Emotional Self-Intimacy: What It Is And How To Foster It

YOURE A GENIUS , thank you for these videos ❤

i am this type of person
i am this type of friend
WHEN? IN WHICH CONTEXT?
find out what kind of person u want to be in what situations

discover all ur hiding spots/ ur intimate spots

whenever u have something bad happen what do u do to cope?
- i tend to overextend myself

don’t ignore ur feelings! don’t try and mask ur feelings cuz they go against who u label urself to be. ask “why do i feel like this” and get to the bottom of it

dont run anyway from uncomfortable feelings

grow an unjudgemental relationship with urself

teach urself how to survive and manage uncomfortable feelings

But how to just sit with the feelings? How to actually do it

Heidi thank you again. 😢🙏🏼

I can't believe I just discovered you today. You are brilliant. Watching all of your videos.

Thank you for being one of this virtual angels walking with me along my long journey to healing ❤

I appreciate that you made this video

What if you don’t want the advice because you’re in denial about what you know is bad for you

Yes but how do you sit with that stuff without it turning to rumination.

A million thank~yous🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Chat, she just point blanked me into an open book full of questions for my own self

So if I examine my feelings and reactions to what is going on around me, if I look at how I feel and ask myself why I feel that way, Is this what you mean when you say, "emotional intelligence"?

As an INFJ, I really don’t know my boundaries and always push myself to do the best for others. I really really appreciate this video of learning myself!

Wow, this video is exactly what I was searching for as I am healing intimacy. Thank you for sharing your wisdom in a way that was so easy to digest. All the power to you ♥️

I think this is the most important video I have ever seen. Thank you so much, Heidi.

Thank You Heidi ... yet another revelation in Personal Development aa a Fearful Avoidant ...

This is a massive amount of information to take in at one time

That "Sardine Metaphor is both beautiful and brilliant.

Thank you so helpful! What I‘m often missing in psychological Videos is the bridge to society, because most of the time you‘re just getting advice on how to deal with things individually but honestly, how many women I know who selfreflect perfectly but get drawn into toxic paterns because of toxic male partners? Structural problems should always be part of every psychological advice, because as an individual you can just get to a certain point of progress but eventually society has to progress aswell.

inside out 2 touched on this

You are like a cute fairy who comes makes me feel relatable.
Thanks a lot 🙏

She is a pro communicator and a genius!!! Deserves so much more likes and shares of this video! And lots of rewards ❤

I'm so glad I watched this, because this is actually a cornerstone of healing that gets lost among all the symptoms and the explanations and the methods.

I've made a lot of progress but I'm realizing that at a basic level I'm still scared of myself, and it's like they say, when the student is ready the master will appear. So thank you very much Heidi

Thanks!

You are a deeply wise lady. You changed my life! It's actually an understatement!

Thank you for this. ❤

Every time I try to open up it blows up in my face

Amazing video!!! 🤯TY!! ❤️‍🔥

So if I sit with myself and ask why about what I’m feeling, I will just go into a full on spiral which gets worse and worse. So this doesn’t work for me. 😢

Heidi, thank you very much! There is so much positive energy coming from you to me.
Thx Peter

I love you Heidi. You make me feel safe.

What if the reason someone drinks when they feel rejected is to avoid suicidal thoughts and intentions? Should they indulge in those thoughts instead of drinking?

I am in an opposite phase in my life. My need is to be more secluded from others. I am naturally doing what you say but I don’t have a clue if I will be back to be so opened to all experiences. I am already responding to my authentic emotions, but is more towards perfecting my boundaries,

Singular of hypotheses is a hypothesis. Singular of phenomena is phenomenon. I just have to say it because I'm so distracted by repetitive mismatching of grammar. Is phenomena, is hypotheses. That's so distracting.

Always try to prevent myself from pain by watching yt videos on emotional regulation acceptance etc before work and this one is so soothing and perfecy

I love you too ❤

Idk I did have self trust, believed that I could rely upon myself. Unfortunately that did not protect me from having my life destroyed and burned to the ground by my husband's lies. Now I am forever bound to a man who lied to me about who he was. Now I have children with a perverted sicko who is okay with using little girls his own daughters age for his own gratification and pleasure. The knowledge that is who he is, is disgusting and utterly revolting. That I missed it, that I allowed myself to be fooled and used in this way is unbelievably painful. Realizing that I learned nothing, cannot be trusted or relied upon in this regard is devastating to me. Realizing that a man can appear in all outward ways to be a good man, and STILL use a girl that was is unbelievably terrifying and infuriating. Why does our society condone men's perversion this way? I wish our society saw men like him for what they truly are, Evil.

Even as an adult, especially professionals were telling me i was not acceptable. That they knew better than me. I didn't know myself until i finally met a traum informed therapist in my 40's. It's nice the trauma informed model is getting more mainstream.

Anyone else feel like this left off on a cliffhanger?! I need to know what it looks like when life “starts getting interesting”

Heidi, your videos are an immense help. Thank you!

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Thank you Heidi for making these videos.
I am a 41 year old Male from Australia 🇦🇺 my partner and I have recently broken up (I believe I am anxiously attached and my ex partner is avoidantly attached)
I am doing my best to learn more about my self, my partner and our relationship in an effort to re connect even as intimate friends.
Your videos have been amazing, they are easy to watch, understand and follow..
Again thankyou

i love listening to your podcasts. Very helpful and explained very well. Thank you!

You helped another piece unfold - what I resisted as a teenager by turning my back on my family and culture thinking that I was turning my back on traumas. I resisted my conservative background. My little brain mixed it with traumas. I turned to education and schools. Became a teacher. I was hiding in the safety of school and spent all my life lost in it. I’m 59. Tapering off as a teacher thank goodness! Can’t wait for it to be over! It didn’t allow me to grow in life as a whole person! I used my mind and never knew I had a body. I have lived a disconnected life all my life and failed massively in all areas of life. I have experienced lots of triggers as a teacher and never got the message! As a coach now, I sat with all my parts intensely for six full years! Now, I live a very connected life and see clearly all the wrong choices I made out of resisting my whole background! I lost a lot in life! Not anymore! I live a very conservative life! My parents were farmers. I gravitate towards them now and feel relaxed. I have resisted all these for so long and betraying myself! My love for nature. My parents were business people. I’m turning my life around without looking back. We hide in safe places too like schools!
In this video, the word resistance is helping me.
I resisted who I am all my life by turning my back on my childhood!
I reclaimed it back. Still working on it. I became an avoidant, with a fearful attachment.
The key is to embrace all parts.
I was lost following others!!! I thought that they were the solutions! Took me 59 years to figure this out.
Now, I live a happy life with no pain at all in my body.
I had a story I don’t belong. I try fitting in. Now I know where I belong and there is no shame in it!

Wow

Yes=wanted
Not; good, possible, nice, kind, better, ect
No=unwanted
Not; evil, bad, That is all I have for unwanted right now. Take what you need and leave the rest ✨️ 😌 ❤😂🎉