5 SIGNS YOU ARE A MASCULINE WOMAN: Sis You Give Off Too Much Masculine Energy l LUCY BENSON

If you want a feminine man who will cry all day, not provide, protect or lead you by all means be a masculine boss bitch because that’s what you will attract. I’m a man and I promise you the biggest turn off for me and every guy I’ve asked is a loud aggressive woman who “don’t need no man” men especially men that women want will not accept that kind of masculine energy it’s just such a huge turn off. Period 💁‍♀️ lol

Me being a hard nigga cause I gotten mental abuse psychical abuse

God bless you so much for this ❤

As much as I would love to agree. Relying on a man is intended for marriage, women nowadays are trying to find a provider and a protecter in a boyfriend. A relationship of balance and reliance on each other is only found in marriages. If you try to find this in a sexually driven relationship or a situation-ship it's just not going to work for you. Hookup culture and 'playing house' has been extremely normalized and women try to find husbands in boyfriends, keyword, *boy*. If you view dating from a stance of courtship/preparation for marriage it will really guide you so that you truly enter your femininity. Planning dates is not a masculine thing, I would love to treat my husband to an amazing date, I don't think that is 'masculine.' If you are dating, you are not married, you need to split the bill. If you can't even be committed to splitting a $40 dollar lunch its honestly a red flag. I have an older brother and I wouldn't want a woman treating him like a husband when he is her boyfriend. Obviously I expect him to care for her, and he knows to do that because he takes great care of me as his little sister, but I don't support women using men to get an easy life. You can't desire a high value man when you don't really have any value other than being pretty.

I am a competitive athlete, a huge portion of my life is training and staying physically fit. Being an athlete doesn't make a girl less feminine. I love my femininity and just love being a girl! But something I prefer as a man that is in physical shape. I train 2-3 times a day, five days a week, with matches on the weekends. I just don't want a man that doesn't prioritize healthful living and exercise :)

Being independent and making a living for yourself is not masculine! I have so many women in my life that are very successful that are so incredibly feminine, beautiful, amazing wives and mothers, etc. It's really all about personality and your environment! I have met women that want men to carry them on their backs, and they are some of the most aggressive people I know. It's really about your inner self and your character!!

Be an honest person with all situations in life.

BE HUMBLE ALWAYS IN LIFE!

Unfortunately I have to hustle, so when men don’t want to add to my life any value I see it is a really really gross thing and I don’t think that I have time for people like that in my life have a blessed one

Thank you❤

This was so helpful 🙏🏽

What the hell is masculine energy?

men just don't know how to be the men so im taking both hats

I experience the ones that would take advantage of my feminine energy. What if someone has masculine energy but is used to older women and wants you to lead? In my current situation, I'm extraordinarily feminine and fragile. The guy I'm dating is masculine but seems reserved. Hell, text/call if I don't. He asked if he could kiss me. Career-oriented and absolute boss at work. When I mentioned it to him, I felt like he was not that into me. He's kike how I waited for five years for you and traveled 4 hours. He gives off weird, confusing energy. Does anyone have any thoughts? He is zodiac is cancer July 12 of that mean anything. I’m a Leo.

Masculine women are complete and utterly disgusting. Like...NO.

Wonder if a feminine woman has a dad she can go home to untill her man gets invested enough and old enough. Ill I've ever had is myself and disappointment and help sometimes but never an interest in my life never sharing any joy. I think because I'm tall and masculine looking I don't inspire any men to care for me. But being single if I start losing weight I get stared at too much and its scary..I'm old enough now where I know I will cease to be interesting looking to anyone and that makes me sad but I'm also very relieved.

Thank you for this

Ooh thank you for this video

How does this ideology fit in with a relationship where a woman has her own place , has a full time job/paying all of her bills and the man still lives with his parents and tries to control her ???

STFU with that Sis shit.

This is helpful

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This is so me i need to work on myself!!!👌🏾✨️

I’m starting my feminine journey now. I literally do everything myself as it stands now am exhausted. I struggled asking for help. Even when am in a relationship I pay all my bills.

I grew up watching my mom do everything herself.

