4 Types of Trauma & How It Impacts Your Relationship

This was all about those who had parents, who got to stay with their families but what about those who went into the system? Those who never had parents/had parents but had a brief time living with them before leaving i.e 2 years after becoming conscious at age 5 with no knowledge of anything?

Edit* I like the video about the trauma and relationships but I feel that those who went into the foster care system were kind of left out but maybe abandonment can explain it a bit but still feels like that aspect was left out maybe I'm just overthinking and overanalyzing it

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Thank you kindly for making this video. I am trying to research and understand my own trauma. This helps and is informative.
May Jesus bless you.

Thank you for sharing the knowledge! As a trauma expert, I applaud you! Neuroscience has shown that trauma can be removed completely. I'm using Neuroscience with Hypnosis, Quantum Energy and Spirituality to facilitate powerful Healing and Transformation. I used to suffer and I know how it felt for me. I made it my life mission to help people break free from trauma.

This video really helps me see childhood with an unbiased frane of mind. As I compare my experiences im not seeing myself as a victim but as someone who can overcome which has been my goal at every point of my journey. Thanks so much for these videos!!

Kurna szkoda że traumy są strasznie trudne w pokonywaniu ich

Im so messed uo the more i watch these where do i start to heal

what if i dont have any trauma but i relate to most of these things

DAMN, i have all these trauma's. That's maybe why i feel like i am going insane

Thank u sm for making these videos, i cry during them bcs i can finally feel understood

My mom feels she has too control my finances even though I'm 52 years old recently I started getting very sick of her having too know everything about my finances even though I'm soon too become a billionaire but my mom will never know because of all the abuse I suffered from her

give us solution not problems😣

Wow I went through all that at tbh I totally hate my family 😢

Bloody hell it's so right it's not funny

Rejection Trauma. You feel jealous, guilty, ashamed and socially embarassed. You feel socially unacceptable in some way. 2) Abandonment Trauma. Did you feel unsafe at home as a result of neglect or abuse? Lack of supervision? You felt abandoned. Results in the formation of an anxious attachment style. Hypervigilant. Worrried whether your partner will stay. Personality disorders that include feeling such as anxious, fearful and angry. 3) Betrayal trauma. You feel deeply betrayed by someone you loved and depended on. A friend, parents or partner cheated. You may have trouble accepting it or believing it so you disassociate, become dependent, too afraid to leave. 4) Humiliation trauma. Toxic shame. Did your parents make you deeply ashamed of yourself? Did you feel mocked? humiliated? You may have developed coping mechanisms. i) Moving away, (Isolating, keeping secrets) ii) Moving towards, iii) Moving against shame.

I struggle a lot with my relationships and emotional stability often going in panic attacks and lack of control.....my partner is loving and kind but each day i can see him getting more and more exhausted from my burdens. I now see i have collected all of these types througout my childhood and i don't know how to deal with it. It's like swimming against the current.
Rejection and abandonment were done by my first "friends" when they left me because i was too emotional and later on the same pattern kept repeating. Betreyal done by my parents' divorce that wounded the child (for years i blamed myself for it too) and humiliation by people from school and my own father's harsh way of "fixing me" and my mother's constant desire to always be "the best and perfect".
Now here I am 20 years old almost an adult failing university because of this fear of betrayal and humiliation and constantly needing too much and worrying a person who truly loves me....life can be tough sometimes.

This made me cry, it makes sense now. Prob contributes to why I don’t want children, why I always feel alone even when surrounded by people and why I feel like the world is against me.

When will my wife ever see that I’m not her father? It’s so painful to be projected on, told what a bad, untrustworthy, selfish, inconsiderate guy I am. I’m recovering from my own trauma and as I work through my own pain I find myself able to stay more grounded in myself when she turns against me but she has so much power to hurt me so deeply, even make me believe that I’m the guy she sees me as. I keep trying to love her through it since I know she is in pain and just doesn’t see that she’s acting out of her trauma. But sometimes I worry we’re not going to make it because at times she’s just so insistent on her seemingly distorted perspective. I worry that it will lead her out of our marriage. It can be so hard to keep my head on straight and equally hard to find good advice. Maybe it’s just that no one knows how to navigate this stuff very well. I love her and I do trust that eventually she will let down her guard and let me in, and we have made some slow progress over time, but it is so painful when she puts up walls and shuts me out especially without any awareness of what she is doing. What is the way through? Just time and faith? And continuing to work on my own healing? I’m often at a loss but about as committed as I could possibly be.

i have bpd and cant think what triggered it i have shut off

The fact that I relate to the first and third one hit close to home.

As a young kid, my parents fought alot. And that caused me to in a stressful situation which caused me to dissociate from reality and imagine myself in a safe space.

And because now I'm often spiritually neglected from dad due to him spending time with his gf, I tend to overthink that I'm not important to my friends and that they just see me as the "annoying sunshine girl" or something like that.

