My Girlfriend Is Extremely Controlling (Help!)

This is a miss. She's trying to control the things she can control. If she's chronically ill/disabled and if she's doing the improve/decline/improve/decline shuffle, it's exhausting. It's not at all uncommon to see people with these struggles react by trying to control any and everything else. It's not for "no logical reason". -And none of that is an excuse to be crappy to your partner, but in my experience it is a reason.

Young men - stop playing house, stop getting loans/mortgages together, no cosign credit cards, and focus on your growth.

Do that, become a catch yourself, and you'll find yourself a quality woman.

Break up with her if she won't agree to couples counselling. If you marry her, it's only going to get worse.

John won’t tell you to leave but boy I’m saying RUN

Run. Don’t build with Toxic People.

Sounds like this guy is about to pay the stupid tax LOL

Kyle: D T M F A
Move on, free yourself. Enough is enough.

What does he mean by “Im not allowed to” X, Y or Z? What does he mean by “she doesn’t want to sell the car”? This is the land of the free and the home of the brave, for crying out loud.I’d sell the car from under her, pack up and leave. She seems to be a physical and mental wreck who is in no position to boss around anybody. The opposite is true, she should be put in her place (see selling the car and moving out above).
This is why it’s a huge mistake to move in with somebody you’re not married to, in which case you don’t have a choice anymore. Were they living apart there would be no ackward packing up and leaving, he could just call her or, better yet, text her to tell her “I’m out. Goodbye, fare thee well."

NARCISSIST

Just wanted to thank you for helping me. The first video I saw of yours was about the adult male who was groomed or SA by his cousin. Something similiar happened to me. I hope that guy is doing well today I could relate to everything he said.

Huge warning signs. Break up with her now. If she does not want to sell the car then give it to her if she takes out a loan in her name to pay off the one that he is primary on. If she does not want to do that then you sell because you are the primary. She clearly has reasoning and logic issues which be an issue later on the relationship. I think he just wants permission to break up because of her mental & physical challenges.

Run young man, run. A ring won’t make these problems disappear.

Dude you're miserable. Also she appears to be isolating you, and encroaching on all of your territory.

Hon my therapist told me to seek freedom

You are a Kyle! Grab that monster, slap the hat back, find ur foot and put it down!

this was just one side of the story, so it is a little speculative to suggest one way or the other. It takes two to tango....

Run! Move out of state. Leave when shes at work or at doctor's office. Leave with just the clothes on your back if you have to. Dont let your family know where you are for a while. She'll harass them. This woman will make your life a living hell for the rest of your life if you dont escape.

Yeah, i was taught to treat women right but not to be treated right by women .

Hard lesson to learn at first.

Far too many of us look back on relationships we've been in and wonder "Why didn't I just leave the second xyz happened?" Hopefully this young man will get out sooner rather than later

I mean, you have the option to break up

Title is 'my Girlfriend HAS BECOME controlling'.

Sounds to me like the Girlfriend IS controlling. yikes

If he leaves he will find another like her or worse.😮

90% of women are superficial and gold diggers and mentally unstable. Society is producing trashy women!

When someone drives me nuts, I just disappear one night and never come back! Toxic people everywhere!

ALL men need to learn to never mix finances with any woman! You have your account, she has her own, and then you agree to middle shares account ONLY for agreed upon equal amount to put in per month. If she wipes it out then she has to dig into her own pockets and pay Bill's if she has no ability to be frugal!

If your not married and don't have kids then RUN as fast as you can

A relationship should rely on trust. Been with my husband for 17 years and I trust him with anything. He can play his games after a long day of work, he can hang with his friends without me calling every half hour, he can help women who need help, I trust him 100% so therefore I don't worry, don't tell him what to do, or who he can talk too. Because of trust we are still together stronger than ever and are HAPPY. No one should control u this is your life and u should live it how you want to.

- "I don't know if I should leave "
- Run

Control root is Anxiety

Nope. She's miserable and wants you to be miserable too.

I always wonder how things last this long, for me I sniff out these characteristics after a few weeks. Control comes from insecurity, but it’s not your job to fix anyone.

You leave her, that easy. Ain’t no woman EVER gonna say I can’t see my family, fk that. There are literally MILLIONS of women, bro, GTFO.

I m a woman and my advice is : run for your life!!!!!

Narcissism and co dependence go hand and hand. Controlling behavior indicates insecurity. Bye!

Decide what you need and what is important to you. How is it going to be around you?. Tell her and hold 100% fast to yourself. She will either sober up and come around or you will separate but you will own you place in the world and be proud of yourself and grow!

RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN

My x was also very controlling 😢

Run

You need to get out of this relationship, you marry her and you will be miserable and grow to hate her

Run!!!!!

The words “I’m not allowed“ stood out like a red flag. Is she his mother? Is he her child ?get the hell out

P-whipped...

He wants out and is calling Delony for permission to leave the girlfriend.

It's not that he's "not allowed" to see his family but that she's asking they synchronize their visits to their respective families. Sounds reasonable to me. It's not that he's "not allowed" to see his friends, but that she's lonely in a state where she has no friends yet and he's leaving her alone for evenings out with his drinking buddies.

Do the woman and yourself a favour, and break up, move out, let be.

John needs to say straight up LEAVE. this is not going to get better EVER

You need a partner. Team mate. Someone who can do this with you, not a dependent who can't step up.

my god just leave her

Dr. John your gender bias is frustrating to me. If this was a woman you would have BEGGED her to leave. Why treat a man differently? He’s being abused, period.

Kyle is paying a stupid tax left & right. Stop getting stressed over what someone else is doing, start asking yourself why you keep allowing it.
Two wrongs breaking up can make it right.

Wise words: cheaper than a divorce.
If its not going right, it wont get better. Walk away and pay the stupid tax.

“I will go see my family whenever I so choose, if you want to be an overbearing mother, you can see your way out the door.”