Yesss 🎉🎉🎉

So so helpful , thank you❤❤❤

Sometimes when you are working for a better life- you can’t help to activate your masculine energy

I've been in my masculine energy for the past 12 years. It all started when I didn't feel safe in my home environment. I felt I had to start providing for myself at a young age and that I could only trust/rely on myself. There was never any time for play, fun or being creative. I was constantly in fight or flight mode, exhausting my body from working long hours, everything became about my survival and the need to prove my worth to everyone around me. Eventually as I neglected my feminine side, my physical body manifested an auto-immune condition to show me it wasn't in a state of happiness. I also manifested relationships where I felt like I constantly had to be in control because I didn't trust the man in my life to step up. I would always be the one to plan and initiate contact, and this caused my confidence to drop as it lead me to wonder what in the world do I need to do to just have a man lead for once? I realized it was all because of my energy, that I was constantly chasing and pursuing and didn't allow myself to just sit back, trust and allow things to unfold. After all these years, I'm learning to lean back, come back into self love and give myself permission to have fun, enjoy life, have a softer approach and lead with my heart. To do things that truly make me happy and avoid creating a life experience that society expects because boy did I have to de-program myself!

i like this lady!

Is it just me that loves masculine girls 🙂

Wtf so your money is your money and his money is your money too? 😂😂 yea ok

im not interested in dating especially men i want to be independent so im definitely masculine and thats okay with me as long as i keep the positive aspects of it. and i also like mens clothes

That used to be me 100%. I've learned my lesson

I'm married, but I don't think I will ever get married again if I ever get divorced.

I agree sis but men tell women they want an independent woman. Sometimes the problem is them and much of the men these days act like women. On the dating sites many guy state they want a woman to make the moves. So it all depends...many of us were taught we have to be strong because our fathers were lazy or left.

I don’t know if this is the right channel to ask this but would this work in lesbian relationships? Is the “man” considered to be the more masculine woman so she has to always chase and lead and pay?

Love this, thank you!!❤

Masculine energy stems from
Survival. Is it possible to be feminine while in survival? I don’t think so

He's given me SEVERE PTSD.
I have debilitating paralyzing daily panic attacks.
He raped my soul.
He used me while he needed me
and then discarded me like garbage.
My soul is raped.

When he'd get mad/upset/hurt/whatever:
he'd give me the silent treatment.

REMINDER TO SELF:
Reasons for narcissistic silent treatment:
* Stonewalling
* Gaslighting
* Emotional immaturity
* Lack of interpersonal skill
* Victimhood
* Dysregulation
* Avoidant attachment style
* Doing to me, what was done to him
* Terrified of conflict
* Not knowing any other way
* Fear/panic/anxiety/terror
* Felling incapable/not good enough
* Desperation
* Power over
* Regaining a (false) sense of control
* Punishment

EVEN STILL, regardless of the above,
I miss him and what we had,
our friendship, our connection:
WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING.

But he never really cared about me.
He used me and discarded me.
Replaced me so easily.

Why is she better than me? Why?
What makes her so much more profoundly better than me?

Is he her best friend now?
Or maybe is there even more between them?

Why couldn't he love me like he loves her?
Is there something wrong with me?
Is she just so much better?

He's replaced me with another.
In an instant: just like that.
HE REPLACED ME.
HE SHATTERED MY HEART.
HE RAPED MY SOUL.
I'm all alone and suffering in anguish,
and they are living happily ever after together.

The PTSD and the loneliness and the grief that he's given me...
Makes it so that I can't breathe.
I drowned. I suffocate. I die inside.
I'm in hell with no escape.
NO ESCAPE.
I need him.
I loved him.
He raped my soul:
brutally viciously violently maliciously.
Every night: nightmares.
Every day: panic attacks.
I want to die.

Every morning I wake up in despair,
desperately praying to die.
I can no longer bear the pain.
I could die from the pain of missing my best friend.
He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage.
My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend.

I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing...
I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear.
I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified.

I'm dying inside. My soul is raped.
He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe!
How and when will I ever heal?

God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief,
I pray you guide me and direct me and hold me and heal me...

I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough!!!
It's time to be free: in Jesus's name!
I’m giving my life to Jesus! 100%!

ANOTHER REMINDER TO SELF:
When you chase a man,
you NEVER get the man,
and you ALWAYS lose yourself!

