"I'm Fine" - Learning To Live With Depression | Jake Tyler | TEDxBrighton

Thank you for sharing this🤍

I’ve been living with dark thoughts and self hatred since I was about 9 years old.

Depression isn't just feeling "down" or "sad". Someone that is legit depressed isn't trying to "seek attention" nor a "drama queen". This is how people perceive depression but these are the same people who haven't gone through it.

I'm 22 years old and began therapy 7 months ago. I realized I was depressed my whole life. This realisation hurts me so much because it adds fuel to my depression. If I have gone through it my whole life, when will it get better? It's really hard. Sometimes the depression just hits me hard out of nowhere. I doubt myself; is it part of me?

I guess I'm okay
not being okay.

Sometimes I wake up after a good dream, and spend the first -10 minutes of my day digesting that those feelings I felt in that dream, those are feelings I haven't felt in a very very long time. I dont know how to explain it. Maybe its the feeling of being "whole". Idk. I usually describe it like, It feels like im an old kerosene lantern. Got reminded breifly of what it feels like to have that internal light that warms you up. You realize how empty you are. And it makes you wanna go back to bed.

My best friend i knew since i was 6 years old, killed himself in 2017. It has destroyed my life, but i have learned to deal with it.

The haunting thing is that the last thing he said to me was ,"I have to go soon". I had no idea.

Sometimes
I look back at thpse messages and take solace in the fact, i was the last person he spoke to.

Its not they want to die all they want just the peace.

This is harder to watch and my heart hurts as I try to hold in cry. I know I’ll be okay. I am strong. It’s only temporary and it hurts a lot. Thank you for reminding me I’ll be okay. I was diagnosed as Bipolar II this week. Its exhausting

I literally cannot imagine not having suicidal thoughts daily, how does that even work? What else do you think about when you're alone with your thoughts?

You know whats worse?
Living in a underdeveloped country where depression is not a thing, they say depression is just an excuse for lazy people. (Thats what mama said 🥲)

"Poor people cant afford to be depressed"

I am depressed every day

My son has type 1 diabetes, my daughter has severe anxiety. Their father died from Covid 2 yrs ago. I can't make things about me but I'm struggling

The thing about who suffer from depression and mentally illness is that they are the most beautiful people, they are smart and intelligent people that people don't even spot what they are suffering from.
We who know are suffering has been knows how its like to be that way, we become i, myself. There is no such thing as a we, us, or such thing as together. Yes, it's true we need to speak out and we often get advise to voice out and ask for help but the truth is,,, what i find out is... You only ask for help you that there are people who can.


Bottom line...... Iam okay. I'll will be fine.

I enjoyed the talk. What you did, many of us cannot do. I can't take 6 months to do anything due to financial situations. And if i went on social media to tell the world my struggles, i wouldn't get much of a response. Im happy it worked out for you.

My pathway to my own future is very unclear. Sometimes you can't see an answer.

That was pretty deep. Nobody "wants to die"! We all have moments of struggle. But when seek help is not an option and the future fades, de suicidal grain turns into a tree. It is pretty hard to bear it on your shoulders.

I have been depressed for about 25 years now. A couple of hours ago I realised that this is the best time of my life. Until now.
Still depressed. But things are better and looking up.
Fight on the good fight friends.

I smoked DMT and it 100% cured my depression

I have no friends! I live the same life and it starts getting boring now

Me currently feeling so awful and hoping this helps bring me out of a funk 😞

I need to know what meds work for y’all

Did anyone else get the warning message from YT 🤦‍♂️

"Change happens through movement, and movement heals" Joseph Pilates

That question gives me anxiety "how are you?" Just makes me cringe because I have to lie.

Im so depressed it sucks :/ and i always feel like a burden

I can relate to all the feelings. I'm very happy the speaker found his answer to relief. For those of us who don't have the luxury to go on an extended hike, what are we supposed to do?

Im suffering from severe depression at this very moment, my friends try to be here for me...god bless them...but they have their own lives and families, i dont want to burden them...i cant eat even though im hungry,i dont know how im going to function at work when this weekend ends.....it feels so bad....im having suicidal thoughts....i just want this to end....

There comes a moment after you begin to notice that you're doing better when you realize that food has flavor. One day, I woke up and realized that my first thought wasn't to check the time and count the hours until I was able to go to sleep again. I identify so much with what this man has said about the experience of living with depression, particularly how it tends to creep in and fade away. I'm at a point in my life right now where I feel okay, but I live in fear of the depression creeping in so slowly that makes it so I don't notice until it's bad again.

