5 BOUNDARIES You Must Set With Men In A Relationship!

so true , my ex mother in law RUIN my marriage by having a INCESTUAL EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIP with my ex husband i am a very HAPPY DIVORCE women

My ex boyfriend had these issues but I didn’t have boundaries. His mom sometimes used her sickness to manipulate him to aid her when he would be comfortable at my house

Hi Stephan. Thanks for this video. I’ve recently came across you on YT and learning different perspectives:-)

I have a question- what do you think about a situation where a 31 years old man lives close to his mum and visits her few times a week to collect dinner (she cooks for her, husband and his - the son)?

Mother also sometimes invited the guy (her son) out for a dinner and pays for it (as the husband doesn’t like to go out). The son doesn’t have a good relationship with the father (they don’t talk really), but very good with the mother.

Also, the mother pays for the son’s internet bill as it’s an old contract, therefore they from time to time need to go together to deal with bills etc.

At the same time the guy (son) has money - pretty big savings, earns decent amount and has a place - lives on his own in a rented apartment. And says about himself that he is rich, at the same time doesn’t even invite his girlfriend for a coffee, ice cream, pizza, dinner, cinema - anything really, even symbolic (not expensive).

What would you say? What do you think?

Thanks :-)

Well I just ended a relationship because of boundaries. For me it’s how you communicate with me. I addressed the issue before as you always say and of course respectfully because I’m not a hell raiser and he did it again. The first time I addressed the issue I left went back home and we live like 200 miles away from each other so it’s bad enough that the relationship is long distance and I go out my way to come out there to visit him and we have a disagreement about something and he flies off the handle which isn’t the first time I saw it, and so I addressed it before and I said listen this is not how I communicate we can disagree with each other respectfully but all of the flying off the handle and the drama I just don’t do. So when it happened again last week, I left when he was sleep and basically told him when I got home that this isn’t for me. Of course, he made it about me. Tell me I was a woman scorned because of my last relationship, but he didn’t even look at the fact that I left because of his attitude. for the last few months, there were little antennas sticking up in my head because I would see how easily frustrated he would get and he would throw his phone down or he’ll just be cursing up a storm mom and it could be something simple like the Internet went out when he was working, and so I thought to myself this might become a problem if this relationship really goes into long-term now it’s already been eight months which is long enough, but I just had to end it because that’s a big boundary for me. You get nowhere in a relationship if you don’t have respectful communication.

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Thank the LORD I just found you.

well I being a woman and hear you dance around excuses for why he may get involved. He's not mature. even at 70 . if that is the case. ladies detach and move on. this is BS. if he loves you this type of people he would not seek to have as friends so what's next he find himself in his homeboy's bed threesome with three men? come on its BS... Keep his family out of your business. You don't have to befriend his family you are marring him. Pay close attention of the family especially sisters and mothers. feel how they move. sister have more friend over all of a sudden, MOther has use to be around . you know what you are dealing with messy DOGS... naw how she talk to her spill it back to her... no you put her in check. to avoid all the BS MOVE OUT OF STATE.....

I failed to check all the 5 boundaries in this list 😅I learned too late, but at least I learned

Thanks for the information!

1.) Boundaries when he hangs with his male friends. (ie strip clubs, curfews, ) have these conversations early in relationship.
2.). Boundaries with his mother (time, $, sharing info,...)
3.) When No means No. - Speak up for yourself.
4.) Other women & ex's. -
5.) Social media
Be honest.

You're right, I totally agree. Again, it goes both way. This is really good information, because we do assume

I talk about all these things within the first month of getting to know a guy. Just make it sound like casual conversation.
When you go out see how much he drinks ...how he treats people...etc. alot can be in our face in the very beginning

If I was in the world, if you're OK with my going to a strip club, then I'm pk with you going; If you don't want me to go to them places, then why you want me to want you to go? Make sense?

For me, he can do anything or go anywhere as long as I’m always invited. You see, a man who is truly your twin flame. Both you and he won’t even want to be anywhere without the other. However, this is not including alone time in which everyone needs… plus, if there is trust. He/She should be able to go anywhere without you going with them. You won’t even think twice. Like for example: They go to the bar with friends. The bar is not your scene or you just don’t feel like going. Then, (as long as you were invited to tag along) then let them go out and have fun without you. If you have the right person then they can wag a steak in front of him/her and they won’t take a bite.

Equally problematic for relationships can be over involvement by children of another. If their ex's kids have a say in the relationship, it's a problem.

Mothers have zero business in the relationship.

Mothers have zero business in the relationship.

Sexual matters should not be discussed outside the relationship. They are private. A man who cannot maintain that level of dignity and trust is not worth your time. Only when sex therapy is needed should the topic be discussed with a therapist.

Worry about restrictions? A woman shouldn't have to place them! The man should know enough to place them upon himself. If he doesn't, he is not worth your time.