The AITA Subreddit is Maddening

Ok, its a normal thing but there is a way to wrap up ur sanitary items so that everything is t just wide open. I know a ton of woman who are not sanitary abt it. Thats gross. Im a woman and i dont wanna see ur bloody pad or tampon all in the open. Wrap them up.

Ok at first I was just pissed and while I’m not excusing this I’m willing to give them some grace after them being receptive after the presentation. They all still need to have a long talk about all this

I NEED to know what was on the powerpoint!!!!!

This one actually strangely gives me hope 😂

Wish we could access that powerpoint. XD

Step-father is the major ASSHOLE.

OMG I know a woman who told her son to tell his girlfriend not to dispose of her used menstrual products in the bathroom waste basket because her husband was icked out. Ummmm, so what exactly is that waste basket there for?? Is she supposed to carry it into the KITCHEN to throw it away? And why, pray tell, is a grown man with a wife and 3 kids so disturbed by a completely natural body function? GROW UP! SMH.

I will say it is gross when u don’t wrap your tampon in toilet paper. I wrap that shit up like im shipping drugs

story time: I was in my early 20's aswell was my bf at the time. We had found out I was pregnant and his family offered us to live with them til we saved enough money for a new place. We lived with his family for nearly the entire pregnancey. We finely found an apartment for our new family and began packing. That week the septic tank started baking up into the yard. So my bf's dad and a septic tech were outside staring at this hole for a long time. Both my bf and I got curious and walked out to see what was going on with the 2 of them. The hole was filled with tampons and condoms. My bf also has 2 sisters, one in her 20's and the other in her late teens. Me nearly ready to pop and looking like i was carring twins goes"well it wasn't us" 😂. My bf's dad and the tech lost it, they said I helped break the tension. And my bfs dad had a much needed talk with his daughters.

The ending made me happy, “periods for pricks” is so funny. Good on the mom/daughter for keeping their cool more than I would have

She is saving him a huge bill, from a plumber, by NOT flushing them down the toilet!

We got 2024 and still men with no basic hygiene or cleanliness try to shame women for the period that they can’t choose to have or not. How can a grown man and the older/teenage sons be so sensitive towards a period? Can you tell me? Unbelievable.

My ex had absolutely no problem with periods and would ask his sister if she needed anything and didnt shy away from helping with laundry that even had her period affected undergarments in it. (Not a regular thing for him to do her laundry. It was just if it was there and he was doing a load.) Still my favorite ex (didnt work out for other reasons. He is super cool.)

Throw menstrual products down the toilet? Enjoy the plumbing bill.

I have no problem with her using the same garbage (get a covered can, BTW), but I DO have issue with her not wrapping them! What did you think the wrapper of the new one was for? That is the comfort compromise.
That being said, teach your sons better. At some point, they are statistically likely to have women in their adult lives.
Update: The ladies in your home are legends! Still covered garbage can and wrap used products!

He's a jerk but at least he apologized

It's 2024 and people are still getting offended by periods... will the world ever grow up?

Ok so I’m gonna be real gracious and give him the benefit of the doubt cause we as a country just don’t teach boys how women’s bodies work most of the time. But boy oh boy, was it gross that he did not even mention addressing the skid marks with his sons.
Poo on the seat: that’s normal.
Tampon in the trash : oh, we gotta put a stop to this!

Good on mom and step daughter because my first thought was what are the sons gonna do when they start living with a girlfriend or wife? 😂

Yep yep. I had a similar stupid discussion with a male flatmate years ago about disposal of menstruation products. And it caught me off guard as i never had complaints from my family, especially my younger brother, or my boyfriends before. It didnt occure to me there are men in this world in this century that have a big ick problem with this topic until then.
Maybe i should have done a powerpoint presentation plus quiz for him, but then again, why should it be our task to educate them?!

Thank God for that powerpoint working.

Points to the guy for accepting the schooling, though. What a schmuck. I would have agreed if his complaint was that she throws pads away without wrapping them. You ever try to pull out a trash bag that’s stuck in a bunch by a fleet of sticky discarded pads? Rage inducing. I’ve taken my son’s part for that one and made my daughters change the bag exclusively until they learn to wrap the old one in the cover from the new one so we don’t have this problem.

He was being a prick. Good on the women for the class. Glad the father and sons seem to have learned and grown from the experience.

This whole family is gross….🤢

Just.... don't look in the bin? Why is that not an immediate option 😂

“Just flush them” is as ignorant as “Can’t you hold the blood in?”

Without listening yes you are the AH

Sorry got to say it I’m female I moved in with my father who I didn’t really know and my brother when I was eleven after extremely traumatic time , within a month of going to court I started a new school in a new place with new people and just for fun started my dam period. I was living with two males I had to adapt, life kind of insists on it ,this man in the post mentioned is doing a disservice to his sons his partner and his stepdaughter. Step up and parent teach your sons . Also would he still complain when the toilet blocks up. Ridiculous

Dude, yes, YOU are the asshole. 🎉Step away from your position slowly, without turning your back to your wife and stepdaughter. Congrats, you get to live another day.

Yup you are indeed the asshole 😂 and you are able to clean your skids. Menstruation is natural and not her fault.
Well done the girls teaching you how to grow up😂

Wow I can't control the fact that I bleed, but you don't want your son's to find out their future wives will also bleed... I'm glad your wife and step daughter educated you, you needed it!!! 🤔

Bro clearly knows nothing about sanitary products... Because flushing them down the toilet will completely clog the pipes, which will end up being a way worse mess than just throwing them in the trash

His fragile sons are gonna cry when they have a wife and baby. There's gonna be shit, vomit and blood.

