How to break out of your shell more

I took an Improv class last week and he is right I felt a change in me after that class

this is something I always had a theory in my mind that it's true, and I lived my life by it!

so glad I was right!! ❤

Long story short, go to improv classes

Around Corona and the time I got into Uni, I noticed that I changed drastically in how extraverted I was. I always thought I was just introverted and that it was how it was. But in Uni, I only knew 2 people who were my close friends, and I realized that I could basically be whoever I wanted, maybe if I wasn't fully aware of it in the first place. I also started going out more by myself, and it really did help. A lot of people I haven't seen in like 5 years barely remember me sometimes.

yooooo this is unbelievabley relateble

A new environment may be needed if it's toxic sure, but running away from your problems won't fix anything. It'll help in the short term but it all comes back. Work on where you are right now

Wait shit I really needed this idea thank you

Wasted two minutes of my life

If a shell is something given to you by others as would be suggested then nothing here is of value. The solution is: wear a new shell. What a useless and inaccessible piece of advice

Idk but i find this mans speach so relatable as if my inner voice or thoughts was being exposed!

Very eye opening. Thank you so much. Only i can pull myself out of this mold. Maybe i need to travel more.

Hes basically talking about how white people are ignorant about Asians.

His speaking style is so captivating with all the gestures and perfect pauses 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Bro switched school to find a girlfriend

That's really a game changing life tip ✨ Thank you for sharing your experience, and genuinely I was experiencing the same thing and now I know what exactly to do. Subscribing your channel is one of my best decisions I've made ✨🤌.

I was so afraid of basic social interaction in my old school and what helped me was the change of schools

Truly relatable Jennifer my crush

The opposite can be true too. If you don't put in effort when you go to a new environment you can end up worse than in the old one.

Another thing that helps A LOT in this situation is the Law 25 of the book 📕 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene , thank me later.

To me changing schools was the opposite. I had to start all over again to make connections which as an introvert it depressed me. I stopped worrying about “having friends” and started to nurture the few relationships I already had including my personal relationship with Christ. Get to know yourself. Try new, different, and even challenging things. God will bring to your life those that will bless you and you will bless them as well.

Can I just say that you're being used by God to speak to me and I'm so thankful thank you

Okay, I will now abandon everyone I know to go to a “new environment”.

I had a interesting experience for 3 days a couple months back, where noone knew me, and there is like if i was a completely different person

Now i know why

U say again and again the name of the person who asked the question....so as to make conversation more like a one on one and then people will hear more carefully...I guess or maybe I'm wrong

Masculine men are the strong silent type. Being extremely talkative is feminine. Rule #4 of the 48 laws of power "always say less than necessary".

You’re smart with your examples Vinh. Everyone can relate, included me.
I was fat back then at junior grades school. When I moved to a new senior grade school that a bit far away from my neighborhood. I was running and swimming the whole summer just to fix my weight with the hope of being a completely new me and impress the girls.
It worked eventually. After that I realized things limit me is 99% myself.

Well l have a pretty same story as his . But the difference is l chose not to get out of my mold because l was tired of being pushed back . Today l remain as a lonely , people hater with f up life and see no way to imrpove it 😂

There's something something about his voice. I like it.

That part about moving school speaks so true to me because it’s what I did, no one knew who I was so I tried to be someone new and it worked. He’s speaking 100% facts

I like how it wasn't a tip, it was somethign actionable with large effects. Improv class sounds great but it cost money. Sadly everything costs money. Happily, you can achieve anything with money and time and work. So all you have to do is choose.