(PROVERBS 18:22
I FAITHFULLY PRAY
FOR THE HUSBAND
GOD HAS ORDAINED FOR ME!)

no women is masculine everything we women too is feminine to you know why WE ARE BORN WOMEN stop this nonsens

Nicki.......♐🦄

This is a beautiful message. I believe women have become masculine because Men have become lazy and left everthing for the women to do. Women will come back to femininity when men will assume their responsibility. I was dating a guy who was always asking me from me, like literally all the time. I was shy to ask him money and all but he was comfortable asking me for money all the time even his laundry he wanted me to wash it for him. Nowadays men have become sugar boys

Sometimes the Animus if the psyche is actually a survival tactic in a patriarchal society and at the gym and as far as the women in both branches of our tree? All ox, no cows. But what we make up for is a great deal in our tenacity and we balance the brain - brawn mentality much better than someone who still might look to chivalry as a way out of growing from and in a relationship. Sadly, I'm a Wikipedia and have asd so the male brain is...and the hyperfocus fast paced speech. Millennial woes, here. If my father for instance; a boomer says I talk too much and guys don't like that, and if you have a medical condition where talk is therapy for specific reasons connected to a prior health condition ( so talking means I'm not feverish with a flu or having organ failure, the only times I claim up) an area of expression should not define that you MUST change for that person. It would be like ripping out a part of yourself and it is painful to me😢. So what about men who don't confront you but if they try and your speech is as lengthy as this lovely message box of questions, then is it possible to have that opportunity? Are new habits needed? Or even so. The new gender diagrams such with a sexually ( on the spectrum it can be a bit similar) or not understanding basic cues, naivety. So....wjat can you say to the idea if a deep connection might benefit over the idea of a one night or an experience or blind date scenario. With aspies, this is key to most that there is a bond before you transition into a feeling of feeling inflexible or uncomfortable. Such as a bar or a book store, once again...cues matter. And if you are a walking bookworm, can it be the personality of the man if they seem turned off or if you have to make the first move? Most online dating takes away from this one on one dynamic, so what is a curious George like me to expect but travel the world until that palmistry expert from a community event in the spring of 2022 GASP*....VERY FAST PACED, Comes out to be right that a bond has to be deep and nothing insincere? Any thoughts?

A sexual is the term it cut off, I apologize.

Woman have had to become more masculine because men have become less masculine. Sad. Woman have had to become sole providers and protecters and have very little time for themselves and have become used to being in control and being able to find solutions to problems so this causes the woman to feel she can't can't trust the men she dates and ends up being told she is not feminine enough. :( also abuse against woman has become uncontrollable making the trust issue even worse. I think men should show us we are safe to be our full feminine selves... lead us and we will follow.

Where you spend your money?

It’s unfortunate that most women cannot lay back because we are with the wrong men who do not want to take the lead so in turn we have to be successful not to compete but to provide for ourselves. It took such a long time to realize that my intention was not wrong. That I was indeed with the wrong person. I had a guy told me before my last relationship that I was the most “girly” meaning feminine woman he ever met. I had to tuck her away because I was really with someone that kept me in a masculine energy.

Very helpful. I think a glaring missing component at least in USA culture is that pretty much since Gen X and younger -men are not reared on how to take the lead. Too many of them are raised solely by women and then for this same generation the women were pushed into extreme independence. Also so many men today of these generations literally get jealous of women who are high earners and doing well. The other missing component is that when the traditional roles of men and women have been shifted but no solid “rules” have been established many men don’t know where they fit and as women we don’t know how to balance this new playing field with old school romance. But overall I agree with all of your tips.

Though I agree with what you said, I don't think a woman should approach a man to express interest. He should, in my opinion, show you that he likes you and initiate contact before the lady expresses interest in him as well. I vehemently disagree when women want guys to marry them. My male friend's brother had feelings for his present wife. Although he was still in the early stages of his job, he still intended to pop the question to her and wanted to make sure she got the ring when she eventually did. People will remark, "Well, that worked." You must realize that he intended to pop the question to the love of his life. It ultimately succeeded since this was what he desired. He still thinks that his wife stole the opportunity to arrange his proposal, and he wishes she had allowed him to do so. She is unaware of his feelings, but his brother and I are aware of them.

I am on my feminine journey but I keep making the mistake of not letting him lead. When he clearly has a plan and my interest at heart, i still keep proposing ideas how to do it!! Why

Are you also promoting that exposing your breast is feminine?

There was one guy that helped me realize I waa controlling. And it stemmed from having a father that was in his feminine. So from a young age I was forced into a masculine role and thrived. A decade later, at the age of 28, im mentally and emotionally exhausted and want nothing more than to be soft and lean into my feminine. It’s difficult but I am slowly changing so that I can be at peace and attract a masculine man I can submit to.