How to Stop Ruminating and Overcome Social Anxiety

Honestly the more I successfully take steps to improve my life (and so the value I provide myself) even if it is something small I typically feel much more and am more social after. current working theory is I need to provide value for/invest in myself in order to feel secure in relation to others. Might sound obvious but I'm interested to see how it plays out should I follow through.

I have come to the point where my anxiety makes me feel like I'm unlikable. I've been working on it, and pushing myself helps a lot.

I like to think of my social anxiety as a level 10 boss that I’ve been trying to destroy for 17 years and all the methods I’ve been trying haven’t been working. But I am gonna work on it and im gonna work on it until I have beaten the level 10 boss.I’ve been going to therapy since childhood. I recently switched therapists and he’s been helping me more than my last therapist. We get a long great

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his teeth is so white that it looks like his shirt is clipping through his neck and into his mouth

The answer is "yes" in both cases, because you're focused on yourself entirely and not paying attention to what other people are saying. Which devalues them.

Doubly so if it's male not listening to female.

Rumination is slowly killing me. I don't know how normal people go about their lives without thinking and analyzing constantly.

Really good video....thanks.

Good Video

Yo your on point thank you so much

Bruhhh, I’m done with this disorder man. Always stressed af

I always go in to these thought loops for stuff that happened in my childhood... thinking "if only I had done X Y Z...ect maybe my life would be different" then I explore all the different paths my life could have taken. and if I would be better off.

为什么会这样

生命没有意义

Rumination is insane. You feel hyper yet anxious yet angry yet sad yet empty. It feels obsessive and makes you feel exhausted afterwards.

It honestly feels embarrassing to be stuck in the loop in the first place once you've been told of the route cause, it makes you wonder why the brain does the things it does.

Okay I'll try to get down to the root cause
I feel social anxiety because
I'm scared of embarrassing myself
I'm scared of looking stupid
I want to look cool and not make a fool of myself
Because I want people to like me
Because I feel like people will think that I'm uncool if I fumble or make a mistake.
Because I keep referring to memories of me being clumsy and immediately being stared at
Being clumsy, making mistakes and being stared at confirms my beliefs that I'm stupid
I don't want to be stupid because if I'm stupid then I won't be able to succeed in life
If I don't succeed in life then I might as well end it now lmao
How am I supposed to fix this

My issue with this is, what if you ARE boring/annoying? Then isn't the ruminating necessary to try fix it