This is really important information, especially when you get in a relationship with someone who was severely abused

I got all these problems 😭

Been thru all 3 traumas 😢

The thing is I have all these symptoms, but I'm still unsure what I have is childhood trauma or not because articles only talk about the effect of parents in your childhood. My parents were amazing, so the other aspects that may cause childhood trauma are underdeveloped. So I'm not sure anymore... I wish there were more research regarding something other than parents' effect on children, but other effects. Ofc there are, but I wish there were more, and more often.

Oh cool all of them

I'm the 666

Ive had alot of traumas in my life and tbh had all of these in many forms through my life and im trying to get better, im not doing the best at it cause im falling into bad habits (falling into the grips of hypersexuality and letting it almost control my life and smoking weed constantly even when i dont need it) im avoiding relationships because im scared of getting an FP and ruining my life again, ive gotten urges to self sabotage and lash out and isolate again and its hard to do while im in between therapy again (ill be asking about it again today when i go to the doctor) but its so difficult to just be healthy and happy when the cloud of all the shit ive been through growing up and honestly still happening now and then keeps going

Tbh i think i wanna be in a relationship again because im good at catching when things get bad and starting to communicate things when it happens..kinda again im saying starting not getting better at but its so hard to when "rose colored lenses" happen like tbh i hate that so much beacuse yes i get attached but im not that kind of attached, i can tell a crush from an FP now and im already isolating myself enough i just wanna feel loved for once by someone after ruining my life over someone else already

Trauma sucks -10000000/10 dont want ever again and could never recommend

all of the above am i cooked?

I just think these are interesting lol

🥱 This is some disingenuous nonsense. Straight up lies.

My parents fought a lot when I was a little and they still do but I can only remember that I was a very hyper kid. Does that count as a coping mechanism? Was i trying to distract myself?

A vídeo about all of my trauma

Mmmmmm yep, Rejection Trauma would explain a LOT about why and how I handled my last relationship. Well, at least I can put a name to it now and add another thing to work on in my therapy session today.

this video helped me realize the type of trauma I have after years of trying to figure out what the hell happened to me and why I cant the way I do. Thank you.

i have all 4 traumas and i dont know if i'll ever be able to address them

thank you 🙏♥️

My God between the war in my country and dysfunctional family with multiple types of abuse, living a life just to be aligned with your parents expectations although they are so far from being perfect, they want you to always be the best. Till i said to myself it's enough nothing will change, i discovered i am just a backup plan for their old days, someone to take care of them. I hope i can find peace in my life and stop remembering them and sometimes feeling guilty that they are right, i am not good enough. They wanted me to become a doctor and i did, i did everything they wanted me to do and be but still i feel i am just a scam. I wish everyone to have the life they dreamt about

my enlish is bad but i didnt notice/relised i had all these trauma until i saw the video and it described as me... alot of things happened when i was at age of 5 til now... all i can say i that i've been through alot with both my parents and foster family... cant tell cause its personal.. (Those who suffer from this, i'll suffer with you... i hope y'all are okay and stay strong. YOU ARE WORTHY

Me who this is a check list

I feel (for lack of better words) linked to all of these but it’s not from my mom and dad. I feel like it’s from my mom abusive brother and his abusive wife after my mom and dad passed away.

Can u say the reference plz

As someone who has gonna through most of this i don't know what to do I'm 18 now and can move out but i can't bring myself to not only that but I'm broke😐

i have it all 😂

There are parts of yourself you will never experience if you aren't in an intimate relationship. Deep sources of goodness will remain dormant. Your best self will never be born. If you are okay about that, then you don't need a relationship. We are all encouraged to strive for an absolute freedom and unfettered personal autonomy. And that nothing is worth sacrificing even a small portion of those things. We're told that relationships are transactions. Give a pellet, get a pellet. The obligations of a relationship infringe our freedom and autonomy, therefore, are simply not worth it. There are no relational goods that are more important than being free of obligations to others. Essentially, today's adult wants to be a five year old child with an income. Say and do whatever pops into consciousness, evade and deflect accountability. Lie, pretend, engage in acts of interpersonal exploitation. When you're five years old, right and wrong are not operative reality. So, that is the relationship terrain nowadays. You have to figure out if it's worth it for you. To me, it's like like prospecting for a diamond in an unpromising wasteland. I've thrown away my miner's pick and shovel.

You could also feel that you are a burden to your partner. This will happen if you get with a narcissist, especially if they actually have NPD. Once you believe you are a burden to them, you will try to turn off your simple human needs. In effect, you help the narcissist to abuse you.

I can honestly say school wasn't safe ever except when I went to a christian university
Home was never safe. The people I met outside of home yeah they were all perverts
I find it difficult I have c p t s d
I pretty much hurt all the time and i'm tired.
I find that it's hard to trust people because people are good at being two different people.
I still make an effort to trust people but i'm very careful
I suppose the learning disabilities don't help.
After living in another country for twenty years I had to move back to california
It's been five months it feels like five years sometimes.
The culture strange. It's hard to get around and there's not much to do

What about how it affects friendships?