How To Help Someone With OCD

thank you for the NG PART, made me feel I am not alone. Also thanks for the tips, I will work on it with my bf.

Me, with ASD, had trouble understanding the meaning. Maybe the music too loud? Maybe too many impersonal pronouns? Am confused about my role as spouse.

what are some ground rules helping someone with OCD. My wife has been battling it.....she becomes severely verbally abusive to those that dont participate in rituals.

This is really interesting and helpful. I find it really hard to validate my loved ones feelings without them feeling like I’m just being patronising. I genuinely mean what I’m saying but they don’t like to hear it. Is it because I’m doing it wrong or because they don’t want to hear it because they’re trying to avoid their feelings?

What about someone who ocd’s about heat being turned on cause they are so cold. Even when it’s 80 out. She always says she doesn’t feel it. Wants it higher, won’t wear extra clothing sometimes . We have a heated vest and when you have a solution she gets worse

Sir i came accross to your video today and this seriously helped me understanding how to make someone feel validated and relaxed by skmply acknowledging their things.

Request you if you can pls bring few more videos on how to practically validate their feelings keep reiterating them.
And more insights how we can make them feel relaxed in their journey

This is very truthful about my mom, I didn't get it at first, by now I wanna learn how to help her cope. It's not easy being on the other end, I know that much.

queria que esse vídeo tivesse leve legendas que igual aos seus outros vídeos, também tenho TOC é sou aqui do Brasil

In other words , them being crazy will drive you crazy 😵‍💫

Sorry to say...what you say..! Not at all to the point...🙄 lol

Do you have any recommendations for how a friend can help someone who has ROCD with a compulsion to talk about the relationship? Are there certain times its okay to talk about the relationship, or should all conversations about the relationship just be cut out entirely?

One thing that has helped me is to remind my spouse that his worries about what could go Wrong have often helped us.

that I appreciate him considering all aspects of actions because I don’t. And that allows me to then say that his job is to look for dangers and my job is to help see the big picture

This sometimes lets him feel like he can explain all his fears which allows me to pause and see what part of what he is saying seems reasonable and what does not. I find that people are far more responsive to you if you can agree with part what they’re saying as long as you legitimately agree with it.

What if your spouse gets extremely triggered when you imply they have ocd and uses facts to prove they do not have it?

This video describes me exactly. I didn't realize I used SO MANY accomodations. I got aggravated. Wow.

Write down all accommodations

I have tried to to everything that u said, but my sister is always telling me that she will commit a suicide if i dont answer her questions like she wants to hear, i am afraid to stop doing it for her cuz i dont want to lose her.

I know I’m annoying and people are tired of me, I hate myself so much at times I just need someone to understand and help me!! I get very angry and I get my heart rate and blood pressure goes up so high I feel out of control I’m so tired!!! But I know there help and I going to do my part and help and forgive myself I am worth it!

ever since i found this channel, it's started to almost feel like watching your vids is becoming a compulsion itself lol

that's how helpful you are

Thank you sir.

You talk (give examples) way too much

Hi thank you for this video my partner has just been diagnosed with OCD and I myself have ADHD, I found it a little bit hard to follow along with your video but with a few re-watches I think I’ve grasped it! Thanks

I have a new type of ocd where I said to my partner all the jokes I think are messed up and he agreed and then I had to repeatedly tell him that I don’t think he is a bad person and I never assumed he would think those type of jokes are okay and I get really really anxious that he is gonna think I think he is a messed up person when I don’t

The stress with my girlfriend of 4 years OCD has gotten to the point where I have to prepare for chaos constantly. I can't do anything right, like I made the bed wrong (maybe the comforter is higher on the left than the right.) It got to the point where I just gave up. Why do it at all and get yelled at when I get yelled at for doing it wrong?😥

