Radical Acceptance: Key to Narcissistic Family Detachment

I'm listening yo this on Christmas Eve. Thank you so much for this video and all your videos! I've been working at this.... The examples are very helpful. Merry Christmas Jerry. I know you used to be a pastor but you're probably helping more people doing this kind of work reaching a wide audience of hurting people. May God Almighty continue yo use you ad His instrument of healing for hurting humanity. I hope 2023 will be your best year yet!

Wonderful!
Thank you!

Would it help if I do not accept that it is what it is? Another great video that gets me out of denial.

Thank you for examples! 👍
Huge help in understanding.

everyone talks about the importance of acceptance (big book, too). And it's not really hard to see how important it is. But nobody, literally nobody, explains just how one accepts smth. What exactly does one have to do, what actual tangible actions does one have to take in order to reach acceptance. Nobody seems to know

I wish I could get my brother to watch and understand this. I hate seeing him suffer. He’s such a good hearted person.

I’ll have to play this over and over and over again today. Thank you for putting it here for times like these.

Thanks Jerry.

Such quality information! Thank you!

Thank you so much Jerry. You are helping me in a very painful healing journey, thanks to your amazing videos like this one I am able to slowly change my perspective, grow and move forward with my healing. Have a great week and bless you!

watched this a few times to digest. watch difficult and uncomfortable to hear as usual but resonated. much appreciated as always Jerry.

Amazing video!

My parents have blown past my boundaries, twice now, regarding my husband and I's marriage regarding our jobs and church as well!!
It is rude, non of their business and they excuse it with saying "well, we're your parents and we care about you and worry." 🤦🏻‍♀️
They even USED God to cross this boundary just last weekend. "God told me to bring it up..."
It's not ok. It's not treating me like an adult. It's unacceptable.
I am now taking a break from my parents, I don't know how long...all I know is that I do need to work on radical acceptance of them and my family, that I am the black sheep and that I need space to continue to heal and grow.
They've shot themselves in the foot, unfortunately.
But I am good!

Thanks a lot Jerry!!

I have gained a deeper understanding of detachment in this video series. I am able to put these tips into practice more and more! Thank you Jerry !!

Guess my whole family took an oath to liking liverwurst if we like it or not as kids . All now adults, all will say: I like Liverwurst". Loss of self in family systems.

Dear Jerry, thank you for this wonderfull video (and also for all the others). My problem is that I fall into this kind of unacceptance over and over again. Just when I think I succeded and can accept what is, I catch myself thinkin this negative tjoughts again. How can I prevent these relapses?

Thanks Jerry! I love using the principles of acceptance and detachment. Especially with difficult people. It’s the only way to preserve our sanity and serenity. One day at a time, we can heal and learn how to better ourselves without judgement.

Thank you so much !

JerryI’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. I love your videos because you give examples which are extremely helpful.

Yaaaaay video #3. Keep up the great videos best buddy Jerry😝😏😏💜

This is so helpful in so many areas of my life!

I had to accept that my mother is incapable of loving me,I tried real hard as a scapegoat even after she literally tried to kill me.but".she "claims I tried to" kill "her.( and I was the child 🙄I use to think how could she nt remember the event?she is nowhere near healing and a normal healthy relation is nt gon happen with her neither the other siblings.she guilt me to get me serve the family now Im drain financially so she is dangling a treat so she can contol my truths.This was what was painful she live her lies and she never change.choosing you is radical

Alanon talks about Awareness-Acceptance-Action. My understanding is without proper acceptance we will repeat what has happened. For me accepting the pain that a situation has caused is what prevents me from getting into a similar situation.

I Like To Listen To Your Advice. I'm Used To Being Shoehorned Into A Narritive That Very Cramped And Unchanging And Unquestionable. So I Like To Hear There Is Another Way. A Better Way. Could Take Decades To Implement Though. I Find Self-Study And Self-Change A Long Drawn Out Gruelling Process. Every time I Think I'm Making Some Progress, Life Shoots Back Don't Let Yourself Get Carried Away With Yourself!!!

Generations of reality denying. Ok wow what a truth you just released. It’s crazy yet true and we have suffered. Thank you

Jerry, Wow… thank you so very much. I’ll be listening often to this discussion. Thank YOU.

This video is wonderful and so needed. It deserves more likes. Thank you Jerry. The thought that I can make peace with reality rather than box with it and try to change it brings me so much relief.

Discovering you only a week ago has already been transformative. This channel delves deeper than others. I can't thank you enough.

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I cut my family off for a year. I have been going through waves of feelings including sadness, guilt and anger. Right now I find myself in the anger phase, where memories will suddenly pop up in my mind and I think of the pain I went through and how my family mocked or added to that pain. I feel like I’m almost reliving painful parts of my life all over again. I need to get a grip on this.

Thank you VERY much! You helped me considerably with this video - gave me wind of my own freedom which at times I can block with denial, without even realizing it. I love this video.

Hi Jerry, how would you distinguish between pain and suffering? Thanks, Sam ( London)

Love you Jerry. Thank you. You are a life changing influence. A force of positive growth.

Even though there's pain in the process, at least you get a Sense of closure when you accept what can't and won't be changed.

GLORY TO GOD WOW YES

Wonderful! I love listening to you! ❤️❤️❤️

Excellent video. I needed this. My sister is the narc. I went no contact a year ago. After years of hoping and thinking she would change, I realized that's not going to happen. "Not accepting reality causes chronic suffering". So true. "Suffering is optional, pain is not". Thank-you!!

Thank you, Jerry ❤️❤️

I'm lucky to be here based on where I came from!!! Brilliant!!! Instead of should be further along!!! Thanks Jerry. You are a treasure ☺

THANK YOU!!

Thank you ❤️

Love you, Jerry.