Should have discussed with the wife and asked her to ask daughter to at least wrap her tampons and pads so it isn’t gross. I don’t want to see it and I’m 54 with 3 grown kids. He is definitely the ahole. Shouldn’t even be bringing it up to a stepdaughter. And dude what the hell? You four males need some education apparently on how women’s bodies work, how plumbing works and omg, you’re gonna sometimes see stuff in life you think is gross! Let me guess the step mom still has to handle and wash your sons’ crusty sheets?

Whatever happened to mutual respect?

EXCUSE ME?!

UNLESS YOU WANT HER TO CHANGE IN HER BEDROOM OR IN THE BATH SHE WILL CHANGE ON THE TOILET. SHE IS BLEEDING AND THE TOILET IS THE ONLY PLACE SHE CAN CHANGE WITHOUT CAUSING HARM TO THE FURNITURE.

SHAME ON YOU.

‘Flush it down the toilet’ lmao, I’d do it as malicious compliance. Enjoy unplugging the toilet, fcker.

Hilarious! First of all, If she started flushing that stuff down the toilet causing frequent back ups and overflows y'all would have been hysterical with her for the filth and inconvenience. I have no problem with you adding on a bathroom -- for your sons. She shouldn't have to share with them. Sheesh. If it really bothers you so much in the meantime, get a red metal trashcan with a foot-pedal, liner bags, and a strong lid, put one of those scented stick-ons under the lid, and allow her to have exclusive use of this can for her period waste. Then put the boys on a roster rotating which one of them is in charge of emptying the trash can and putting in a new liner. They'll need to learn to deal with this if they ever do get married. Might as well start helping out now with the production of the future human race. (We menstruate so we can make babies so the human race can continue. It's important work, painful work, and nothing to be ashamed about.)

Although I have to say, not wrapping the used sanitary product is just gross. No one wants to see that. Wrap them in toilet paper or the wrapper they came in. Men and boys need to get over themselves and learn to live with menstruation.

My mum educated both me and my older brother on periods (outside of what we learned at school- also we don't separate genders when learning about that stuff where I'm from which helps) and to this day my brother has impressed all his girlfriends by not only not being disgusted by them (because it's frickin' natural and the human race relies on it to continue and all that) but also going as far as picking up their pads/tampons from the store for them. He even knows more brand names than I do. He picked some up for me once and asked which brand (listing them all out) and asking which flow he should buy for as well as asking if I wanted winged pads or not. Even I'm impressed by his knowledge. I pray for the OP's sons.. at least they got the education at some point but it feels very late for them to gain this knowledge and they obviously already adopted their father's stigma of it's gross and inconvenient for them (to which I say no shit, how do you think us women feel dealing with it firsthand?)

This whole family must learn mindfulness. Father on how communicate well, without sounding like a dictator or misogynist. Mother supposed to teach her daughter early on how to dispose the hygiene product properly. Mother probably do the same but father doesn’t mind? Anyway, it’s good to put the used pads in a sanitary bag or cover it. It’s not only the look, but the fishy bloody smell lingering in the bathroom. It makes me uncomfortable smelling my own. Others would be more uncomfortable. Also, think about the guys working to sort your garbages! Last, the boys must be taught to clean the bathroom after use. Do they think it’s parents’ job or women’s job to clean the house?

I literally just yelled, "SANDWICH BAGS?!"

Periods for Pricks Presentations FOR ALL!!! I had an ex freak out bc he opened a draw in my bathroom with unused sanitary products 🙄 another said my mom used lil brown bags for her used pads, why can’t you? 🙄

Okay, I vote that she flushes them down the toilet, n let the stupid step dad pay for it

2024 man. You and your sons really need to grow up! I am a woman, living with my husband and 3 sons. Of course I told them what‘s happening while bleeding. Please understand it‘s not your stepdaughter „making“ your sons feel uncomfortable.
If they don‘t understand what‘s going on and support her, they need some education and compassion.
I really hope they don‘t treat their girlfriends like that…

A separate small trash can with a lid would solve the problem. I’m a woman and I don’t like looking at used pads in the trash. It’s a natural, biological occurrence, but used pads are not pleasant to look at.

This video is such an interesting example of how much we assume and how much those assumptions affect how reasonable the people in the story are.

For instance I assumed the products were being wrapped in toilet paper or their original package as I always do so, but some comments gave me very unpleasant flashbacks to working as an usher that often had to clean bathrooms at a movie theater and reminded me that not everyone wraps their products before discarding them. The stepdad and stepbrothers' discomfort is much more understandable if the products were completely unwrapped.

Further there must be a regional difference in the term "skid marks" because I had only heard of it in relation to poop to refer to marks left in the underwear, which I assumed the stepdaughter would have seen (best case) while doing laundry or (worst case) in underwear left lying around. It was not until someone argued that toilet brushes were literally designed to remove skid marks that I realized some people use them to refer to marks in the toilet (but not before a horrifying second where I thought someone used a toilet brush on their body and thought it was normal).

I think in the story the stepdad must have meant in the toilet because it makes his "not a fair comparison" a little more sensical, as it's not a condemnation of the boys' bodily hygiene but does suggest the toilet needs to be cleaned more frequently (with four teenagers using it, probably daily).

So, depending on your initial assumptions, this story was either about a man being completely unreasonable about necessary hygiene products being used in his home while his sons leave soiled underwear lying about, or a story about someone having very reasonable discomfort but being a little uneducated about the appropriate request to correct it (under no circumstances flush period products).

She should wrap them in a tissue or something, but if your sons can't handle the realities of human reproduction, it's their problem. As far as the "it's my house" argument, he's definitely the AH.

This is so funny: wh3n I heard about the power point presentation I started to applaud loudly and then you did the exact same! 😂

Also if I was her I'd've started 'using period products' in their bedrooms just to gross them out even more.