My Husband Would Rather Be With His Ex-Girlfriend

The tone difference between the first and second caller is baffling. Yes, Ashley needed a dose of reality. How she could have multiple children with a deadbeat, including the fourth child, after the husband abandoned her after the third, is absolutely astounding, but the second guy is an absolute sh*t human, and you, Dr. Delony, offered him a hug. He cheated on his wife, gave out company secrets, had more remorse for losing his job, even though he took no responsibility for his actions there by saying that the stuff he texted wasn’t that important( no way the company fired him after 25 years for stuff that wasn’t important), and took even less responsibility for the cheating, and you still told him that you were sitting with him in the ashes. Yet, Ashley, who might be stupid and naive but not a terrible person, got not even a little sympathy, but a total sh*t human did. Your actions and words are baffling here. I normally agree with you, but the sympathy for a garbage human being vs the first caller is out of line and too much.

Ok. I almost almost take the guys side. Its just who I am. That being said who can't help but feel like this guy is just... wow. Is he bi sexual or sum thing? Something is up here . Like really

I listened to the 1st caller on the podcast. I was a bit disappointed by Dr Johns response I hope they talked off air. Considering she is only 4 weeks postpartum and in a very vulnerable mental state. The thanks for your call at the end was harsh 🤷‍♀️

She had a third and a fourth kid with this joker??? WTF???

What “ marriage” is she saving?

For the first caller, please watch Leslie vernick join concour. She has helped me

There's somebody out there better for you.What are you doing with your life

Let Matt have a few months to find a new job before he blows up his Childrens life again

This is why stay home moms needs a job, goals, ambitions for their damn selves.

Imagine taking calls like this but also working for a man (Dave) who endorses a President with dozens and dozens of examples of his terrible character. John could probably do an entire show on people wronged and hurt by Trump

The way I would choose to be alone over being someone's 2nd choice. In a heart beat I would divorce this man. While he's at work, pack you and your children up and leave, go stay with your parents. File for divorce. He won't bother you long, he will go be with his 1st choice and make her miserable while you heal and find yourself.

Caller 1: John, her husband is a narcissist. Point blank period,

I See the Physical hand gestures and the like Dr. John is Stressed out about this one. Dr John cmon just be Transparent with this Woman

Brad Pitt Halloween costume is possibly one of the worst choices for someone who works directly with people experiencing DV to make...

I know, it was just supposed to be a joke about your self confidence, but look up the so called plane incident and the ongoing litigation abuse.

This is helping me out right now because my ex left me last year. I'm not in a relationship, but this shows what happens when you don't take the time to heal and do the inner work. Other people get hurt when you don't what's right. It sounds like all three of them have issues that they aren't addressing

While I won’t agree the negativity about dating for 10 years before getting married because that’s what I did (and it was my decision to wait not my husbands), she needs to leave him. Literally. I could not imagine if my husband did this. I would leave him personally. My husband is still obsessed with me after 11.5 years.

First call: totally her responsibility. She knew from day one she was the place holder girl, yet her infatuation with the dude and lack of self worth/respect, drove her to endure that situation. Also, I am sure she thought that keeping reproducing with him was gonna change him and make her love
her or tie him to her forever, yet we all know that no amount of children will ever make a man to stay in a relationship that he doesn’t want to be in. I understand she’s in a financial pickle, but she either stays and accepts that he’ll never love her, or she gathers up the strength to get a lawyer and leave. I know someone in this exact situation and it’s beyond sad to witness. Girl…you deserve to be loved, desired and honored by someone who truly is into you, but it’s ultimately up to you. I feel bad is for the innocent children, cuz they’re the ones who pay the consequences for their parents’ dysfunctional behavior.

Second call: …..😶🫥😶‍🌫️

I don't understand why you're pushing the truck driver so hard to find a new career. He's telling you he loves it. He just needs a new employer that doesn't have such long routes. You talked to him like he's someone stuck in jobs they hate.

Its called emotional abuse . Leave him

And THIS is exactly why you do not allow yourself to be completely dependent on a man for your entire well being, especially one who is flip-floppy like this. He has her ecactly where he wants her sge she allowed and aided it. She needs to get back into the work market as soon as she can.

Get a new job a keep the house!

Tyler sounds jacked up on caffeine! Excellent idea to go to the gym.

First, there is nothing wrong with dating for 10 yrs IF that's what you both wanted. My partner and I dated almost that long. Neither of us wanted to be married generally. As we go older, we changed our minds and decided to get married. So, I disagree with that generally. BUT, that's not the issue with this woman. This woman is just plowing through life with an 'idea' in her head that is divorced from reality. SHE wanted a relationship and stayed with a jerk. She tried to bind him to her with kid after kid. Of course it's not working. She needs to leave. She created this world and she needs to create a new one. Take ownership. Immediately. It WILL mean living in poverty for a while. Maybe getting a roommate or staying with friends. No more stay at home mom life. Get as many jobs as is necessary. It's going to be incredibly hard. But, she built a house on a rotten foundation. She did this. No one else. Radical change is called for. And she has to do it. There is NO way to move forward like this.

