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Your videos are always so helpful, I have been gaining a lot of knowledge and understanding from them. The only thing I don’t know how to manage is the verbal abuse from the betrayed. I know the anger and rage needs to be expressed but when will the verbal abuse stop? It was an issue prior to the affair and now it is the worst it’s ever been because of my actions. If the betrayer is accepting responsibility, trying and doing the work and trying to rebuild. When does the verbal abuse stop?
ОтветитьSounds grwat until the narcasistic psycosis leaves you broke ,betrayed,or worse. HERresponsibility peeiod. Getting an understanding is awesome but no excise
ОтветитьEasy to say when you're the cheater. It's not so easy when you are the cheated on.
Ответитьgiven up
ОтветитьA boat full of emotions making you feel to leave while living in the cruel world where the betrayer just wants to enjoy giving more and more pain. 😢 10 years of the love just thrown away by a one day stranger.
ОтветитьI’m about to take the harboring hope course. I fear this betrayal will hurt forever. I’m living in HELL
Ответить23 years later and i still have intrusive thoughts.
Ответить5 years later and right after she had completely changed for the better for us but the trauma feels worse than the first few years after finding out. Don’t know why but I’m trying.
ОтветитьI’m in a new relationship and I have been experiencing terrible hyper-vigilance and intrusive thoughts about infidelity and betrayal. It’s soul crushing because he isn’t my ex- this is supposed to be about us building something new. But here I am feeling so stuck in past trauma
ОтветитьThat last part hit home so much. I feel like it’s a huge barrier and sends me pushing myself away
ОтветитьI made him leave , and no contact, that alcoholic, narcissistic , player, 3.5 months later, I have anxiety and depression, etc.. :(
ОтветитьOf course a cheater would minimize trauma. As a man who’s in fact the betrayed it’s really hard to listen to you bro
ОтветитьMy H has been fully committed to my healing. He is doing everything in his power now. The first 5 days were really rough. A lot of arguing, blaming etc. Then he just ignored me and acted with no remorse. Until we talked he didn't blame me, he took full responsibility and apologized. Here's my question.... what about hysterical bonding? After 5 days of being so angry and hating him...I now just want to be near him and have sex etc. Is this normal? I guess he was allowing me to be angry the first 5 days.
ОтветитьThis describes 2 people who are both willing to do the work. It's not helpful where the betrayer makes little effort
ОтветитьI am ok , unless I get a reminder from a song or something someone might say. That brings the memory back .
ОтветитьMade me reject dating and intimate relationships all together.
ОтветитьMy husband and I have been married almost 6 years. We have three young children and he works two jobs and I do in home daycare. We do not get much free time or time together and we definitely have let our relationship take a back seat. I found out this week that he slept with someone. A random person from a bar. He got wasted and left with her and they had sex. And I am devastated. I have never felt this type of pain. He is the nicest, kindest person and I’ve NEVER imagined this could happen. Ever. But now I don’t know what to do. He has moved into his parents for now. Our kid’s don’t know what’s happening but they know something is off. I am just unsure how to ever let it go.
ОтветитьI'm 2 weeks after discovery...I thought we got a game plan going but today I'm all distraught all over again. Crying, withdrawn, angry, hopeless..... normal? Are these swings normal? Just feeling alone...
ОтветитьYou are a lucky man that Samantha is still with you..i have just had my partner do this to me you are right i lash out not in a physical way But I'm not the same as i was .he is trying and he is giving time he dose listen. . I will be honest when i see that selfish side come out i do cut him back down. (Words) because that is sets me off seeing the greedy side of him . Im still with him and will be if he keeps trying. Your videos did make him see what he has done thank you both for your story's
ОтветитьWas he the one who cheated? Where is Samantha to tell her story?
Ответитьive only gotten worse in the past few years, unfortunately. though im kinda envious of those who are able to recover and come out of this rebuilt, im still happy for them. however, i just want people to remember that, in reality, not all of us are so lucky so please still try to understand or show empathy to those of us who are changed forever.
ОтветитьI feel like if a person reacts badly to their trauma it should be expected. The other person did the nasty deed of cheating.
ОтветитьHi
ОтветитьShe slept with him many times and had an affair for 4 years. Now when he was blackmailing her , she was remorseful and repentance crept in and she disclosed me everything...What should I do ??
ОтветитьIt’s different for everyone
ОтветитьI also wish I had a success story. But my ex didn’t want to work on fixing our marriage. He blindsided me when I came home from work one day by telling me he was in love with an old friend of his. He said he’d loved her for 40 years!!! We had been married for 38 years and together for 39 years. So he left me for the other woman and never looked back. The divorce was finalized 11 months later. Guess he’s happy now but I’m still shell shocked.
ОтветитьAnother helpful video. Thank you, Samuel!
ОтветитьSo true!
ОтветитьMay i ask what if my wife no longer wants to fix it
ОтветитьIt’s been 6 months since it happened
She came and took him away. Yes, a few days after we got back together. They don’t talk to each other at all since he came back, but I think about it everyday.
I can’t get over it.
I forgive but I don't forget.
ОтветитьI wish I had a success story but I don’t! He pushed me further away with how he handled the affair. The trauma I’ve experienced is like no other and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Thanks for the video because it sums how I feel up perfectly.
ОтветитьI feel like I'm drowning. And I know she does. I hate myself for hurting her... And one of the few things I pride myself on, is being a brutally honest person, and now she thinks I'm this awful person incapable of the truth.
ОтветитьDrowning victim is good analogy, and not to make light of this sometimes terrifying event... but as a person of faith, I never thought I would be so baptized. I am the betrayed, wildcat. The unfaithful hold a preserver if they commit to casting it rightly. Even if they don't there is LIVING WATER.
ОтветитьHow long do I have to wait for her to come clean? Should i wait till we see a therapist in 2 weeks? I'm ready now to take the whole thing on at once as opposed to slowing being told about this and that over a period of time.....what if she's not completely truthful when coming clean? What do I do???
ОтветитьNo it is not ten inches of water!!! It is the deepest water!! 😢😢😢
ОтветитьI get angry then blame myself I feel the fool and inadequate I want things to be better but it's hard to forget nor forgive
ОтветитьThis is very dodge speak .... not really dealing with the core problems
ОтветитьI can’t believe this is happening to my marriage after 23 years and for the most part 19 years of us being best friends. Thank you for all your videos you are helping me cope to the best ability that I can. You are all such a blessing.
ОтветитьBest info
ОтветитьMy husband has cheated with his ex over the 8 years we've been married. When I found out he apologized but he did it again . I forgave him the first time but now it's happened again. I don't trust him now that he's saying it's over for good.
ОтветитьWell he married the adultress that broke us up..Neither are remorseful for what they've done.
ОтветитьMost hurtfull,destructive experience ever,a rollacoaster of emotions.
ОтветитьThere is no REAL GOOD payoff for infidelity. Thank you for teaching from the inside
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