Men are suffering. What’s the solution?

Eh ... trying to change their system for these morons so that they don't unalive themselves is kind of a tough sell.

What do you mean by male loneliness epidemic? Who declared this? Why this term is thrown around so much? I knowno man who has been made part of the survey.

And if most men are lonely and most women are in relationships what does that mean? Are a small percent of male feminists having there little harems?

No feminism is the solution. It's interesting that you quoted Bell Hooks who was a self proclaimed Feminist. This podcast is Feminist influenced.

Based on the title of your channel I knew instantly what your explanation would be

We can try to make men more in tune with their feelings and stuff, and it will just lead to them being unattractive to vvomen. Also again this talk how only men are supposed to change.

People all over yt philosophing about how the world supposedly is is so pointless, and patriarchal masculinity probably is just made up and not real.

Those western "masculine" qualities listed are exactly the traits of people with Avoidant Attachment [disorder]... Basically people who's mothers were emotionally cold or neglectful. It's literally glorifying a trauma response ...😬 Source: a therapist.

Xys issues got nothing to do with us. Moving on.

Andrew tate is a p. Dow.file and so are is followers.

Andrew Tate is a gay girl

I’m not seeing any decline in masculinity, this is a made up hoax by the Andrew Tate types. I see so many men here taking care of women. Some conspiracy theory yall are trying to push, like communist ideas. The women here in this town are living the men and like wise men loving women. Fear mongering by anti American groups are pushing this crap.

Everytime I have tried connecting to a woman it has backfired terribly. Woman need to learn to be less misogynist

A lot of women have been and are currently suffering because of patriarchy.

You know people don’t just all start saying the same thing, at the same time, without someone pulling the strings behind the scenes, with talking points going out. Whether you agree with the message or not, doesn’t matter, tptb sent out the proverbial bat signal.

Yeah, but here's were my gender confusion starts and why I struggle to understand the whole concept of gender and am basically only certain of my sex:
I grew up as a tomboy in a context with very patriarchal gender stereotypes and felt that being an adult I would be a man. As an adult, I flirted with the idea of being transgender, but also felt that I was just performing a stupid stereotype of masculinity. So, that wasn't it either. I am now more inclined to the idea that every quality is human. But: What then makes me a woman? What's supposed to be feminine? Sure, I struggle with being seen as a woman in a patriarchal system, but that's an odd foundation for a gender identity. And yes, I'm familiar with the concept of being agender, but that implies that I kind of believe in the existence of genders, I just don't see where I fit. So, decades after coming up with the helpful sex/gender division, I really wonder if it's time to question the idea of genders, because again: If a person is male, but there's actually no quality that really indicates masculinity, what then makes them men? I know for many people gender is an essential part of their identity, but I never got to understand what that means beyond some variation of stereotypes.

Best video I’ve seen in a long time !! I deeply care for boys and men. I also grew up alone with my father in Denmark 🇩🇰☺️ The subject is very complicated, and I could write a book about it… anyway, to make it short: I like to think about the eastern wisdom of yin and yang that both men and women have inside. I’m so sorry for the confusion that young men are in, that they feel the need to constantly prove their masculinity to other men, but at the same time feel judged for it by women and society. The teaching to both boys and girls should be : you have both qualities inside of you, and you can freely choose which quality you live out in any given moment according to what fits the situation and your inner needs. It is VERY important that men are allowed to turn down a woman’s need to sit and talk about feelings, otherwise he can be swallowed up by the feminine as described in the myth of the mermaid who lurs him into the sea (feelings) and he drowns. Men must be allowed to sometimes just be in action mode without feeling guilty about it. May the balance return for all humans 🙏🏼☯️🌟 Love from Denmark 🌝💚🌷🇩🇰

great video

This channel is a gem 💎 how do I spread the word?

The best way to popularize feminism is by speaking to men about men’s problems !! 😊

Lame 😒 we don’t need more masculinity. We just need to call BS on the idea that masculinity defines a man

Women cheat their way through life & women project. Whenever a female is man ____, _____, _____. She means women.
Notice you do not hear nor see the men. You hear other people talking about the men but you don't see or hear men.

Masculinity vs. A woman's silence........ My money is on her!

Bring back masculinity just means they want to be able to harass women at work again and they want raype to be a joke again.

Andrew Tate would’ve had his ass handed to him by the men I looked up to in the 70’s and 80’s. And his ass literally whipped by most of the women. Just because he’s loud doesn’t give him credibility. He’s a joke.

