Should Moms Stay At Home? | Middle Ground

This was totally not even a “vs” conversation, it’s literally just a group of women sharing their experiences and supporting each other. Beautiful❤

As someone who was raised by an incredible SAHM, I truly believe it is one of the greatest blessings of my entire life. And working in a daycare solidified this opinion. I worked at a very nice daycare center, yet I was heartbroken by what I saw. It was nothing like what I experienced staying home with my mom, and it made me even more grateful than I already was. I also made the decision that I would do whatever it took to stay home with my kids. It is that important.

My sister is a SAHM to her 3 kids. She worked for 1 year. And she saw first hand how much her family suffered for that one year compared to when she was at home. She quit after the year and has stayed home ever since. She said the money was not worth it. Everyone suffered. Her kids behavior was worse, she always felt behind on housework, her marriage suffered. She struggled to have the time to cook and prepare healthy meals for her family in the same way. She said they ate out more that year than they ever had prior. It was truly remarkable to see the difference that year made.

This had to be the most emotional panel ever

Being a mom is hard regardless, both sides deserve credit 🎉

I wish there wasn’t the word “should” more often than not it’s not really a choice. I have to work

Why is it government(tax payers) duty to support the moms? Tax payers didnt ask anyone to have kids. It’s confusing.

Every single one of those women knows that a mom is more important than a dad, they just wanted to be politically correct.

This was beautiful to watch. I wish there was a question about infertility and planning maternity leaves.

All these women deserve a big hug. Every single one of them is so genuine and kind hearted. It breaks my heart that these people had to go trough so much.

Such a nice and supportive group of women. I love to see the compassion ♥️

FMLA covers maternity leave outside of your PTO (assuming your employer gives you PTO).

I hate the judgment we face as mothers. Like we can only work if there is an emergency or our husbands lose their jobs or if there are single mothers.
Why do we suddenly have to give up our dreams when we become moms? Dads don’t have that kind of expectation

What even is there to discuss? If you want to stay at home to look after your kid, and can afford to, do it. It's nobody else's business.

I think that the guilt that a Mom feels for leaving her children all day is cognitive dissonance. It's not natural for a mother to leave her children all day and it's a relatively new concept. I feel so much empathy for those that literally have NO other choice, but most families could downgrade their lifestyle for the benefit of their children. Daycare causes children's cortisol levels to rise and stay that way. They're stuck in fight or flight. I think that most parents just don't know the facts about it. The feminism movement was detrimental to our children.

It's better to have a close relationship with with your child ❤

These women's stories are so powerful. I love you and see you all

I’ve been on both ends , I was stay at home mom for 3 years , I’m back at work now but pregnant with baby #2. With my husband working 16 hour days , I am extremely burnt out and I’m exhausted , I will not be going back to work full time after maternity leave . Working is just not in the cards for me at this point . Once my second child goes to school , I’ll return back to work full time . I feel like im failing at both working and raising my daughter because of how tired I am

Would love to see a work from home mom vs stay at home moms to see what the different opinions are and how their daily schedules and lives are different.

I’m so glad mothers can relate to each other and especially what I went through and am still going through. It’s so hard…

I'm not sure if it was the prompts or this low key uneducated panel, but this particular episode was majorly lacking for me. I normally love these talks. But I never felt like there was an actual debate about the issue....it was kind of like just a vent sesh for a bunch of emo, guilt ridden moms who want to have it all, including for the government to legistlate that companies subsidize their personal choices.

You should do "single mothers by choice" (that's me!) and "single mothers by accident" or something equivalent.

I love mother's 💓

I did both I stayed at home with each of my children when they where pre schoolers and returned to work part time when they where 3/4 and full time when they where 4/5 I'm lucky with my youngest as I work from home 4 out of 5 days

I was stay at home for 2 years and heading back to work soon. Mostly because my family needs the money.
I’m doing work I never intended to do because I also was once a theatre artist.
We do what we gotta do for our babies and every mom on here is a super mom! Yes we are human but whatever we choose is out of love at the end of the day

I don't think I stopped crying this whole episode. I don't have a support system. I don't have family, I don't have friends. I have no one. I want to hug all of these amazing moms.

