Want to Make Friends After 60? Stop Doing These 3 Things!

Getting out on tours? Perhaps this is the wrong channel for me. I'm in the over 60 crowd who lives on social security and my rent takes 3/4 of that. I get out and "walk", but saying "hi" to a neighbor is NOT friendship. I like to go walking/hiking in wooded area parks/trails, but I wait to go with my son on Saturdays. THAT is not a safe activity for a woman of any age to do alone. I guess it all depends on WHERE you live, how much money you have, and how you define "friendship ".

I’d like info on the Portugal trip

Most everyone i meet and not interested in friendships. Make me feel like whats wrong with me???

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I am currently living abroad and want to relocate to the UK. It a daunting prospect when I am starting over again in my 60s. Please can somebody give me advice on areas that are community based. Lastly what are my chances of finding/creating a living. Divorced and my kids have left home. They are successful in there careers. My old identy of being a wife and mother have passed. Its now time to start a new beginning.

Thank you for this!! I'm not 60 yet but I'm close enough. I'll be 57 my next birthday. I do enjoy my solitude but I absolutely love going on cruises a lot more than my partner likes to cruise. 😂 Finding some cruise friends that would like to take a few cruises a year would be a God send for me.

Hi Margaret, great video, Is your Portugal trip booked up? I am seeing this video late, if there is room available I am interested. Thanks

About 15 years ago … i was around 50ish … I had an epiphany about facing loneliness as my children became adults and being married to someone who was not a very good companion … so I started looking around for a sport that could take me into my senior years …. and I settled on golf …. i started taking lessons and it was a huge learning curve because I am not a natural athlete. fast forward 20 years …. i am a pretty good golfer now, go on lots of golf travel events, belong to two ladies leagues ….and honestly has worked out better than I thought. ladies …find something … linedancing ( i belong to the Y) and i do that too … and i recently joined a ladies political action committee because they go out to eat a lot and have a great christmas party. even tho you might not be great at something, just getting out is so worth it.

This is such good advice! I isolate and, then, feel lonely. I lost my purpose in life and am just trying to find new ones.

I’ve had friends or so I thought they proved to be untrue. I did learn one thing. Some women are so catty and jealous it’s a shame.

Thanks so much for the great video and advice. Good friends are hard to find. Most friendships are temporary. Casual friend, good friend,best friend, girlfriend, boyfriend. They all have the word END in their group of letters. Families may be in for the long run. Family … ILY… I love you. From Buddhism, Impermanence. All things that are born are impermanent and bound to die. All things stored are impermanent and bound to run out. All things that are joined are impermanent and bound to come apart. All things that are built are impermanent and bound to collapse. All things that go up are impermanent and bound to come down. These things make sense as we age. Life is like a river that keeps flowing until the creek runs dry. Keep up the great work and stay safe out there.🌈🌞🙏

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Relationships in general are difficult especially when you don't go out much. You have to join some Club or Workshop to meet people but that doesn't guarantee any person to become a friend

I travel solo and have had good luck going to meetup groups in the towns I've traveled through. Good way to meet folks.

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Good cure is a choir or community theatre.

Friendship takes time to develop and nurture. Volunteer work, or even a part time job, is a great way to meet people and find new friendships, and also learn new things.

I have two dogs, I walk them twice a day and meet many other dog owners of all age groups, dog owners tend to talk to each other easily, just a chat is fine for me, I have no need for anything more than that.

Finding a friend starts with being a friend. Listening to others rather than obsession with self.

It’s all well and good say joining clubs, etc but what if you can’t afford the £4 every week? Haven’t the transport to get there? Where I live there are no public transport, we are quite remote and everything costs money to join, I did join things exercise class but after the 4 th week left people kept to their own little groups or came with a friend, being a small village everyone knows each other and it’s hard to interact at all. Now here in the UK everything is so expensive and living on a small pension even £4 a week eats into my budget, could not even afford to go to a cafe to be honest, I don’t mind being on my own, and have FB friends we message sometimes but they live in other countries, it’s hard when you are older and not much funds, others must be in this situation as well.

Please don’t focus on what NOT to do. Rather, focus on what TO DO !

It’s so important to get Out. Take pride in your appearance. People do notice and generally treat you better. That’s satisfaction in itself. Get some sort of hobby. It occupies your mind and a great way to meet people. AND STOP READING OR LISTENING TO SO MUCH NEWS.

You are a very beautiful woman, and you can tell that you take very good care of yourself. Women can learn from here specially, after 60 thank you for doing videos.😊

I don't have any friends but I'm used to it now,my son lives 2 mins walk from me but he won't come visit me. My daughter passed away 2 years ago and I miss her so much but I do get to see her youngest daughter which is nice,I go pick her up and we go back to mine and watch our favourite show and have a meal and a good laugh.

I wonder how many folks who are lonely are experiencing narcissistic abuse?

Writing down what is desired in a friendship - any relationship helps. Becoming a good listener and finding others who do not just want to unload, but also listen is possible. Is it easy? Change is hard cat first. Focusing on what I want, not what I don’t want helps.

Often when I speak to ppl, I realize I am hearing the opinions they buy into from the media they follow. Asking why they believe what they do instead of presenting my differing opinions leads to an open conversation and not a defensive one. Something I have learned and it makes meeting ppl more of an adventure than what can feel like a battle of sorts.

