How To Find THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP | Esther Perel & Lewis Howes

Holy hell she is amazing.

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one of the best aspects of the video is he taking notes so brav of the important points. such a good boy!

It is just American society.

Milion dollar question. INDEED

I don't know...for my part I feel that a lot of my personal issues actually are about cleaning up the mess off my family history. Violence, alcoholism and insanity. I quote a wonderfull woman i dated a couple of times, "It ends here with me!". Aren't there others here that feel the same way? That the past is not the well structured, good, shining kingdom of heaven🤔

Many couples look having a terrific life together but, in fact , it's HELL. We never know .

Lewis you’re a John Hamel lookalike.

Wow this one is gooooold

So good explanations ..she is genuime woman.❤❤❤

I found this information very helpful thank you

Phenomenal woman! Hits it home for me every single time. Thank you Esther!! Thank you Lewis!

Wow, this woman is amazing!

None of this is accidental.. To create a bad society.

A lot of what happened in the past was good but not all of it

Great video

Thanks for sharing

Such a great speaker

"You learn to love yourself in the context of your relationships with others" - damn. That explains why I never seemed to love myself when every guru or friend told me to. That I need to like myself first before someone else likes me.
We do not talk to each other in our family that much on the deeper level. And recently, I spoke to my older sister for about 2 hours. And at the end, or even day later, I felt like I am pretty cool person. I listened to her, provided some feedback, thoughts, I supported her. We had a good discussion on many things. Especially around family and relationships. So, I think this is the golden sentence that I quoted above. How can you love yourself when you have shallow relationships and therefore you the reflection others provide to you by interacting with you is not there? You only see the surface. How you look, what you say, maybe how you say it. Then you get a feeling that "noone understands me".

But if you are not happy with who you are , how are you gonna be happy in a relationship and love your partner ?
Just because our parents lived a simpler type of love life that doesn’t mean it’s gonna work out for us

Esther this woman knows what she’s talking about.
I enjoy listening to her so much wisdom experience well spoken straight to the point,Respectable, professional And much much much more. Thank you for posting

My takeaway here is the love story and life story distinction 😊

I find very good that people now days make questions. In the past people used to stay on bad and abusive relationships

Why he is laughing al the time? She’s being deadly serious....

I have just started listening her thoughts about relationships and stuff and I am hooked into her vids in a good way of course. What a brilliant person she is!

This seems so true, yet depressing. I've sabotaged or just quit relationships that might have been perfectly fine 100 years ago due to (perhaps) too high expectations, love and romance narratives, and a lack of clear guidance and rules on what's expected from both sides. Indeed for the longest time most of this was pretty regulated and clear and now since a few decades it's like "well, you can all figure it out for yourselves, there's no rules anymore". Well thanks, that's just great. My parents never taught me anything about relationships, my dad never taught me anything about being a man, and they surely never taught by example how to have a loving stable relationship. I know they were people of their time too. They were the transition between the rules-based that was still religious, and our current society without rules, norms or religion. Can't blame them really, but it does kinda suck for millenials and younger generations.

I am too tired from go fix yourself

Wow this makes so much sense! I am so happy I clicked on this. Brilliant.

Her podcast is amazing and full of ways to help people 🔥

Man good content but why these horrible clickbait titles that don’t represent the content at all? It’s just plain weird

Cool conversation

People are always sharing every detail of their lives on social media. Where does she get this idea we don't know what other people do in their lives?

I'm deeply influenced by this material. A book on these subjects marked a significant shift in my life. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

It's true and it sucks

Happy are those who can have a love story which also becomes a life story.
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Too many expectations and change is constant and too many rules

I have no one. Not even a friend

People help you become
More aware. You can’t do it alone

Values vs Feelings. This is a challenge for me, feelings have always come first as I look back.
At this point in my life, mid 40s, and choosing to be single and reflect on my own history, I’m ready to see what comes next with this insight as the motivation.

If you dont worry about relationships they are not a problem. I am 58 and though sharing my life with someone ideally has an appeal i have abandoned the fairytale. Two experiences of cheating curred me of that. Not to mention all the cheating i have seen. I certainly have not chosen well. Cheating is not in my mindset and there is no excuse for it. It shows poor moral character and weakness. Finnish what you started with honesty. Then move on. I find things i truly enjoy and do them. I dont rely on friends or a significant other to do it with. Stop worrying about being alone. Life is too short.

wish I could talk with her

You are remarkable. Thank u

Easy, pay someone to check out each candidate and make sure the “checker” is bonded. Never ever, ever marry or live with a woman without a Pre Nup.

Learn energy and will be know who should be and could be half of your body. What I will be do? I will be do my best better because i miss my half. Can you drive half car ? This is different between sex and FUCKING!

She looks great wearing burnt orange and white. She’d make a great Texas Longhorn fan. Hook ‘em Horns Esther. 🤘

I am silent. I would love to say only one. Doesn't matter how much money I have or will be have, I will be who I am but unfortunately today toy life is so much up on humanity to I should buy wife and build in my home like a shop of children . Tomorrow no any of do not knows what will be happen but unfortunately any of you looking and respect fake. I so much miss half of my body but sometimes I think woman in the very true can not love because just love cheese and done.

Brilliant

for her accent, i just felt the "and so on and so on" coming, but never came! :c

Self love has destroyed relationships

Obligation rules relationship instead of mutual identity of self to know thy self ..😊 relationship economy !!