To overcome challenges, stop comparing yourself to others | Dean Furness

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My biggest trap and anxiety is just how other people are doing compared to me. How much money they're making, how much newer their car is, how much more satisfied they are with their lives than I am with mine, meanwhile just in the last 5 years I have made such astronomical progress in my career, annual salary, living situation, friend group and vices, that I would be unrecognizable to me 5 years ago. And yet, that nagging voice in the back of my head telling me "other people my age make twice as much as you and work half as many hours, you need to be better, buy a nicer truck, buy a house and not live in an apartment, because that's what everyone else is doing, and the world is leaving you behind.' Meanwhile, reality.

Dont Comparing Yourself To Others.

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I keep comparing myself on the basis of social connections. I was always a loner I didnt have many friends. The school I went to for 12 years I only have abt 4 friends from and afterward I went to another school hoping I'd make connections and friends and I didnt. And I always wonder why I wasnt good enough in both places I was never in much groups and now i dont get invited to bday parties. Even my recent bday an important one I didnt have any friends to invite. and now I see kids from those past schools celebrating their bdays I wish I cld have smthing like that I wish I was invited at least. Idk I'm never good engh

This video come to me at perfect time
I'm finally taking my life seriously
And training to make something of myself
And this is exactly what I needed to hear

All the power to you my friend. Although I don’t know you, the purpose and point of your speech and presentation put life in general into a very interesting, and motivational perspective. The initial incident was traumatic, but what makes your life transition radical is that you actually became better at all aspects of life even more than before the accident. The revelation that I learned from you was that you didn’t focus on the nature of how you travel, or ambulate but on what you can accomplish now. The outcomes then present on you being able to travel faster, become an exceptional athlete, great father, great husband and being an inspiration to everyone without regard to who they are. Look at how many people you are reaching! You’re accomplishing more after the incident than possibly you or most people would have ever imagined. Thank you.

I love people like him. Really inspiring

what a beautiful speech!

Anytime I have compared myself to other people, I have felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon! 🏃‍♂🏃🏃‍♀

thief is the comparison of joy
steal as much as you can

asian parents: heretic!

If you compare yourself to others you are disrespecting yourself

I am really struggling with comparing myself with other which make me feel anxious and self doubt.🥲

Thank you, Dean; I needed to hear this today.

My depression and frustration was gone, its really true that comparison is the thief of all joy, when I was in my college years I always compare myself to others, till I was graduated, its impossible to focus on your goals if you have that kind of toxic mindset, not only you but from on your family environment, we know there are some people also that compare you to others and it can put yourself down if you listen to them. Advice also can led to comparing that is why I dont listen to any advise anymore except that person more successful than everyone.

That was awful

Thank you for sharing

Jealously had taken me hostage since i was 7 i think... idk something mad

Dean Furness explains to us from his experience how important it is to focus on ourselves when it comes to fighting against the obstacles that we have in many moments of our lives. In order to overcome the obstacles, it is important to quickly turn the page on everything that torments us because in the preparation process there will be bad days that will affect us a lot, but the important thing is not to lose focus on the way. For example, Dean, in order to increase his physical dexterity, does not he should focus on his disability but focus on his goal and all the hours of training he needed before going to a competition. At the end of everything, life is a struggle with ourselves to be better every day.

Love how he said he had to let go of who he was before the accident. I REALLY needed to hear this...I deal with depression and frequently think about "what could've been" with my goals and thinking about life before I was diagnosed. Now I just need to focus on little accomplishments today, and what I want to do tomorrow.

Bro why y'all be acting like its so easy smh bro like it ain't just some switch that u can flip 😤😤😤😤😤😤

Thank you darling heart 🙏💚🌟🌈

Basically gaslight yourself into thinking reality is bs and keep telling yourself that somebody being more capable/talented/intelligent/beautiful/rich doesn't make them more valuable.

Thank you so much, Mr. Dean! for this inspiration. "Everybody here has something that they're fighting and it may be visible, it may not be, but please take some time and focus on you instead of others and I bet you can win those challenges and really start accomplishing so many great things." great advice and life lesson!

you changed me

The concept of control has always fascinated me. Literature has always stated that we control our own destinies, our thoughts and feelings. Yet, I see examples everyday of how stimuli from the world can be so sudden, so extreme, our body just reacts with what comes naturally. So, is it up to us, our control, if we are walking down the street, on our way to an important meeting at work, and we get a call that our mother has died? Are we not part of a dynamic that is part cause and effect? Internal and external? If it was solely up to us to control something? Than not a single human being would act against their own self interest and cause any sort of suffering to begin with.

Thank you so much

He is such a huge inspiration I hope to become like him one day

tracking workouts has been the most effective way for me to keep motivated - it allows you to have an objective view of your performance instead of relying on subjective self evaluation, which for many people, is very critical

This comparison has literally killed me

Thank You.

I struggle with anxiety and constantly compare myself to others. I’m not doing so well at work lately and I have a friend who breaks her neck to tell me how well she is doing and I don’t know how to tell her that while I am pleased for her it makes me feel like a failure as I am no where near. I know I need to work on myself as I am running my own race but can’t help compare myself.

The fragility of the human body if we had nerves going throughout the body it would’ve been a different story

Thank you your shares, me too, I am a average person, I always compare me with others, and can't concentrate on yourself but I was understand, i will try to complete myself.

Thanks for this ❤

I needed to hear this

FREAKING LEGEND

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My mother is suck,they always compare me to other

I will give you the answer of how to measure your success, whatever your condition is. Prophet Muhammad(saw) had answer it 1400 years ago." In Islam your success depend on how much you are pious to Allah"

"Life is not a race, you're not living to defeat others, you're not here to be the best of all the people because there is no best in anything, You are here to be the best version of yourself, The only person you should try to defeat is who you were yesterday."

This was amazing

god will not leave you nor for sake you because they have care that you are alone

dont waste your enjoyment just keep continuing what god gave you and be happy with it and accept it

no matter what life have to come just keep open minded and use a positive attributes to overcome this situation

if you comparing your self to other you will not see your self trought and you forgot to do things and happines in your life will fading out because you comparing your self to others instead of enjoying everything and to be greatful of what you have and be contented they listen to the dark side thats why they dont really hapoy or satisfied what of what they have we all know that we are born in different style of humanity and not the same so dont expect a comaprison and dont look to others what they achieve or what they have done to instead of doing that just focus on your self improvement and do all your best to be successful and be a supportive sibbling