Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in Action (Part 1)

This was so well done! Thanks for making NVC easy to understand.
It is such an important topic for everyone to learn. .... but the concepts were not so clear from the articles I've read. Thank you again!!

Great..

Why do the subtitles not match what is said?

Thank you so much for this. It was so helpful. I get stuck that I am not the only person who blames, judges and criticise. Even when I accept this for my part the other person then make it like they were not judging, blaming. It was just me. And I am aware that's also a judgement on my part on them. But I guess I am not able to generate that kind of empathy and make it sound like I am the only one who is blaming and not them. I also know that this is not helpful. But I also don't want to take all the blame. Much appreciate if there is anyway to clarify this. With much gratitude. 😇😊🙏

What about talking about his needs??

Such a good example! Thank you for this short video which in quick manner represents how NVC works

That is it, what I have been looking for all my life :)

Recognize what you are experiencing and what you want to be experiencing is golden!

NVC is a religious cult.

you say "ok, cool" to her suggestion "go to museum, get lunch, go shopping" it seems me that you are totally bored with that suggestion and perhaps even resentful of that option. in fact, asking her "what do you want to do today?" is likely the beginning of the problem in this interaction, since you are disconnecting yourself from your needs and giving her the right to choose for both of you how to spend your day. then it seems like you want to take some of your individuality and power back, but you are afraid to do so and so you make a passive-aggressive joke "anything that does not involve your mom, huh?". I guess it's a nice example of violent communication, but the way I see it, the problem is in your relationship dynamics and your violent communication is just a symptom of your being disconnected from your own needs. then you give empathy to yourself and to her. now how about her giving empathy to you or you standing up for yourself and asking her to hear you out about your need for individuality and the need to be yourself in the relationship? that's the core issue for me in your relationship example.

Brilliant, thanks

Just submitted Russian subtitles for this part. Will do for part 2 and 3 tomorrow. Please, approve, so I can repost for my Russian students. We will focus on NVC dance at our next meeting, and I find these videos very helpful to watch before practice. Thank you in advance! And with a heart full of gratitude for letting me doing it. Hugs!

There is a reason for a man to criticise her mother, he still have unresolved feelings about her. He should opened up and tell her what is really bothering him. He didn’t express his needs.

It’s a struggle when the other person doesn’t have the willingness to go down this path of communicating.

helped!

How do you use NVC on covert narcissist who provokes you all the time in subtle ways and doesn’t admit if u confront?

It is really unnerving when someone uses NVC on you. They seem like a scripted person. You feel like there is this procedural wall that has come down between you and the other person.

Perfect messages !!! Congrats !!! 👍😊

This actually shows another conversation that this couple should have but they are not having, "I thinks that jokes hides a little pinch of honesty that your boyfriend/husband is not yours mom fan for some reason" show compassion today will not solve yours feelings towards her mom. You may avoid one argument today but I visioning another way bigger tomorrow.
Be honest is a need that doesn't always come in the package of nice words.

This is so ahead of my time ( at least here in italy ; for the moment ) ....fantastic!!!
could it be linked with compassion and loving kindness ?

it sucks

Very nice example. Thank you!

This was well done and very helpful.

my greatest fear is that my gf will say this to me one day as I am practicing. Thank you for this encouragement

Fantastic. Love how this was shot, as well as how effectively the video demonstrates NVC principles. Thank you for creating this and sharing with the world.

I enjoyed the way this was done -- the conversation, then, without "cutting scenes", a simple pan to the right, to focus on one speaker, and his "personal thoughts".

I see a lot of hyper-edited video, and I get this sensation that practice-as-an-activity becomes less common. Why practice, when one can edit the hell out of their work?

I think it can also be helpful, whether they spot that it's NVC, or are just generaly annoyed with your approach & language, to ask them what they don't understand, and search for other terms & strategies to meet the same need in you. But certainly you have to affirm that need for connection/understanding (as is done here) as the basis for your strategy. Because people dont just naturally assume/trust that's the goal. They want it to be though, so if you go as far as to request HELP from them, to meet your need in another way, they'll begin to trust it. Because you're willing to sacrifice strategy & co-create a new strategy with them. And of course, they can also tend to discover that they share the base need of connection & understanding. And they'll have invented NVC "2.0" with you, and be glad to use it in the future.

Love the honesty that ensues after getting in touch with feelings. Find practical prices like that reinforcing.

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I love it! It was played even in a very sincer way I find. This " you're doing the NVC thing again" really resonates and makes me feel understood, supported (not alone) haha-- laughter caused by recognition of self and joy

very well done