The REAL Reason Why People Reject INFJs

Where's my cape 🦸‍♂

X-Men are fiction and a creative work...Not necessarily applicable in real world settings. Though the theory makes for a good movie, being authentic breeds martyrdom.

Great advice for a fellow INFJ!

IT IS mindblowing, how much consent, i experience here. Truly. I made this Test, about 5 Times, in the past few years, once i was the Defender. 1,5 years ago. I never dove deeper into this system. Besides cptsd(which i worked on, intensely, for years, at home and in a clinical context, emdr++, such as longterm psychotherapy..) still fehlt too Strange. Even thought that, besides HSP, i might suffer from Autism maybe, high masking, unregarded. Or and ADS without the H 🙃 i have listened to quiet some Video so far. Very amazing!!!! Not that i Had No idea about the structure, just asumed that the cause was different.
Anyone with this personality Type around? I would Love meet likeminded Souls. Greetings from northern Germany(almost danish Up here)

Yhuuu! Clarity 💡! Thank you ❤

Damn, infj need a special therapist. I am so glad I came across this video. Finally feeling understood.

Very accurate description.

Im an X-man!!!! Yeaaah🤸✨💫🙃

So much wisdom. I had to learn all this the hard way which is probably a very good way to learn.

My best friend at the time was proposed to and was going on about how in love she was with this guy and how in love he was with her and that he wanted to marry her and that she was the most beatifull woman in the world and as she was telling me this i felt hesitant as i asked her how long she had known him and she told me about too years but they only talk on the phone and rearly see each other and she told me she loved him and my red flag signal was going off as i advised her gently she should go on a few more dates with him get to know him better before she marries him and she felt afended afer a month we talked on the phone as she moved and four years later i found out fro a mutual frend she had gotten married and i was hurt for i was not invited to the wedding and i couldn't understand why untill it hit me the reason she didint invite me was becouse she thought i was jealous at her true love and that i wasint realy her frend well a year later she texted me out of the blue again wanting to be frends again long story short shes unhappily married and her husband maniges everything.

We are too intense and brutally honest. It’s too much for others to live with so much integrity, they’re more comfortable living the lies they tell themselves. Infjs are high calibre individuals and are not for the faint hearted.

What are some of the personality types which have particular problems with the INFJ?

Thank

Once again, bravo!

I need to get over my deep fear of rejection lol.

Is anybody familiar with Human design? I' m Infj and in Human design a Projector, it's an energy type. I hear so many similarities and treats in these two and at the moment maybe the most interesting is "absorbing" the energy of others. That' s the only energy type in Human design which do that and it makes you excausted, physically sick...Just wondering, pondering...🤔✨💫

I think INFJs generally look at things through the lense of compassion and we need to add some wisdom. Thanks for sharing this video!! It helps me a great deal.

I'm so glad I found this video and finally hearing someone putting this into words.

People aren't rejecting INFJs. People just need more time to understand/feel them better.:) INFP.

Thank you so, very much :)

Even of you don't speak the truth, they know that you know. Then, look out!

I like your analogy of x-men because INFJs are honest to the core. I always say to people "I will tell you my thoughts but be careful what you ask for." The biggest lesson is in knowing that you can only truly HELP those that want it. We have to let people do their own work. The older an INFJ gets, the more refined - like wine, we improve over time.

What is an infj?

This was helpful.

Yep, people don’t like to be shown the things they can’t see, ignorance is bliss.

No it won’t happen for the rest of my life, there is no one left in my life to reject me.

The only way we have friends is by putting up with their shit.

I really feel sometimes like giving up, but know that would only make things much worse.

I have always been obsessed with truth and justice. Also, I am driven to improve myself and other people who I always want to help BUT I am realising that I have to rein this in. People are NOT like us and I have fallen foul of some people I genuinely tried to help. Funnily, although they were very unpleasant and mean to me, cruel in fact, in some cases they have actually then done what I suggested, while claiming it was their own idea!

Hey boss thank you for the video. So my brother I caught u saying" u thing u can not"
My brother ( YES ) YOU CAN!!!!
TRY & REMOVE THAT OR OT WILL BLOCK YOU EVERY TIME..
Nothing but love & respect from a fellow brother

All fantastic ! ! !

🎯Self-love and care, gratitude, peace through nature and hobbies, be your best advocate and be generous and kind only from your heart…❤❤

An INFJ-A, I've come to a place where I have little mind hacks to remind me that I'm not infallible. Here's one of them. NOTE TO SELF: The Truth Won't Set You Free (there's too many versions of it) 😂

Play to the paradox - ping the paradigm.

"Never try to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and it irritates the pig."

This is really the hardest realization I've had, and you've outlined it well here, thank you.
I annoy people by trying to make them see things they don't (want to) see. It feels like rejection and it hurts a lot.
There are so few people one can be honest with, sooooo few, and the paradox is, they are not really the ones needing any help 😄

Ya gotta know when to hold em' ya gotta know when to fold em'..

I have always told people that I feel compelled to tell the truth like a compulsion to tell the truth, when they think I'm lying. I tell them, I don't lie because I would rather hear the brutal truth than a kind lie. Dude I binge watched all your videos and I feel like, its indescribable to tell you what I feel like because I've never experienced this before. You actually get me, you actually understand me, you are saying all the things I've tried to say to other people my whole life when they ask me how I know the things I know and think I'm meaning something that I'm not. I've always said that I don't care what people think of me, as long as what they think of me is based on truth. So I don't care what they think of me at all but if they do have a negative opinion then it can't be just random made up nonsense like it needs to be based on something factual that they know about me or that I've done. So I don't care what they think of me, but I do care whether or not what they think of me is true. Because if it's a misconception then I need to correct that. Misinformation and miscommunication are 2 of my biggest pet peeves.

When I speak to my sister trying to uncover her repressions to help her see things from a lighter brighter perspective, she feels bad, not wanting to go back, when I just want to help her heal. Watching Neo from The Matrix, made me realize not everyone wants to open their minds to bitter truth that can save them in the long run.

I´m more than thankful, to find your channel.

Although INFJ love helping others and would do it without hesitation, we also tend to be quite chill and easy-going with a "live, and let live" attitude. Theres a quiet humbleness to our nature thats admirable.

63....rejection omg i guess it's a superpower at this point.
When i was young, all thru school, i tried to fit in.
But later on in life i realised helping others lie about who they are when who they are hurts others actually ripped my self respect to shreds.
I know ppl think im stand-offish & that i think im better than them.
One thing i dont keep my mouth shut about is when i see animals being poorly kept or treated without consideration.
I now save my energy for me.
U r awesome too. Great channel.

True… so now I just let people be what they wanna be but I will still be there if they need me

I value truth over people. "I have become misanthropos and hate mankind..." -Timon of Athens, Shakespeare

As an infj I don't need to fit in but I hate to be coworkers target. I seem to always be the target when someone is mad or having a bad day. I usually watch how they act and tell myself well they revealed themselves to you naked as can be, this is who they are and so now you know what you are dealing with but it still makes me wonder what I did to make myself a target. It's like people's demons don't like us very much.

✓ Is it true?
✓ Is it kind?
✓ Is it necessary?
Learning to keep my mouth shut.

Right on! No friends with BSers.

I'm just here marathoning your videos as I try to connect the puzzle pieces of life, as I obsessively do. This video answers all of the questions I had on why relationships with people feel so uncomfortable confusing. I'm also accepting my nature and want to own it, especially now that I'm moving into a new role in behavioral health and know that although my patients are coming to see me, not all of them will be ready and willing to do what they must do to change and improve their life. Thank you so much for your work. You made my day and my path brighter 🌞✨️