This was exactly the same for me when i left school for sixth form. All i meeded was that new environment

I did an outbound course, basically breaking the ice course for 2 days and I realised that me being serious and honest all the time is really funny for others and that's how I broke out of my shell

Well did you get a girlfriend in new school

Honestly that what made me stuck in middle scholl ppl were there that know my history of ppl in elementary scholl tryong to bully me so i reacted with pure violence cuz thing were never resolves so i become feared and hated
So in middle scholl i have spoken to someone in my scholl a single word only in some spaces out of scholl i could make friend or speak with confident even when 95% of the scholl didnt know me high scholl was a better time made a lot of friends

This is exactly what I thought back then when I was around 13 (I'm 19). People already had the image of my younger self being "extremely shy" and tried to make me play with kids and be involved in their, in my view, stupid, disrespectful, boring, judging people, etc conversations. Teachers have been the most hypocrite about this, when they thought I was shy and when I was finally showing I was just normal. (I was not shy, but Introverted and asocial) When I was quiet, they insisted me to talk, when I was talking, they insisted me to shut up in a very rude way (ah, but if people talked louder even shouting, the teachers would respectfully ask them to be quiet?
The more of a good person you're in people's eyes, the more they treat you bad and rude when you make a mistake, but when others are basically immature/disrespectful they just try to ask nicely.

People just have already an impression of you. That's the problem. I wished many times back then to just move to another school.

before I clicked I thought it was gonna be self-helpish advice, but it turns out to be quite useful and genuine advice, good job!

That French fry joke was actually decent… (I’m a dad)

I was outing for some cliche advice, but nice story with an actionable step will definitely give this a try

MY first video of yours and I`m already hooked. You are hilarious and phenomenal ♥️🔥🤗 Proud of you

This is the best advice I've ever heard. I always wondered why it got easier after I left school. I was the one who'd rather say nothing than say the wrong thing. Got the nickname "Mr Personality", such was the severity of my anxiety.

But even at 18, thrust into new, extremely daunting situations during an involuntary gap year, I was a completely different person compared to who I was at school. I was the youngest person at an Army officer assessment programme, asked to lead a bunch of wannabe officers older than me with years more life experience on a group task. Given 30 seconds notice on a topic to present in front of everyone for exactly 2 full minutes (easily the most nerve-wracking thing I've ever done).

I was given great marks on everything except my fitness, which had slipped in my time off. Even cracked a few jokes and led conversations at the bar on the final night. Very surreal and jarring experience.

TL:DR - I've experienced this first hand, it works.

You don't need to do improv. Even doing a new job/hobby puts you in a new environment. Apply to things in customer service, do the haunted house one year, tour guides, working with kids, working as a waitress/host, tutoring in college etc. Just make sure the environment is one where you're actually interacting with people and getting out of your comfort zone. Hobbies are great for this also.

so like.. "be fake"?

He reminds me of Jacob Collier for some reason

I came to this exact conclusion by myself before watching the video, and watching this speaker summarise all my thoughts of the past couple of months in this video is brilliant. I am popular at my school and I have a lot of friends, but there are almost too many preconceptions about me that are too late to break : I am the typical funny guy but the byproduct of that is people not taking me seriously at all I’m just constantly the joker and I hate that. I think a new school is just what I need, I’ll see my current friends from time to time when I want some fun, but I’ll meet new and ambitious ones at a new school.

Why tf cant u see the camera in the reflection?

Looking for gf at 12?! At that age I ignored them

That is liquid gold my friend, liquid gold

I have a habit of making sure I'm putting MYSELF in a mold.
Sometimes my friends would want me to do something but I always say no because "It doesn't fit the character I've been assigned to. It'd be so cringe seeing me suddenly do that."
I'm an incredibly shy girl, I've always been and I remember not wanting to go to our school dance not because I didn't like it or I couldn't dance, but because it'd be weird seeing the quiet girl thats usually by herself in a corner at school suddenly bussing it down on the dance floor.

I have a HUGE fear of embarrassment and especially CRINGE so I over-analyse my every movements so my 'character' doesnt do something cringy and out of script. (Its like an actor trying to unsolicitedly add improv to the scene but its completely weird and out-of-place.)

Do we have improv class or something in India? Never heard of it. I guess I have to find people online and get out of my shell😂