Don't Give Up! Why You're Really Feeling Discouraged - Askdan

great advise i will try to apply your suggestions to my life

I'm watching this i been feeling discourged lately
I'm 17 years old in high schools and I get discourged easily by hearing about people my age doing things I can't (play an instruament, play sports, and being really smart). I'm also easily discourged by how people in AP are smart than me. I'm a really hard working person when I put my into it, but AP students mange to remind me on how dumb I am.

I've been pursing music for 7 years. I've poured time, courage, money, sweat and tears into it. The whole experience has shaped me into a whole new person. Now I'm feeling like I've gotten nowhere and I'm contemplating quitting. I feel really discouraged and I'm really sad about it.

Thanks for this video. So many of the things you said resonated with me. Disappointment and discouragement stem from expectation, and often unrealistic expectation that things are going to be easy. That's a great reminder for me to calibrate my expectations - both in my personal life and my professional life. :)

Thank you Dan. I just started my first day as a real estate agent in a trendy downtown area. At first, I felt like this office was for me. The values aligned with mine - acting with integrity and spirit, family over business...etc...I was SO pumped to be at a brokerage that supported my spiritual/energy values, and then BOOM... I met with another salesperson and his friend for coffee. Two tall, extremely wealthy, outgoing business men. I felt crushed. Could I really have thought I would fit into this environment? This trendy downtown office? I stuttered, and fumbled talking about my non-existent career past. I felt unimpressive and redundant just repeating what they were saying, feeling very anxious and little in comparison. Also feeling not as pretty as the cool party girls they probably know. Me being 26, everyone else being in their mid-30s, hustling, working hard and having vast previous jobs on their resumes...I hate being asked what I did "before" the only thing I did before was a fine arts degree, two odd jobs and a failed attempt at my last real estate office (people there were negative and judgemental and unaligned with my purpose so I decided to leave that depressing environment), this is my first day and I was definitely discouraged. I hated how they kept saying "You have to hustle and work hard" as if I didn't already hear that one million times, from other people! I feel like its just a scheme to intimidate others and cut down the competition...Nothing is hard work if you love it and if you find a way to work with it! I don't believe in the "hard work" mindset and if one is highly intelligent one will find smart ways that work, instead of the work-to-the-bone mentality, making yourself sick to gather finances! I've found that the harder you work (resist) against the current, you still aren't guaranteed to end up with the results, or get a higher position. You have to be in alignment with what you want and be patient, manifest the energy and work with it to bring the idea into the material world (like starting a passive income). The guys proceeded to say they would have a wine tasting event after, dinner at an expensive restaurant and then drinks at the bar after....but I don't drink.... again I got discouraged because I saw the way they were looking at me...like I was some "annoying baby sister" that wouldn't go away...I find I seem like that to a lot of millennial men because I am not normal like the others and don't like to drink and party and be hot tinder-like, competitive women. I am more traditional and classic, more southern-conservative without the rigidity, but with morals and beliefs. I hate being different and having to work in liberal-geared social situations and having people misunderstand me. I'd rather just work alone as an introvert and hope to make it solo. I know I probably sound like the judgemental one, but they didn't say anything opposing what I picked up. They only asked me income-related questions, nothing about personality or being interested in my deeper being...just face value what I do for income and what my goals were...? But if all human beings are like this chasing money and ignoring the heart and passion of life, what is life then? It feels like a hamster wheel. I am going to keep trying though, I am going back tomorrow for training with a coach, I'm not giving up, especially because I just switched brokerages last week. I'm tired of the lack of the realness in this city. Thank you for your advice and tips. I'm glad I found this video because I needed to hear that, maybe I am setting unreal expectations for myself...people aren't going to click with me on the first day. I need to give it time and maybe I am thinking I'm already the best agent, when that will take months for a person of my calibre to achieve.

'Oopsie' is a great word. Nice video m8

You just figured out Blues Clues because you're really smart!

Thank you, needed to watch this.

I am feeling that way I cry pretty often feeling like I’m not hi ranking like I used to I feel betrayed from my passions are going down people are I feel like I have commitment I am getting communication like I used to I feel lost and a failure I used to be #1 to a group now I don’t feel it and I don’t get likes on their Facebook three times I met in person I was their #1 fan now I felt betrayed I don’t know what to do

Hey Dan! Here i run into your channel again! Glad you're still making videos

Thank you 🙏🏿

Thank you for this. This is just what I needed after getting some criticism on a project. I’m working on. This gave me the motivation to try again.