I was finally diagnosed with depression (and anxiety) back in March. I had a really hard February and I couldn’t keep it all buried or to myself any longer. I exploded to my best friend. She helped me get help. I’ve lived my entire life never confiding in a friend or family member. Not until that day the dam broke. I’ve been on medication on 6 months now. Most days have been good, while others get a unannounced visit from my depression, like right now. When I was newly medicated, I remember thinking back between February to that previous November and realizing that I couldn’t tell you if the sun shone at all those days. Like the world was overcast. I also remember wondering why I can’t be happy. Like I can’t get a grasp on it. Anyway, I know I’d be much worse off had a not been diagnosed or medicated. I tell my best friend all the time that she saved my life. Good luck to you all who feel heavy, we’ll make it through. ♥️

Depression affects brain and other parts of body,relationship , job, education and .....its really difficult to live like this.we need to find a harmless solution

Name looks familiar

I had the privilege of seeing this live in 2017. I had just recently lost two people to suicide. Tears were streaming after hearing ‘I don’t want to die, I want to live forever’. So powerful. Well done Jake ❤

What an absolute inspiration

Depression really hits differently when you're stuck with no one to talk to. It's like that moment when you're just like, "Wow, there's legit no one I can spill my feelings to." Everyone else is wrapped up in their own issues, and you don't wanna bother them with your own mess.

Yes, Depression is BIG! The hardest thing I still fight through. It never quite completely goes away, but thankfully there is help and med’s that can help manage it. I pray for anyone and everyone going through this! 🙏🏼

A friend of mine told me some time ago, I would be so chilled and in a good mood, and I thought, yes it is only four days to suicide day, what do you expect? It's interesting how little other people know you, even your friends. I have depression for 18 years now, but still could do my jobs so no one really noticed. I tryed to talk about it many times but no one wanted to listen. People just see the outside picture and don't want to know any more. Even knowing I cope with everything really well what is expected from me, the only thing I think about waking up is, why I couldn't just have died in my sleep.

IDK. I've talked about my depression until I'm blue in the face and cognitively know I'm not alone. It still doesn't seem to help. I just start feeling a bit more depressed knowing it's a common human experience. Ive been to therapy and hand over my hard earned cash to be told my feelings are understandable and a whole bunch of other stuff I already know. I exercise every day. I no longer drink alcohol. I read books, make plans, kick goals, I have a loving family, eat well etc. None of it brings me any joy. I just do all of those things with a great sense of unhappiness. My only relief is knowing that one day I won't wake up and I won't be suffering anymore.

He wanted to hear his mom’s voice ❤

I am feeling awful today I want to go into a whole

I've been living with depression for 40 YEARS, on and off. Sometimes the spells last for months at a time. I can't imagine someone understanding what it's like unless they've experienced it themselves.

I cried this whole video. Idek why fr.

I told my school I was depressed. They suggested I drop out

I live with suicidal ideation daily every day

"Another fun day" in a plain monotone is always my answer.

To the person seeing this 8477th comment...how are you?

How are you really doing today? Are you okay...that's great! Are you not doing well...that's okay too! Allow yourself to not be okay, if you current aren't. No room for shame or guilt. It's okay to feel as you are, unapologetically. If needed, there's a book I read called "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels that is pretty good...helped me with a different perspective, basically that I don't have to identify with depression. May your day be filled with a few minutes of peace..if not hours :)

Thank you

I've been living with depression most of my life but i feel like its now starting to get to me.🥺

Thank you for providing your time.

But when you do try to tell a outsider you feel depressed and ill guarantee they think here we go talking about himself again!that’s the reaction I get anyway

If people try to tell you that depression and anxiety isn't real, tell them that politics and Societal standards aren't real because most of these people can whine about depression and anxiety but hate it when you confront them about their pathetic excuse for problems. If people can get upset when someone dies, we can be depressed and anxious but hey society is on a one way trip to destruction 😂

Army guy here. This is crippling to me. I keep all of my depressive thoughts to myself. And I'm afraid that it will culminate in not being here anymore. Whether from self medicating or by becoming too upset to stop myself. As a veteran of 50 months of combat in the ME and getting ready to retire, I am scared to death of retiring. Will I fit in? Is there anyone in my neighborhood that will understand me? Will I be the weird old guy? It. Is. Scary. I went in to do what I thought was right. But, now I come out into a world that is so terribly different now. I don't know what to do and I find myself drinking and mediacting to detract myself from all of it. I just want to reset myself, but all I see are horrible thoughts and images that won't stop me from waking up every night. I have forgotten what its like to be normal. I don't remember what's like to have a child's enthusiasm of adventure without consequence. Now i'm living the consequence and I can't unrember it and suffer most nights. This video has helped me to take steps to get help. I just am too afraid to get help. And what that means for my career and my family's funds. I think I know what to do, but I'm not sure if I can do it. But, I'll try. Maybe I'll see you later.