesson, keep the good memories yet move on, man

thank you for the report

family there is a thing. it is hard to understand but family first always and you come second.