Hi, thank you very much for this video, I hope you can help me.
My boyfriend suffers from OCD and I used to think reassurance was helpful, I feel quite dumb right now because if you think about it it's obvious that reassurance is just another compulsion.
The only problem is that some of his biggest fears are to hurt me or to not respect my consent. Asking for consent is very important and everyone should do that, but he takes it to an extreme level. The problem is that if he asks for my consent I don't think is okay if I don't properly answer, I mean, when we talk about consent there's no space for doubts: you can do the thing only if you're sure your partner agrees.
How should I manage that aspect? 90% of the reassurance I give him is for example while we are kissing or when we are in intimacy

A lot of this stuff I was doing naturally with my ocd partner. I have anxiety and I actively try not to entertain my own anxiety. So his request I am always assessing for toxicity in my own recovery. It’s been very combative. Especially with the pandemic and me being pregnant. He wants me to live in a sanitation tornado. I refuse.

My wife suffers severely from ocd mainly in cloroxing everything and being a catastrophist. We struggle a lot because I am an intp and she is and enfj personality type. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but I’m trying to change the way I am logically wired to not avail. This video made me realize I can definitely be more compassionate but this will be quite the journey for us.

I'm in a relationship with someone who has contamination ocd. She just started therapy about three months ago. There hasn't been to much progress or atleast in my eyes. Theres still off limits places in the house I gotta shower atleast three times a day. I can't sit in the living room near the door, go to the garage, go outside without showering, and she doesn't seem very motivated to get better. I'm so burned out. I'm thinking about leaving her because I don't wanna live my whole life managing her condition

My brother has really bad ocd everyday I don’t know what about but he is really really deep into it and doesn’t want help and is just tired and is done with it and I really want to help
But I don’t know what to do or say if anyone has any tips or things to say to fix it please let me know

My friend who is diagnosed with OCD has been fighting with the thoughts since his childhood he's 17 now (will be turning 18 this nov) he's the strongest person I have ever meet, no one in his family believes that OCD is some real condition and they don't understand him at all, I just can't see him suffering like this, most of the time he won't talk to me about how he's really feeling but I could make out by the way he zone out at times. When he opened up to me about this, he told me that i helped him a lot and that I'm still helping him cope up with those thoughts, he says that he is attached to me and that my text messages and calls make his thoughts disappear for that moment. So ever since that day I've been doing such things to help him. But both of us know that he needs to be treated for OCD or its gonna be hard for him as he ages. We are clueless about what to do without his family's support. But He keeps on telling me that my help is enough and he'll cope with it by himself. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME?

Thank you for all your helpful videos. My 15 yr old son is seeing a therapist on Monday for what we would call the religious ocd. He has taken a major turn for the worse and has become immobile toward normal things like sitting...eating... basic life decisions. We made a visual reminder of how the rituals keep the compulsion going and vise versa along with the steps to give him the power to do some of the activities he listed himself. He has so far done about 10 of them which he feels proud of but for sure is exhausting process. I came across this part of your videos just as he wanted to make a sandwich and was stuck. I reassured him to go to his visual plan to arrive at how he can complete the desired activity. He started to ask more revolving reassurance questions but said...love you...believe in you ..and want you to try this on your own. Need to follow up but I need a quick break when I saw this. Our whole family is super supportive but it has been intensely heartbreaking to watch. Hoping I'm helping toward completing the activity when we finally meet with the therapist but we can't wait days and continue to accommodate the ritual either. We certainly hold zero shame or feelings like such over him for needing those constant reassurances but figured we want to help him make forward movements as well. And actually after each action his stress level is only at a 3 which is giving him hope! Love my son and so thankful for his openness about this difficult time. Thank you so much !!!

I really want to listen to what you’re saying but unfortunately the music is a little too loud and distracting. Thank you for making this, just wanted to give some constructive feedback.

thank you for this video. My friend has OCD, shes seeing therapist but I want to be a support for her as well. Normally I would try to talk her out of it with logic, research and data but thanks to you I'm going to be supportive and make sure that she feels understood. That was really helpful thx so much <3

Please add subtitles to your videos

It's really hard 99.9% of the time living with somebody with OCD. Most days I feel like I'm gonna tear my hair out. Sometimes I even snap which I feel guilty about when doing. Any helpful tips to manage this?

