6 Simple Tricks to Get Your Spouse To Help Keep Your Home Clean Without Drama

If all I had to deal with was a towel on the floor, toothpaste in the sink etc I wouldn't care. That's small potatoes and I am not stressed by those sorts of things. My spouse literally makes stacks of garbage and dirty dishes beside wherever he sits. Whatever he pulls out stays wherever he drops it until I pick it up. If I don't pick it up it will continue to pile up and he will complain about how messy everything is. He will say he'll clean it up but it never happens and the mess keeps growing until I clean it only for the entire cycle to repeat. There is no hope. It's just chaos until the day I die.

Messy people was always messy

Lazy

Get clean or get out!

What about when you quit cleaning up after him, and it becomes a health hazard? I have thrown almost all my stuff away, just to keep up with the crazy amount of cleaning after him. Atm there are ducklings in one of the rooms. He keeps them in a cardboard box that has been sitting there wet and rotten at the base.. it stinks and the washer/dryer is in there, so all the mold goes straight into the clothes when drying.. my kids enzema have blown up, im guessing by the rotten mouldy sawdust on the floor. Its hard to get to clean because i keep tripping over stuff.. i am so done. I do realize that i am extreme about cleaning, but this is just too much..

What happens when you tell them it's affecting your mental health and they just don't care or make any effort to fixing it? And that just becomes another thing they view you as nagging about?

Pretty sure my spouse wants me to be miserable.

"I don't know why she left..." yeah ok...maybe if you listened the first 10 times.

Wild that we have to baby our spouces in the first place and remind them to pick up after themselves. Seems like common sense to be an adult that doesn't leave a giant mess behind every day for other people to pick up all the time. Have respect for yourself and the people/environment around you, that's what it really comes down to.

As a diesel mechanic im covered head to toe in fifth every day its not too much to ask to put on some clean clothes get in my clean truck and come home to my clean house. Unfortunately my ex wife didn't comprehend. She was open the car door and 20 things fall out kind of person we always took my vehicle wherever we went out. I completely remodeled the kitchen just for her custome counter top cabinets and hard wood floors that i custom cut and toung and groove myself but with all the clutter you couldn't see any of it.its like she didn't appreciate anything. She spent 11000.00 on a car just to be trashed out within a month. And then she had a dog that she never took care of it always stunk and always pissing and shitting everywhere.she wasn't a bad person she just didn't care about anything. When i was growing up every birthday and Christmas my mom would always say to us....now take good care of that you may never get another one. And I did. Now that im single my house is spotless! I feel so much more relaxed have more energy and i sleep better. From my personal experience being clean and organized really has a positive impact mentally. As mom would say..A place for everything everything in it's place.

I'm a messy person and having clutter around is not the end of world for me, but my hard limit is filth. My partner wasn't doing his share (that we had sit down and agreed to) so I stopped doing mine as well. I was very naive though, I was thinking that at some point the filth would bother him, yet it doesn't! I don't know what to do, if he doesn't step up I might be going for a break up

Yeah. My wife doesn't want me to clean up after me but keep trying to make me clean up after her

That's not what she did she said she didn't nothice

Unfortunately, it's not as easy as that if he doesn't want to do anything, he doesn't want to do anything, and i mean anything.
Some men simply couldn't give a crap about what us women want, Unfortunately, it has come to that now.

For me when you share a space as significant others, partnets, spouses or roomates it is blatsnly distespectful to not clean up brhind youtself.

My husband will take off clothes anywhere and everywhere. Wish it was next to the hamper or washer. I have to grab the hamper and walk into every room of the house and pick up his clothes. Milk cups and midnight snacks everywhere meanwhile leaving crumbs everywhere saying there’s nothing to do about the crumbs. How about eat over a plate? 😂I absolutely love him but this will not fly when the baby gets here. 😅