What I Wish I had Known about Infertility | Rachel Moon | TEDxTinHauWomen

You are among luckiest to be able to afford IVF. Many women in America can’t afford this expensive procedure and they may only be able to do it once but not 5. I have a high AMH for my age but could not get a normal embryo.

infertility is an awful burden to carry. I couldnt talk to my mother or any of my friends about it. I wish we could normalize this.

Dear Rachel how did you let go of the fact that the pregnancy wont be with your eggs? How did you accept it and went for this choice ?

If your struggling with infertility please READ THIS:

˹This is˺ a reminder of your Lord’s mercy to His servant Zachariah,

when he cried out to his Lord privately,

saying, “My Lord! Surely my bones have become brittle, and grey hair has spread across my head, but I have never been disappointed in my prayer to You, my Lord!

And I am concerned about ˹the faith of˺ my relatives after me, since my wife is barren. So grant me, by Your grace, an heir,

who will inherit ˹prophethood˺ from me and the family of Jacob, and make him, O Lord, pleasing ˹to You˺!”


˹The angels announced,˺ “O Zachariah! Indeed, We give you the good news of ˹the birth of˺ a son, whose name will be John—a name We have not given to anyone before.”

He wondered, “My Lord! How can I have a son when my wife is barren, and I have become extremely old?”

An angel replied, “So will it be! Your Lord says, ‘It is easy for Me, just as I created you before, when you were nothing!’”

For those who don’t know prophet Zachariah was passed the age of 90 and his wife! They couldn’t have children when they were young! The key message is god gives children! You can ask whoever! But if you ask sincerely he will give you! As that is a miracle to have a child passed 80 and you couldn’t have a child at 18? God is showing us that he has a timing! You might think your ready but god knows which time is better.

I have a question. Why do women want to get pregnant? Pregnancy puts a lot of strain on a woman's body, and it has risks, and a pregnancy lasts 9 months. Also, childbirth is very painful. And also, raising children is very hard.

Personally, I think being childfree would be a lot better than having children, but that's just my opinion.

IVF and Donor eggs/freezing are billion dollar industries just like the pill pushing pharma industry. Find a supportive doctor who believes in your ability to trust your body's innate wisdom and getting pregnant naturally. Just like how they push drugs on diabetics when the root causes are never addressed ( Surprise! Age is only a small part of it).

1. Eat healthy, stop exposure to PFAs, glyphosate found in some common food grains such as wheat, corn, barley, spelt etc (which the govt does not want to ban and does not want the public to know to feed the overtly consumerist and capitalistic society), pesticides in food, fluoride, water contaminants, non stick cookware, artificial perfumes, fragrances, detergents etc. Eat healthy, clean, organic.

2. Regulate your adrenals VERY important, go to a somatic therapist like right away to SLOW DOWN. You likely have dysregulation in your body even if you don't think you do. You are likely in a low flight or fight mode always without knowing it. If you have have had a difficult childhood or complex PTSD, address that with an IFS Therapist simultaneously. Get out of a bad relationship if you are in one.

3. Understand that your gut need to not be inflamed, bloated (a little is ok) and should be clean. FOCUS ON THE GUT.


3. AYURVEDIC diet per your body type. detox liver gall bladder, kidney, NO SUGAR, GLUTEN OR DAIRY.. (look up how they treat cows at factory farms and A1 milk.. (You really think you can improve your own fertility by having the milk of traumatised mother cows with their calfs taken away and slaughtered?) Respect animals and nature, develop MOTHER LIKE QUALITIES first. Eat nutrient rich food, not too much and chew really well. RAISE YOUR BLOOD COUNT. Proof will be more energy, better hair skin and nails.Enjoy your food. and you have your best chance.

4. Do yoga, pranayama, light nature walks etc as suggested for your ayurvedic body type, doshas etc. Everyone is different.

5. Stop listening to negative nancys and old paradigm people. Ignore and walk away.

6. Lastly, tune into your spirituality whatever that looks like for you! TRUST WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW.

All this can be addressed in a meaningful way in 3-6 months if you get started right away and commit to it. All the best.


FUN FACT: ONLY FEMALE HUMANS HAVE MENOPAUSE, OTHERS MAMMALS DON't. Think about it for a moment. Why is that? Men prefer younger women so it's an evolutionary trait but not natural. That is why till date, there's no definitive proof that women don't produce new eggs after menopause! In fact, newer research suggests that egg-producing capacity merely gets turned off due to a drop in hormones supplied to the surrounding cells not the actual egg cells ( faster due to modern day lifestyle and there are natural ways to raise those hormone levels think about it). I can't post links here so please google it. Of course, they don't invest as much into women's reproductive and health research due to deep-seated patriarchy and social conditioning so we won't have the proof for quite a while yet🤷🏻‍♀ Now in the olden times, those women were under nourished so the underlying issue was different though the result was the same, no birth after mid-40s but quite a lot of healthy ones did have babies till mid-50s, it was not very common again due to malnourishment and giving birth many times (losing a lot of blood contributes to fertiility shutting off!) but not shocking as it is now. don't confuse between the two. When women start giving birth later and later, they will have to come around. Look up IVG and the future of reproductive tech. Don't listen to the naysayers with their half baked information.

2 years is nothing, I'm trying 7 years.

My friend Viv often reminds me of downs it’s a tiny dig towards psychological aren’t you lucky, it’s terrible if you’re shadowed by people who offer empathy over something you hide, apparently.

One of the best talk I have heard! Thank you!!!

Money, money money. I don't have thousands of dollars lying around to test every theory. What suggestions are there for blue collar workers that can't afford egg donors or ivf? Or bc we don't have the resources. We wouldn't be good parents?

How one gets on a Ted Talk? I wish I could share my story about my
Infertility journey

SO SO hard!!

I agree about the education. All I knew was how NOT to get pregnant. Thank you for your bravery and vulnerability.

We need to be honest about female fertility. Women are meant to have children when they are young. This infertility crisis has nothing to do with health. It’s all to do with liberalism and feminism gone wrong. We frown on young women having children, this couldn’t be more wrong or unhealthy.

Also ladies you have to consider the huge cost involved for ivf. If you want to have children better do it early at around 25 and 30 yrs.

It s true they minimize your pain

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rachel is my aunt:) im so proud of her, cant wait for my cousin to be born...!!!!

Thank you for sharing your story with the world! This is such an important topic and one many women have to experience alone! May this conversation open the doors to many more; may it be a gentle guide…an invitation for more empathy for those who are going through a similar experience❤️❤️❤️

Congratulations Rachel; you are a trailblazer & an amazing woman 👏💃🏃‍♀️

Brilliant delivery Rachel, you are brilliant. Inspiration for those who may feel helpless.