WORKING MOMS NEED FLEXIBLE JOBS‼️

Children need their mothers more than their father. 1000% especially if the father isnt helping to raise the kid with you and your forced as a mom to go into a masculine energy to raise your kids alone because their fathers are emotionally unavailable because the kids will fall back to mom as dad isnt giving them what they need as kids to grow healthy. Am a Sahm and I have never regretted it. Best rewarding hardest jobs ever. Enjoying every part of it

This was a really deep Convo to hear

Best episode ❤❤❤❤❤

Hold on a father can't breastfeed ? I thought this was 2023.

I am okay with being a stay at home mom if husband is supportive and willing to fully provide and want to fully provide without complaining and be emotionally supportive to wife because the moment he is not, it affects family. If husband is abusive or a lying unfaithful controlling jerk, than he will use her dependency to continue abuse because she cant leave because she has no funds to survive on her own with the kids

Lies it’s paid leave for woman and men

The black woman lied on the first question, almost all blk women use this to shame men and us blk men don’t just leave blk women lie a lot to save face for the next guy

I love how everyone seemed so supportive. Being a mom is hard. SO SO hard so the less judgement the better. We’re all doing our best in the ways that we feel best.

I love being a SAHM ❤️. I would not have it any other way

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Single mothers vs mothers with husband who don’t help but are in the house. Thats the real issue I’ve seen that actually single mothers have it a tad bit easier

Half way into the episode and this is my favorite one so far. It’s incredibly inspiring to see how understanding and loving this women are towards each other. Hope life goes well for all of them and their kids as well!

Is does not matter ,been in a mother is the best best and best thing that happened to me. But not all woman should be q mother

I suggest a working from home moms vs working moms! I just want to hear opinions! This is hard! And sometimes I think it would be easier to go to work everyday.

This is my favorite episode by far, I relate so heavily with Kayla i just want to gibe her the biggest hug ever.

these questions were not about whether or not moms should stay home.

I think careers are so overrated! No matter what job or career you have you will be replaced someday with the next younger person who wants to work themselves to death and be replaceable. No thanks

I basically have lived both sides of this debate. When I was young I got married and had two children very close in age( 18 months apart) I worked full time, sometimes two jobs. I did this for over a decade.
Later I divorced and I remarried 2 years later and I worked still with my first two going back and forth with my ex husband. Then we had my son and I didn’t want him in daycare. I had hated every single moment of trusting my children with strangers. Even when they had become friends I still hated it. It was my job to raise my kids and after work and doing everything at home I spent very little time with my kids. When I had my last child I stayed home. My second son was still young and I took him to school daily. I stayed home for now nearly 14 years and it’s the best decision I have ever made.
The truth about it all is I am so much closer with my last two kids. They behaved better , got in less trouble, and both got straight A’s in school. They are friends with all the kids they went to school with and they are both high achieving and both play sports full time. My son is now 21 , my daughter is 13 and they are such amazing people. My son loves in his own home and works for our family business. My daughter is in eighth grade , a straight A student, plays softball, volleyball and basketball and never gets in trouble. She also has perfect attendance. She tells me everything and always comes to me with everything. My two older kids have so many more issues and they both live in other states. Our relationship has been far more strained. They are great people but I now know the difference was me being less available in their lives.

all of these women seem like great friends to have. I wanted to hug all of them and cried a couple of times during this video. Motherhood is beautiful and hard at the same time.

The problem comes when we look down on other people for their life choices. Live and let live

I think the support is by staying at home, being careful who we give ourself to, and also setting boundaries for when we have our baby

Paid maternity leave depends on the employer. Its under the FMLA act

Can we get a raw uncut version release as well?

I would love to watch the entire discussions…even if it’s hours long.

I felt like there was so much missing here and I know more was talked through that’s important.