7 Etiquette Rules Every Gentleman Must Obey

As to dressing appropriately, I would add one thought. If in doubt, it is almost always better to be overdressed than under dressed. A blazer, tweed jacket or other sport coat worn over casual clothes like a pair of khakis with a button down shirt is an excellent option in a lot of situations where you may be uncertain what to wear. If the jacket feels too dressy, it is a simple matter to take it off while you are at the function. Showing up without a jacket and being the only man in the room without one will make you feel very under dressed and self conscious.

How would you loophole #1 if you don’t drink any alcohol? I, personally don’t like the taste, so I can bring different alcohol but what if I’m asked to drink it?

you lost me at "must obey"

I have an iron and steamer.

From what I’ve learned I do not believe you are meant to clink glasses I was taught to raise your hand with the glass and then say the toast like to friendship. I wonder if it’s different in other cultures, also great video I didn’t know some of these thing

A gentleman should never visit a house where he is asked to take off his shoes. Expecting guests to take off their shoes is invasive and a sign of small-mindedness. If the cleanliness of the floor is more important than the proper attire of the guests, then this should be taken into account by not appearing as a guest.

The 1st rule pit a cigarette out in there wine and say I don't drink that chit beer or vodka man or be man b151 with a mug keep the shot glass

Stop the brown shoes with dark blue suits - same of the belt. It never looks half as good as you think.

While it's not really a rule of etiquette, I personally think every man should carry a nice refillable pen with him. Parker Jotters, for example. Even if you're just impressing your friends when they don't have a pen when they need it, a nice pen goes a long way. I used to use generic BIC pens until I started using more formal ones - I had a phase where I'd use a fountain pen for everything purely because I prefer older tech. Nower-days I use the Jotter I mentioned earlier. (Parker Jotter Originals Ballpoint, specifically.) It feels the best in my hand and my had never aches when using it. They're cheap as a one-off purchase, too - and can last a lifetime if not lost and properly looked after.

Everything right except the colour of your tie…it looks dark grey to me here on my screen….navy would have been better, then I’d give you 100% ☺️

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Oooh, camo tie

I'm 71 and hope that I'm a gentleman. There are very few gentlemen today. If you don't believe me, go to a church service or a funeral service and see what the men are wearing. I would guess that very few men even own a suit these days. I have several in my closet and my dad was always a very sharp dresser even though he had a blue collar job. Etiquette was very important to my parents and grandparents and a slip in etiquette was always called out at the appropriate time so that the same mistake was not repeated. I could add several rules to your list, but one that I would defintely add is that a gentleman ALWAYS walks next to his lady (never in front of her) so that he is positioned between his lady and roadway. This is to protect the lady from danger from the roadway or possible puddle splashes from passing cars. I really wish that men would return to wearing hats (not baseball hats). I have several in my closet.

Regarding proper dress, I was taught that a gentleman always wears a white shirt with his suit and never a colored shirt. I probably have 100 ties and was taught very young how to tie a double windsor knot on my ties. A classier look than a single windsor. Some ties are not of sufficient length for a double windsor know without the end of the tie ending too high above the beltline. Shoes should always be freshly polished and I was taught that black shoes should always be worn with a dark suit. Many men wear a lapel pin, but when worn, it should never be more than one. Spats were out of style when I was taught etiquette.

My list of 70 year old etiquette rules goes on and on.

I would also add, when going to other's houses to not sit on the seat thats at the end of the table because that seat should be for the host since the person sitting there has a direct view of everyone

The best etiquette for a reasonably large table gathering at a restaurant is for those that get served first with their meal to wait but if the wait for everyone to get served is longer than 5 minutes then for those that are still to be served (especially if a man) to say please go ahead to others - that way the ones waiting still have the satisfaction of being in control of the etiquette . If a lady is last to be served (a good waiter will ensure this should not happen usually ) then even if she says go ahead , the men at the table should stil defer

i would add that a gentlemen should compliment any ladies at a gathering and of course wait for the lady to indicate if she wants a cheek kiss/slight hug or handshake before attempting one

I think black or burgundy Oxfords would look far better with that outfit. Brown looks a little naff.

