The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John Gottman - Relationship Advice ► Book Summary

I call bullshit on one thing. The break to cool things off.. ummm be an adult, control your temper and sort the shit out.

Awesome advice!

ready for my counselling exam

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how do you "vew" your past?

Thnk You very much, Sir! cheers!

Marriage is a scam

Some gridlock means do not enter into marriage, believer versus atheist bodes disaster.

People of faith should not marry atheists. That would be foolish! A no-brainer here.

I did all of these... turns out I married a man who doesn’t know who he is and lied to me a lot. To make things worse, he always put me second to everyone and everything else. Things hit the fan 3 years ago when the lies came out. Since then, it’s been nothing but more lying and stonewalling. I have felt completely alone in my marriage for the past several years. Unfortunately... There are some relationships that should not be saved.

“If your partner did the dishes instead of you” .... wait what?!? (I’m joking lol)

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I think the best takeaway from this in my opinion is asking how people view their past... In this world the people we sorround with ultimately affect us and our future, therefore we must must choose the right person to be with. We can do that by asking how they view their past... an easy way to avoid a toxic relationship...

Great summary!

So marriage is a job. Or you may face devastating consequences. Or you may put in all that work and STILL face devastating consequences.
I'm out. Good luck, guys.

this is so helpful! thank you :)

𝕆𝕟𝕖 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕒𝕪𝕤 𝕔𝕠𝕦𝕡𝕝𝕖𝕤 𝕔𝕒𝕟 𝕚𝕞𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕚𝕣 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕒𝕘𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕥𝕠 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕤𝕖𝕩 𝕣𝕖𝕘𝕦𝕝𝕒𝕣𝕝𝕪. 𝕐𝕖𝕤, 𝕀 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕥𝕪𝕡𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥. 𝕀𝕟 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕥𝕙𝕪 𝕞𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕒𝕘𝕖𝕤, 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕙𝕦𝕤𝕓𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕨𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕤𝕖𝕩. ℝ𝕖𝕘𝕦𝕝𝕒𝕣𝕝𝕪. 𝔸𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕤𝕖𝕒𝕤𝕠𝕟𝕤 𝕨𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕚𝕤 𝕙𝕒𝕣𝕕? 𝕐𝕖𝕤. 𝔼𝕤𝕡𝕖𝕔𝕚𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕝𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕝𝕖𝕤. 𝔹𝕦𝕥 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕟𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕔𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕣𝕖𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕡 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕤𝕡𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕘𝕖𝕥𝕤 𝕤𝕥𝕣𝕒𝕚𝕟𝕖𝕕 𝕨𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕣𝕖𝕟’𝕥 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕒 𝕡𝕣𝕚𝕠𝕣𝕚𝕥𝕪? 𝕋𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕖𝕞𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕒𝕝 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕡𝕙𝕪𝕤𝕚𝕔𝕒𝕝 𝕔𝕠𝕟𝕟𝕖𝕔𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕚𝕤 𝕧𝕚𝕥𝕒𝕝. 𝔼𝕤𝕡𝕖𝕔𝕚𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕕𝕦𝕣𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕥𝕠𝕦𝕘𝕙 𝕤𝕖𝕒𝕤𝕠𝕟𝕤.

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If she empties his tank without being asked maybe he will take out the trash!
Susan is screwing around needing more time with her friends.
Sally is an Athiest but wants to get married? Ok

Is it possible to have “respect and admiration” for your wife if she has slept with a large number of men causally - and you found out after a while. Serious question that I’m struggling with. Don’t lecture me. I was wondering how to resolve this in my own head and whether others had some advice.

Accept not accpet

Please, please, just do a simple spellcheck. There were three painfully obvious misspellings in this video. It makes me think the author is totally uneducated.

The only thing i find "bothersome" is the perpetual problems. The problems really matter if they are things that can be compromised if they don't matter a great deal to each individual. For example my friend wants to have sex once a week at least and his wife can go a month or 2 without it without bother. This is a problem that needs to be evaluated in a sense of is the happiness worth the sacrifice. Similar to thr religious question used. If the Christan is a big part of the community or the church should he just be okay and accept the fact she is an athiest and try to "get over it" in a sense? Should she compromise who she is for her relationship? The answer is no to both questions. You can adapt to some things but things that may change how a person is or how they are is not okay for either partner. If they can adabt through it and figure something out? Thats great but everyone needs to know their limit and firgure out when to walk away

I'm so late to come here, even so I appreciate I can learn from my mistakes😢😢😢 and failure.

fascinating stuff... remarkable how other folks have opinions and how past influence matters...

On Principle 2. Nurture your Fondness and Admiration: I miss understood the statement about negative past-I thought it was my personal past but it is the couple’s past. Scary! but my misunderstanding gave me insight. Even though my personal past is full of negative I can see it as experiences I leaned from.

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Principle 6: the word accept is spelled wrong.

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Thanks for making this video, I really appreciate it! I often find myself struggling to read books, as I easily lose track of what is happening and get lost in the specific details and lose the overall picture. Getting to watch this summary was a great way to see things much more clearly.

Ever consider transactions, transference and translations and projections?… how does competition and marriage and diversity and reality intersect? Caring and mapping and and and… so many things of us all.

Layers of love and types of love… what if usury experience has created spots? Time and space and real world.

Arranging and arrangements… interesting loops indeed.

How things start and continue… matters a lot. For instance genetics and twins research in 1930’s Germany… not ok to use… yet… learnings of cancer and likely incidence… may have value. Yet… dictating an insurance rate upon likely of immuno and intersections of allergies and guts of cancer… these movements of hierarchy… not ok… but… let’s say… a gap of funding for baseball field… sparks interest… yet we get to a place of city feedbacks and county needs… there are intersections of better.

Colleges need sports… communties benefit… but not everyone plays sports. Yet… schools need funding outside of private funding and choices yet… choice matters. Eugenics sneaks… dark spots of energy.

Breathe ya’ll… caring helps. It’s a lot of mess and interactions and intersections. Ball of light and eco systems helps some. It’s still us…

This is very helpful! I would suggest spell-checking this, as "view" and "accept" are misspelled.

at 6.00 the video spells Accept incorrectly, FYI.

Great reminder of what caring for each other looks like in a relationship.

This is an amazing video, I really needed to watch this. I’ve been stuck in the pain of losing my husband. I used to think breakups were easy, but now that my husband has left me, I feel completely broken. I can’t even eat or take care of our kids! I need him back so much. I’ve tried everything to get him back, but he doesn’t want our marriage anymore.

Sex is one of the most common reasons why a relationship slowly bleeds out. And stop cumunicating

If only I read this before my 3 rd marriage. 😅

great video. I never imagined writing about a breakup after eight years together. The pain was like nothing I’d ever felt, leaving me to pick up the pieces of my heart. I still hope we can come back to each other someday.

In unsolvable problems there's always a winner and a loser. Usually the position of less energy is the resulting one: it's very easy to boycott and sabotage change, very easy. The other partner just has to swallow the soar frog or file for divorce. No other options.