"You Cannot Be Friends With Your Children"

Battery drainer alert.

It’s measured discipline, that must be seen to be reasonable and fair, when they are children. Followed by measured support in the early adult years.
I work with my two sons- so I got something right !

Tell her to give Freddy from Scooby Doo back his scarf!!!!

Yes! I was labeled as a bad mom for being strict mom. But now I have three independent, hardworking and responsible sons.

Preach ❤

The bigger issue is to many "parents" these days is that are neither, so society ends up with having to deal their mess

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This is so wrong on so many levels . You should have a deep friendship throughout your children’s life .

JP is holding back a smile. I am too

Different strokes for different folks. Some kids dont need this kind of parental figure others need it. Not every single child is the same.

STONE FACE on Dr. JP, tho...

My parents were like this, it hasn't ended well.

Not the schools responsibly. Their job is programing and indoctrination. No morals are taught at schools.

Jordan Peterson made some good points in this video

I think you need to be both a friend and a parent both when they are young and when they are older BALANCE.

She looks stressed.

Pardon, if they are scared of you they will find friends outside becoming friends of your children and make them recognize good qualities to search for a friend in future
I totally disagree with your thought
School Teachers as well they have to give a month to become emotionally attached to the kid
Curriculum must begin with brain storming
Unfreeze and collaborative activities
If there is a communication gap, the child can't understand and approach the Teacher's thought and facilitate a good education environment

It really depends on the child at hand. Some need authority and strict guidance. Others need guidance and softness. And everything in between. It is easy to get a generation to obey on command (like the germans growing up in the 30s), but hard to educate them to be good people that does not fall in line under bad leadership. It is just as easy to believe these kinds of cheap truths about upbringing methods because it just feels right to be righteous and hard. This righteousnes might derive from good intentions, but might as well come from religious fanaticism or political views that are extreme. It is not as easy as saying that strict a upbringing is better or worse than a soft one.

Molding does not require authority

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Sounds reasonable.

Schools should provide UNIVERSALLY ACCEPTED moral formation: don't steal, don't hit, share your crayons, etc. Problems start when the schools begin teaching the morals of a fringe identitarian sect.

Wow that's a Karen

The real fact is…. The fact that this needs to be said out loud shows how society in general is a total lost cause.

It’s weird when I see adults say yeah best mates with my kid. Massive red flag

Most annoying woman in the UK,of course nobody cancels her cus she is a liberal in right wing clothing.She patronises ppl about how to raise their children while she has none of her own.
Ridiculous

Yeah when someone goes to me my mom is like my best friend . Im like huge red flag.. and these are the people who get gaslighted alot . They believe just about anything .this is what happens when the mother friendzone the child. Child doesnt reach out to socialize and lose out on development

Is JBP holding back a smile there? I wonder what's on his mind.

He's listening you guys 😢

Thank you! I always felt that parebts that insist on being their childs friend are simply abandoning their duties and couching it in nicer sounding terms. They are cheating themselves and their kids.

I bow to her wisdom! My hero ❤ ~35 year public school teacher

jordan smile is pricless

You can assert your authority over your kids and be friend with them.

“Don’t you like me,mommy?”👹🔪🪓⛓🔫💣🚬⚰️🪦

I heard this a lot from my mom, and frankly, she couldnt handle the transition from child to adult. She struggled letting go of power, she didnt understand i was becoming a person with opinions and autonomy. We had a really difficult time in our teens because of this exact mantre. I love her now, but you can definitely be both a mother and authority figure and a friend.

Wow, this is the completely perfectly incorrect and false.

My dad was my best friend and I miss him dearly.

Schools, nor governments should be setting moral values.

This video is gonna be used to justify toxic parenting so badd

Just finished reading ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ and it really opened my eyes to some new ways of guiding my kids in their faith. Highly recommend it if you’re looking to strenghten your family’s spiritual life

Parents are servant leaders, not oppressive leaders. They must exercise authority and mold their children morally. But this will be better accomplished if children trust them, and your children will not trust you and will not willingly obey if you don't respect them and constantly provoke them to anger. All discipline should follow clear instruction and parents should never let anger control them.

You can just see how much Jordan Peterson agrees with what she is saying.

Problem with this is that there’s some parents who misuse this authority to become toxic or abusive parents. They think since they’re the boss, it gives them the right to behave however they want. Values and morals are important, that’s why better to be a wise mentor than a boss.

I want to add—always make sure your children feel loved and acknowledged. Having to forego being friends with your children does NOT mean you can’t have a friendly, open and loving bond with them. You can have fun with them without dismissing boundaries.

You had me, you had me, until the school part. Schools cannot do moral formation. They will do ‘pass along societal morals’ formation. It cannot be any other way. Your moral formation at home will have to juxtapose that - unless you think society is very virtuous.

I fucking love this lady. Parents who oppose her views are paying or will pay the price. 😅

I disagree with the school giving morals but the rest of the idea is sound. At least in the U.S., schools are messed up.

Sometimes i think that the phrase "school should give moral education" is just a ilusion. This is the role of both parents and religious institutes.

Order for order itself, better than chaos for chaos itself but horrible

She has it wrong. This only goes for the Father. Its a yin and yang. The classic Dad saying "No, go ask your mother" routine. Having parents the way she describes would be very unpleasant.