Hope this makes sense to someone else🙏

PS I loved the story of your 5 year old grandson. Really good analogy 👍

How about people who have chronic health problems? They can be very limited.

Im in Canada and trying to figure this out now almost 65. Im a starting with the walking

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My mother had very few really close friends. However, she loved people. You could push her into a ballroom full of people and she would find away to chat with everyone there. We used to say that she could chat up a lamp pole waiting for the light to change before she crossed the street. I’m very much an introvert. When I was young and she noticed a boy trying to flirt with me, she would tell me to flirt back. I had no clue. I have had a handful of friends through the years that when we get together we can pick up right where we left off the last time we saw each other. Friends like these are rare and I treasure them. When I’m out in my neighborhood and run into someone, I enjoy standing and chatting for a few minutes and then back to my solitude.

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I thought I enjoyed being alone but now that I have moved to a 55+ neighborhood I have discovered that I am very social while still enjoying my alone time. I have found “my people” and have many new friends and activities I very much enjoy!

Yes. I'm interested to meet in Portugal. Please send information. Thank you.

I have signed up to volunteer leading walks/hikes. It is social, it makes me physically accountable such that i have to be up to the hike, and no one cancels or makes up excuses which usually bottoms out my energy. I also signed up for several yoga/adventure retreats to learn new skills and practice being with groups of strangers - some good and some not so, but at least i am getting out there. I would say also to be mindful of boundaries bc I was chatting with someone and that evening they reached out to me on Linked In and wanted to friend me on FB.... it felt invasive. Now when I see her, I avoid more than a friendly hello.

I want less people in my life. I'm doing a good job of that. I am not sociable at all. People do not impress me, in general. I can go to a movie or a concert and never interact with anyone. I'm 65. I cannot stand being around others. People tend to be so needy. I'm not. I'm happy.....

I stopped by to visit with a new neighbor on her porch. Hoping to cultivate a friendship with her. The mosquitoes were out and I got bit up so badly I had to leave! And then I swelled up & and got sick! <<sigh>>. I’m actually laying here in the bed listening to this! 😮‍💨

You are a delight to watch. I love your smile and warm heart. Love your colors also!!!❤😊

I made wonderful, close friends at my church.

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No I don’t want more friends if I have to change who I am. I am more concerned about how my actions fall on others so I treat them the way I want to be treated. If you can’t treat me the way I treat you you are not a GOOD friend. You can tell me the truth about things, but if you do it disrespectfully, you don’t get to be my friend. I’d rather be with me than with someone who is insincere or using me; taking and no giving. It’s just not worth the stress! I’m the one who will ALWAYS wish you happy birthday on your birthday. No, I don’t have that great of memory. I don’t have a smart phone as do others. If you don’t care enough to put my birthday in your phone then you don’t deserve to be my friend.

Dale Carnegie’s how to Win Friends and Influence People is as true today as when it what written. Making friends is about thinking about THEM and how you can reach out to THEM, listen to THEM, care about THEM and it all comes back to you. If you are trying to GET friends and it’s all about you then you won’t get far. If you are trying to BE A FRIEND to someone it comes back around. So glad I read this book in Jr High! It’s served me well my whole life!

I live in the country and luckily have 2 different neighbors who I hike with a few times a week. And one of them is someone I do new moon ceremonies with, I feel so lucky. I’m 68 and live with my partner who doesn’t like to play and chat like I do. But I could use more socializing than this. Maybe one more person or activity with others. It isn’t natural to be so isolated.

Here in New York City, there is a running club specifically for women over 50 who love walking and running. Only for 50-plus women runners. It is called "Mercury Masters" and they run in races put on by New York Road Runners.

Proof that people who are shut in, can go off non-stop for eleven minutes straight, which drives people away. I have a 3 second video which works just as well. Here's the script: "Go out."

I am an introvert, and a loner. Never married, no kids. I just moved to a VERY active 55+ community, as one of the youngest "members." I'm uncomfortable meeting new people, making new friends, especially as I have very little in common with others (not being married, nor having kids or grandkids). Because of the way I am, they will probably never be "real" friends, as I am very selective about who I choose to be my friends; most of my true friends from waaay long ago, who knows were all the bodies are buried. This will be a biiiig stretch for me!

As I get older, I prefer more alone time. My circle of friends is small. I enjoy my time with them, but also my time by myself.

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Great suggestions I'm 70. We lost our son 12 years before my husband and sister died. I can get down and feel alone. God has been my strength and friend throughout. So I have been able to develop new friendships. I have my daughter, granddaughter and brother nreatby also. I am an introvert and like being in my craft room, endlessly creating art journals, mixed media pieces etc. But it's so much better to be with people. God calls us to have fellowship with each other and love others. Most days I ask God to give an opportunity to help or meet someone that He wants to bless or become His believer. He has sent some sweet older ladies who are alone and we've struck up acquaintance and friendship. I belong to a group of moms who have lost children. We meet for dinner once a month. I go a church hosted widow's lunch once a month. Made more friends... it gets easier and I've been so richly blessed with deepening relationships and enjoy others when we are able to meet.

Learning to love your own company makes it easier to go out and enjoy the things you love.