Im so heartbroken yet frustrated by the first caller 😥 I appreciate how much empathy dr John has cus GIRL. Stop using having children as a bandaid solution, hoping it will make this man change. Both of them are in their fantasy worlds 😭

This is called 'emotional cheating', understand that this is cheating all the same

First caller... Get a job divorce him life will be hard but you will have your freedom. Life is not easy for anyone.
Or...
Suck it up... stay with him raise the children but I don't advise that because it's a very bad example for the children....
He loves someone else not you... I'm so sorry.

Oh Ashley why did you continue to have kids with this man that has zero respect for you. Put the trash out girl, you can start over. He does not deserve you.

It's so hard to hear women in these situations unwilling to leave.

Narcissist to the max!!! They switch back and forth to confuse you to the point of you completely losing yourself. Why doesn’t John say that? So freaking obvious!

If they go to therapy he’s going to make her look like the problem and not change. Narcissists don’t change but they can sure manipulate well 😡😤

He sounds emotionally abusive to me. And she was in a place to not be able to stand up for herself. She needs professional help. And get strong enough to leave.

I know some people say “don’t blame the other woman/man” BUT THEY ALSO MADE THE CHOICE TO WEASLE THEIR WAY INTO THE MARRIAGE AND DESTROY IT WITH NO RESPECT

1st caller: please run, run away! That man does not deserve you! Run away, heal, be near your family and fall inlove with yourself first then with someone who values you and never look back 🙏🏽

He's got both feet out the door. Always has.

He's just ready for sex again! Truth spoken 😊

Stop having babies with a man that doesn’t have any respect for you!!!! Wake up!!!!

I used to like listening to this guy, but I find he can be pretty insensitive. Laughing at people’s pain? Telling his sound engineer she’s old? Very disrespectful. This woman is quite clearly married to a covert narcissist and it’s not her fault. He shouldn’t be giving her false hope this relationship will work. It won’t. I’m not watching this guy’s vids anymore, really bad for a person who came out of an ab*sive relationship.

New to you, that was an uncomfortable odd opening

He thinks she's STUCK & she needs to show him she's NOT!! I'd be really surprised if there wasn't abuse. Also that's the kinda story where wife ends up dead b5 hubby or lover.

"Tyler, take a deep breath!"
Tyler does not have any time left for a deep breath :(

I know once children are here, they are a blessing you wouldn’t trade for the world. That said, when you are in a relationship that is not a healthy, loving, committed one between two people of maturity and character, there should be NOTHING more important on the planet to you than NOT getting pregnant again, period. All these poor children in these crappy situations because adults are not prioritizing their wellbeing above all else. It’s rampant and maddening and heartbreaking.

She got a shut up ring and she's never been his priority. I would never allow such disrespect. So she put a boundary and he disrespected it. Also stop having kids with an unstable person. You can't forced anybody to love you. The poor kids aswell...

Trouble is the kids know more than she thinks affecting them too ,personally I would be seeking pr efessionals now,he doesn't want to talk after 12years ,he never will,he's had his own way for too long.🤔

It sounds like the first caller is with a man who has BPD.

They dated for 10 years for a reason, she was a placeholder while he held out for his ex. He gave in and married her when he realized she was the best he was going to get until his ex comes around.

1st caller- girlllll😂. Let him go be with her since that's what he want to do.
Edit-he breaks up with you regularly
No ma'am
You need to work on getting a job, even if it's a stay at home job.
He tries to run over you cause he pays the bills.
Get your power back.
Im not saying divorce him
But u gotta get things on track.

I once met a woman from Europe whose father had left her mother after 25 years of marriage. He left her for a woman who had dumped him prior to him marrying her mom. What makes it worse he named his first daughter after this woman. This crap happens.

Ladies - Have standards & boundaries…it will weed out losers immediately & save you from years of heartache! Or just stay single & work on yourself & your own finances!

Deloney: PLEASE do an entire episode about how dangerous it is for women to be SAHM without a Plan B.
I realize there are a lot of Christians who listen, and they enjoy the "traditional" lifestyle.
But women who agree to this without having a hefty savings account IN THEIR NAME ONLY, are risking destituton or worse.
They also need their own retirement savings plan....IN THEIR NAME ONLY. They are not contributing to Social Security if they are not "employed".
PLEASE DO A SHOW ABOUT THIS.

First love theory!

Some men NEVER get over theirs! And they would RUN to them if given the chance.