Healing Trauma: How To Start Feeling Safe In Your Own Body with Dr Bessel van der Kolk

Must read his book this explains so much about trauma.

If you want to help yourself, just google Weedborn. I know you will find good solutions for all your discomforts there.

That was an excellent interview. Not just the information shared but the interviewer's style and interview technique - spot on! I'll be listening to more.

this is what i have been dealt with. i know that i can't blame anyone for this. We need to stop with the labeling and realize we need to figure out how to get heal. stop repeating cycles that is it.

Getting on the back of my husband’s motorcycle is what is helping me. It causes grounding without hyper vigilance. I made the mistake of trying EMDR with a therapist still in training so that is on my list but with someone with much more experience.

I'm struggling with a recent trauma, less than two months ago when I fell, fracturing both my elbows , although I'm slowly recovering, my right elbow makes me feel quite sick and unsafe. This has been life changing but I am determined to make a full recovery. Chanting certainly helps. Warm regards, Yvonne

Excellent interview...

Some important takeaways:-
1) Helplessness(zero control) is an absolute precondition for trauma.
2) Blasting people with memories of trauma is the worst thing u can do. Your mind and brain should be very calm and you should feel very safe as you relieve the horrors of the past.
3) You need to feel safe in the present. Other help can be breathing, yoga, and chanting. Feel your mind more connected with your body.

How sad. It causes people to leave professions and relationships. Safety is about privacy. But the people that made them feel unsafe ruined it for the world..

Dr Van Der Kolk touched on something for me - the threat of trauma is as bad as the reality of it happening in my experience. Once you know it is possible, it can happen, you spend all your time looking for clues, red flags, signs it's about to happen. It may never happen again but what difference does it make when you've lived your life in fear of it happening?

I have CPTSD after growing-up on high alert every day for so many years and formative ones at that. So much cortisol ran through my body as a child and carried on into adulthood - a raised voice, a chair falling over, a random fight in a closed environment or even letters coming through the letterbox when I wasn't expecting it, all trigger the cortisol again.
I have Bipolar 1 as a result of my childhood and experienced more trauma every time I went onto a psychiatric ward. Psychosis inflames the trauma at the time since your brain is detached from reality and cannot rationalise what's occurring.
I have Generalised Anxiety Disorder and take Venlafaxine to keep the worry and fear manageable. I have Borderline Personality Disorder as a result of my childhood, a violent father who loved me when I did well at school but whom I never remember hearing him say I love you and a mother who smiled nervously and insincerely but was never 'present' and as a result of a sexual encounter with my 15 year old brother when I was 3.
I am 52 and have thrashed much angst and pain out over the years coz I believed holding onto stuff would manifest itself in my body but at 19 after 'voicing' the sexual abuse to a psychiatrist I'd been seeing for a couple of months - a rare benign tumour had grown in my salivary gland. Then 2 years ago I was diagnosed with a rare incurable blood cancer, Waldenstroms macroglobulinaemia which was found by accident through blood tests for stage 4 kidney disease - most probably caused by long term lithium use for bipolar.

Scary Deep state Uni party war is the game!
We the people just become sick!

Anyone else blame trauma for the health issues they are facing?

ughhh it's so hard . the sheer fear and loneliness

Love the guest. The host, not so much.

They aren't refugees at the Mexican border. They are invading our country.

There are also written books like the haunted self, written by Onno van der Hart and also a workbook. Anchored in safety and feel safe in your body and sensori monitor therapy by Pat Ogden. Pesso therapy by Pesso Boyden. From surviving to thriving from selfdoubt to selftrust and feel fulfilled and healed again.

I am an adoptee , born in England in 1961 .I stayed with my birth mother for four weeks in a mother and babies home and were then forcibly separated . I was then taken to a Christian babies home where I stayed untill I was nine months old and placed with my adopted parents . I still struggle with mental health issues ,mainly anxiety and depression and feelings of being very disconnected to my true self . I think I have always felt detached and struggled with intimate and loving relationships and strongly believed that this was all connected to that brutal separation from my natural mother . Everything that this Great doctor has to say Totally supports my beliefs about that separation and how it has affected my whole life and all the other poor souls who had the same experience . How could a separation such as this not be HUGELY traumatising and how or why could anyone believe otherwise . At last the research and science on trauma is proving the damage caused and it's frightening consequences . I just wish there was much more affordable or free support for everyone who has been hurt so much by trauma ,and I mean that globally ,there has been far too much hurt and pain . Thankyou so much to Bessel Van Der Kolk , Gabor Mate and so many other great thinkers and researchers who have shown just how devestating trauma really is . To everyone out there suffering ,I so truly wish you all well and hope you find new ways to heal and restore better Health . with love and Best wishes to you all from Nick in England .

I was so abused as a child, my mother was always beating me as a small child, nobody, not one adult intervened or protected me she was crazy psychopath.
No I'm 66 my body hurts my knee's hurt, I have pain all over. I have pain all the time I can't sleep. Just disgusted I dont belong here I'm Shuting down.