What do you do if your loved one with OCD is an authority figure so you get in trouble when you don't help them with their compulsions or follow their rules? And how do you know the difference between a rule that is actually beneficial to the family or a rule that is only there to ease the mind of the person with OCD? And with COVID it's hard to tell if they're genuinely scared for my health or if they just don't want any possible contamination in the house.

some of my friends suffer from ocd and i want to learn more about the disorder and how to help . this video was very helpful :)

It would be great if you can put the spanish subtitles for the people who doesn't speak English very well ( like me 😅😅😅) it is just a suggestion. I really appreciate your videos. I found them very helpful!
Pd: sorry if i made a mistake 😅

Or the people you life with are untrustworthy so you have to ask them questions over and over cuz they lie or do not keep themselves clean well during a pandemic. They're ok with being unhygienic with things like using raw meat & then touching things & get huffy when called out on it. Asking people to be accountable and notice their own behavior by calling it out to them isn't all that bad, yeah me asking after they cleaned up dog shit did you wash your hands is a good thing and needed, cuz they don't think it is but me asking them to burn their clothing afterwards is not productive.

I felt so heard in this video. My partner’s anxiety has been elevated since COVID and I’ve been accommodating to the point of exhaustion and resentment. I don’t want to keep going this way. Thank you!!

What would you recommend a loved one doing for someone that has religious scrupulosity?
For example they don’t want you to say anything negative about anyone ever. And you actually don’t want to say negative things about people you don’t want to gossip because you believe the Bible as well but they take it to an extreme. Should you start gossiping and saying negative things about people? Even when that has happened in an innocent way the repercussions have been extreme.

My parents recently told me that my cousin who I consider a best friend was diagnosed with OCD. I couldn’t stop crying bc I was so scared that I triggered them, or that I hurt them someone. This helped me a lot.

Some people with ocd really make your life hell

Hello Sir
I am experiencing the problem of washing hand several times in this covid - 19 situation. I was not like this before but from last 4 month i m going through this problem. Initially i want to wash hand with shop only if i touch something with comes from outside or if i go out. But day bay it increases and i started doing this after touching any object for example TV Remote, laptop, Hair Brush etc etc...i try so hard not to wash hand with soap after touching this things but when i don't wash my mind totally get disturbed... and the day i m so messed up thinking that will something happen...i know i m educated and a well adult human being i know nothing will happen but still i don't know how can i become so stupid and start thing all this. My family members shouts at me they scolds me for my this habit but making them socked make me feel like they don't understand me...Even they all are fully irritated from me because of my this habit..i m totally helpless plz help me sir.

ok so my online best friend has just found out that she has "OCD" and depressive mental disorders with psychotic elements and she also has social phobia and i rllly wanna help her but i dont know how as we havent even met irl :( and i searched bout this on internet , it is all related to suicides :( n i m very worried for her n i dont wanna loose her , she is everything to me
so pls help me to like how to like support her emotionally and like pls give some advices about what to do of this
plus she says she is feeling normal n relaxed n not much stressed bout this things but m worried for her alot :(( pls help asap , love ur content tho :) <3

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I think i might have come into contact with someone with OCD. This symptoms however isn't a form of perfectionist but rather a nosy obsession. for example, this person will snoop and pry really bad into people's personal business, and consistently ask close friends their personal affairs and can't sense that their behaviour is discomforting in being in people's business, but yet let no-one know about their life. On one occasion, this person went to the home of friend and changed the internet password. Going into panic attacks when facing a large group of people is a highlight i experienced with this individual. In addition to this, this person will do some creepy things behind your back which leads to a sense of disloyalty, so for that, i had to distant myself from this person. Can this person have OCD based on the symptoms i just mentioned?

Omg those are questions my husband asks.... I knew he had it but I didn’t realize how severe it was