The term applies to men of noble birth. This is a shill to a course. lol

My parents when I was a child in the 1960’s were rigid followers of etiquette. Both my parents were great cooks, and my 3 brothers and 2 sisters always eat at the dinner table together with my parents. My mother and sisters always set a lovely table and helped serve. When they arrived at the table my Father and brothers and I would rise from our seats and pull out the chairs for the women. My parents had beautiful cocktail parties that looked straight out of the cast of Madmen. I have to say your wardrobe is evolving very well. Better and better each time.

The "shoes off" part just sounds like some creepy European thing. It's charming in an east asian context though.

I appreciate your content very much, because it is so valuable in today's times. I represent the Z generation as well, and, in my opinion, our generation lacks the very basics of etiquette and general good behaviour. I think that a general rule that a gentleman should follow is what Antoni Słonimski has once said: "When I don't know what to do, I prefer to behave decently just in case". Thank you for your devotion!

I love a good etiquette video!
Happy to see you are teaching a new generation of gentlemen. And as a European millennial lady I enjoy your content too.
Keep up the good work 🥂

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Shoes inside houses is such a wild concept to me

Thank you so much for your work, good sir! One of the most crucial channels every man should have, in my opinion.

With the weather getting colder, do you think you could do a video on how to style properly in the winter?

dude 0 dislikes on a 20k view video is really impressive

Just a request to also consider us non-drinkers when mentioning certain points, like when you mentioned about gifting a bottle of wine on a dinner invitation or beer with friends, please also give a recommendation for someone/households that doesn’t drink 😅

You are a godsend for the young nan without a male role model. Excellent content, as usual.

Wow you are THE best ! ❤

Upstairs shoes off. Downstairs was designed for shoes on. Leave them on. Big golden likes to roll on carpet.

This suit is great. 👍

Appreciate your content Gent Z, it's just such a pity that many men, especially the younger generation seem to have not adopted even basic social skills and etiquette.

i disagree with 1 and 2. it's not something me and my friends and family do. we don't do fancy dinner parties. as for ironing i buy clothes that don't need to be ironed

My wife and I don’t have people over for dinner all that often. However, as the host, my rule for myself is that I am served last. I also assist wife in serving the guests and preparing the meal.

Rule #9 Always show common courtesy to those who are serving you

When I was in 6th Form (UK), I started going to 17th and 18th birthday parties. Was going to an 18th once, at his house. My Mum told me to take something with me (not a present for him, something to contribute to the party). I told her that we’d already been told that there’d be plenty of food and drink. She insisted and even offered to give me the money for it. I bought 4 cans of beer, better than nothing, and she was happy. Got to the party and gave the birthday boy’s Mum, the beer. She took me into the kitchen and showed me all the booze that was there- more than your average pub. She thanked me nonetheless. Thought nothing of it but hours later, towards the end of the night, the Mum came up to me, very drunk, gave me a hug and told me I was the only one who brought anything. She was very grateful. I understood there and then how important such gestures are! It’s now a long term habit and is nearly always appreciated. Good advice from Mum.

Blimey. That's put me off botox and lip fillers for life. The poor chap looks like he's just been beaten up. Kudos to the channel for the desire to inculcate good manners.

How about a segment on how to properly hold and use utensils while dining. I see so many guys these days just wrap their fist around their fork, leaning forward, face inches from their plate, just shoveling away. 😮

Mui bien, Muchacho.

This is why my father and mother stays without taking dinner until i come home

Lucky to have asian parents who know etiquettes. Taking a gift etc

I'm new to your site, and I am keen to learn. I've always considered myself to be a gentleman but have had no proper training. Opening doors for a lady, standing when a lady nears, or departs a conversation these are first tier. I know I require much more. Thank you in advance.

This is an awesome channel!!! I’m learning a lot about these things!!!

I want to learn more about Gentleman Method.

Thanks!

Asian culture appreciates non Asians to understand the no shoe at home policy it’s just common hygiene sense

I believe the classic approach to food is to wait only when food is room temperature. Hot or cold food (e.g, ice cream) should be started when served. I’ll of course wait for slow count of ten before suggesting that whoever has been served should begin. Thanks.

I am dating an incredible woman, a former runway model. I am Joe Average, height, weight, income. She told me that she first noticed two things about me... I was well dressed and a gentleman.