Sorry, this comment is a long one, but I think I’m allowed a few extra words when I’m talking about my greatest idol: my dad.

I know some people won’t believe what I say about him. Men of his generation are seen as stoic, overtly masculine guys who never show emotion, who are grumpy or even angry at the world, complaining about things like "gender ideology."

But I know him. They don’t.

My father is from the Silent Generation, and he was raised in a very patriarchaic way (that’s patriarchal and archaic mashed together). Like many boys back then, he was beaten into submission by his father and never really had a relationship with him.

He decided to be different. He chose to be a loving, caring, and supportive father. And he has always been just that. He still is, and I still love spending time with him.

I can only imagine what it was like for him to stay home with me for six months in the 1960s just to learn how to care for a baby. He took me with him to work whenever he could. Not because he had to, or because I could actually help, but because he wanted to be with me. For a man paying off a heavy mortgage, that was one of the ways he showed love.

All my life, I’ve seen him give selflessly to others, be it his time, his money, or just his presence. After he retired, he even trained to become a counsellor so he could help people struggling with addictions. That idea probably came to him because his son (me) is a recovering addict. (I’ve been clean for 37 years.)

My dad broke the generational cycle of violence and created a new way to be a father. He also gave me a model of what a man should be: a strong and caring dad, a supportive and emotionally present husband, and a man strong enough to show his feelings be it tears or love.

For that, I, and almost certainly my kids and grandkids since, as a father I tried my best to be like my dad, will always be grateful, even if I never quite managed to reach the standard he set as a father.

He was also a devoted and loving husband to my mother for over sixty years. When she developed Alzheimer’s, he took care of her until the very end.

And he is still willing to learn new things. when he met my friend’s non-binary kid, he asked them to explain what it meant. He listened carefully, and afterward said, “I still don’t understand these gender things, but it doesn’t cost me anything to call a person what they want to be called. It’s just basic politeness, and it makes everyone happy.”

In my opinion, my dad is the poster boy for the kind of masculinity we desperately need right now. Especially in a time when the ideologies of his childhood have crawled back out of the shadows.

BTW, now that he’s old and sick and can no longer manage everything around the house, I’m not the only one helping him. Dozens of people have stepped up. His lifelong kindness is coming back to him.

I really wish I had learned to cook and clean better. I'm married, but I think we'd be happier if I was better at those things. I usually do the dishes but not always "on time" - and I try to be a caring and compassionate person. Don't have kids so never learned how to change diapers, etc. either. But I'd have done it.

This is was such a wonderful video. Are you able to make a video on the narrative shift thats going on in heterosexual dating now?

We need more Matriarchal masculinity. If that doesn't make sense to you; educate yourself.
Indoctrination into submission has been achieved by universally emphasizing "what to think" and deemphasising "how to think".
Critical metacognition has to become the top priority of all educational systems.
Rolls need to be merit driven, not driven by whatever psychosis is in possession of the parental and influence peddlers practicing their brand of Stockholm Syndrome upon susceptible minds. The word "adult" has become nearly meaningless, in this place where the Idiocracy is not a fiction.

I love your series, and am 65. Thank you so much.

I had to stop the video to say your explanation is awesome and so on point!

Men aren’t suffering. Whiny, deeply weird, idiotic, emotionally underdeveloped bitses who are hateful clowns and often bullies are manufacturing outrage and victimhood. Real men are having zero problems that aren’t problems everyone has everywhere.

Women are suffering with their feminity. Women are projecting their issue out on men.

Bottom line is men are not attracted to these modern women. The feminine women are promiscuous and the other masculine women are chasing their careers

So glad you tackled this topic. I've noticed in my own work in dismantling barriers of patriarchy for men is one of the common mistakes is brushing off men's pain. Because in patriarchy men are required to 'man up' and be the 'strong' one, I often notice that men's pain is often diminished, not listened to and compared to the pain of those of us farther down the hierarchy and found as childish. It's important that we remember pain is felt by all of this in this nasty system and to not dismiss anyone's pain. Our pain gives us the road map of what's missing for all of us and what we can bring to each other to dismantle patriarchal hierarchy.

When I was just a boy in primary school, they told me that "men are pigs, men are dogs" because I was attracted to beautiful girls in school. I've never been intimate with a girl since then.

Bell hooks is a man hating lesbian who is motivated out of competition against men for women stop. Lesbians have a biological predisposition hating men. Just as you don't share experiences with other women, LGBT men don't share experiences with straight men. We can predict orientation by 3 1/2 years old based on subtle gender differences.. modern understanding of the out of Africa hypothesis no longer suggest we are from the same group of people. Human evolution happened all over Africa with different humanoids mixing and sometimes outside of it. There has never been a white matriarchy. You don't share any history or anything with modern-day black people in fact they are merely descendants of what is now considered the koi san in africa. You don't share experiences or history with other races of women by virtue of being a women. And the lesbian definition of patriarchy which you use is not the use of the word historically. It just means men are the head of the household why because women cannot protect or discipline men who are stronger than them so only men could be held responsible the actions of the family and to protect their family not the other way around. Lesbian ideology resonates with you because you're not hetrosexual. Stop cosplaying as a predator. Work on your character and you might get better luck with women.

Lesbians and many bisexual women have a biological predisposition to hating men. And this resentment tends to reemerge when they become sexy active in adolescence. Subtle gender differences at 3 1/2 years old can predict your orientation in adolescence. So we know this is consistent. Bell hooks who is a lesbian and therefore doesn't share experiences with other women and naturally as fMRI study show don't have empathy for men in the way you're trying to gaslight. The lesbian use of the word sex conceptually corresponds more with the heterosexual usage of the word is race and that's a significant factor because the hatred is much stronger between races. Patriarchy is use as a decoy term for the hatred of men so it looks like there hating this abstract concept. When they are saying they don't hate men they are not thinking of men but merely a male body, but brain why is no different from a woman partly because they are simply men with vagina's themselves.

Having lesbian speak on men's health is like having a white nationalist overseeing black people's health And their compassion for man is in the same regard of a white nationalist in regards to black men.

No one has ever shamed my vulnerability but women. No one has ever shamed my feminine side but women. No one has ever shamed my sexuality but women. No one has ever shamed my emotionality but women.

With very few, notable exceptions my time on this planet has been made infinitely safer and richer by men. Women- not so much. For the most part they've shamed me, shouted over me, legally endangered me with lies and exploited me. Over and over and over.

The music is too glib for the topic imho🧩🪬

The fact that you did not say that it was heterosexual people in particular calling for masculinity is what makes you a predator.

OMG the fact that this channel exists makes me feel better about society future. Thank you for making this and all the other videos on this channel, it's such a hard work to find such great words on dividing topic. Thanks for not blaming anyone but speaking facts

It comes down to this....happiness is based on the quality of your relationships, which means you have to care about the other person, which leads to gender equality and happy countries

Men need to accept that aggression, dominance, and being asocial have harmed them.

Women aren’t angry at men for being toxic, that’s massively understating the oppression that women are experiencing because of men, masculinity, and patriarchy.

Additionally, there is a limit to how women are rewarded for masculinity. Women are also penalized for masculinity and penalized for femininity, and rewarded for femininity. There’s a lot of nuance to that aspect of women’s treatment in society, because if a woman isn’t sufficiently feminine, she is treated badly, but she’s also treated badly if she’s too feminine, and masculinity and women is only rewarded as much as it benefits men. Masculinity in women that is for the benefit of women is hated. Girls and women who are not sufficiently feminine are socially isolated often by other women. Girls and women who are perceived as lesbians are often socially isolated. Men have made accusations of masculinity of women as accomplished and beautiful as Serena Williams. Women are still very conditioned into femininity and restricted by it.

Women do masculine things in spite of the way that other people will treat us poorly for it. We took our freedom in that regard, it wasn’t given to us by society. We had to fight for it, and women had to die for it. We fought for the right to embody any traits that we want, and not be restricted to the feminine ones. And men hate us for it, and even other women sometimes hate us for it. They’re writing laws to stop us.
And yet we are still doing it.

Women had to break our own gender chains, nobody did it for us. And we are still fighting that fight.

Men have every opportunity to break their own chains, they just need to decide to do it and fight for it, and they can start by not supporting the removal of women’s rights and developing that empathy.

All these traits ARE human traits. Humans embodying them all the time, proved this easily.

Masculinity has nothing to do with egotistical pride and arrogance. On the contrary real men know the moment you "puff yourself up" it's a sign of fear. Because the ego self is an emotion driven by fear, you can smell it on them like overbearing cheap cologne.

That's it: we need both yin & yang... there's no one w/out the other... there's just imbalance

Now i understand why its said that women on average, at least in my country, or at least s a thing of the past, live longer than the men...

Thank you for your work.

Sounds like a marxist