The Brutal TRUTH about Being Single in Your 30s

I'm currently in my early thirties and have been single for a long time. I am NOT willing to settle for just anyone as I prefer being alone to a mediocre or bad relationship. I don't have unrealistic standards or extremely high expectations but when you are looking for a good person who is compatible with you it does significantly lower the possibilities of finding a partner. I would like to be in a fulfilling relationship, however, staying single is not the end of the world either. What does bother me is people pestering me with questions or trying to pressure me into lowering my standards, hopefully, one day their words will have no effect on me.

It's not that bad at all. Society attaches a stigma to it to try to shame people into these arrangements in the interest of propagating the species. While arguably it is a shame to miss out on the family dynamic, marriage and relationships just don't do it for me in terms of value proposition. Better single than sorry.

Why do you make being single as some type of disease that needs to be cured, being single is easy but dealing with peoples projections about their own life decisions and being unhappy in their own life is challenging. I respect single people more tbh as they can do things on their own and have so much more strength than couples

The Bible says singleness is a gift .

According to Dr Todd Grande, the counsellor, only 10 to 15 percent of people who get married end up happy in the long-term.

So it's definitely a good idea to resist the social pressure to pair up just for the sake of it.

I'm in my late 50s and have been single for 13 years. It's hard going. Very few friends but that's just the way of it.

Buddy- take your time.
Most coupled/married guys my age that I know are leading lives of quiet desperation, are trapped and absolutely miserable in their marriage...
Being single in your 40's and up is really quite alright.
I enjoy dating and am not in a rush to partner up simply because it's the social norm...
Fuck the social norm.

At your age you would have to marry a single mother who is looking for some chump to finance the rest of her life. That would end in disaster for you.

Try being single in your 10s, 20s, 30s, half way through your 40s, you don’t need friends with partners to help remind you of your single situation, all you need to do is go nearly anywhere and you’ll be reminded every few minutes that you are single.

When you turn 45, when your parents die, your career goes down the drain, your finances fall, depression hits it sure sucks to be single.

Attractiveness doesn't fade in your 30s if you take care of yourself. I'm surprised by you saying it does

I am in my 30s and been single for 7 years. Less stress 😅

trying out relationships are important for only two reasons: 1) to prove that romance is just a biological urge to reproduce, procreate and move forward as a species, NOTHING SPIRITUAL ABOUT ROMANCE AND SEX, and 2) TO PROVE THAT NO ONE WAY OF LIFE IS FUCKING BETTER THAN THE OTHER. THIS IS HOW WE FUCK UP OUR POTENTIALS AS A MENTAL SPECIES RATHER THAN AS BIOLOGICAL SPECIES. If we as humans are meant to preserve our existence then why the hell are we glorifying and spiritualizing romantic relationships and marriage? Like some kinda 'divine' ordinance or privelege?? Its just an 'artform' for fucks sake, to be real. Nothing really sublime to it, and no different than fulfillment of the desires of the flesh. To tell someone who they should be or what they should do it the very definition of hypocrisy. Social pressure and discrimination is THE SCAM. Humans act like they are good people when in fact its all just about procreation and sex. Lets be honest, without sex and physical attraction (LUST) no youngster would dare want a relationship. HUMANS HAVE JUST BEEN DOING 'PORNOGRAPHY' THE LEGIT AND DECENT WAY.

When in your 30s, you cannot submit to pressure and settle. If you like flashy blonds, go after flashy blonds. Do not say: I am not getting any younger, so I will take what is easier to obtain. That is where people fail in their happiness. From a male's point-of-view, you should not feel desperate in your 30s. Giving in to social pressure can ruin your life, and cause divorce later on in your 40s.

Bible study class replaces loneliness with peace. Thanks Lord for your peace that surpasses all understanding

These are great points to think about in your 20s too

Well I have just turned 60 and I am still single. There is nothing wrong with me. I just haven't found the right partner as yet. I have looked been involved in many groups getting out there and meeting people. I think if it's something that is meant to be then it will happen, but if it doesn't then I can be ok with that as well. Your only as lonely as you let yourself be. I have many friends and I have been involved in sporting groups and other groups just to meet new people it doesn't matter that I am still single. It's much better being single then being in relationship when the other person might try to dominate and pressure you in to things that you don't want to. I am happier with that frame of mind than being in a wrong relationship.

At 37 ive accepted im probably going to be on my own for rest of my life. Modern woman are trainwrecks anyway. Also not attractive at 30? Please ive been told i look 25. Im in the best shape of my life. I can run circles around 18 year olds

Honestly, the only downside I see being a single 35 year old man is not getting regular bedroom action.
But it's not like you would be getting that as a married man from your 30 year old something wife anyway.
Most women are actually painfully boring, you just start noticing it as they grow older.
I don't believe a woman can make you happy, but she can definitely ruin your life, especially with divorce rates being at the all time high.
Also I don't give a cr*p what society thinks. Frankly, most people who follow the norms are miserable af, so it's better to do the complete opposite of what they say you should do.

Bottom line, being a single man in your 30s is not that great - but the alternative is probably even worse.

Sooner or later you will have to face the fact that you as a man are on your own in this life. (even in marriage men do not get much support).
Either you do it at your own terms when you are in your prime years - or the life will hit you when you at your most vulnerable time and when you least expect it.

I'm looking this kind of question right now😂

Im not bothered by being single, im bothered by being so fugly that unless i dedicate every passing second of my day in pursuit of a girl, I'd have less than 1% chance. This is strictly sexual selection, let alone a girl who isn't insufferable. I'd love to have short term relationships or one night stands occasionally, but if you're objectively reprehensible and short, you have absolutely 0 leverage. Marriage? Whether attractive or not, the absolute hell with that.

I can wait forever if I have to. . I feel that gives me some leverage..some peace of mind as well.. Never understood the settling for someone thing.. Rather have a wife than just a girlfriend too.. The boyfriend/girlfriend thing seems kind of shabby as well?

I am a women in my early 30s and i am super comfortable hanging out with couple friends. You need to have a mentality that your person hasn’t arrived yet.. and he is completing his journey. There are people that met their soulmate in their 40s and are super happy. There are people in their 30s that are in co dependent dynamics and being in relationship with partners that are not even a good personality match, or they cheat on each other. Enjoy the singleness! there are so many things you can do alone during this time.

What's the point of settling down with someone who isn't trustworthy and dealing all of that.

Anyone who tells you they like being single is probably coping hard.

dude thats the wrong mentallity...mans peak is between 35 - 50 years old and womans in their 20´s and beggining of 30´s

Why does people Ara always asking? Why are you single such until now? Does people asking? Is not ur business it's my choice not yours!!!

I'll tell you why there's pressure to settle down, couple up, and HAVE CHILDREN in your 30s. It's because if too many of you 30 something's don't, there won't be anyone around to wipe your bum for you in your 70s and 80s. Children are the future, and without children, as expensive and annoying as they are, there isn't one.

I'm the single friend. At 33 I'm ok with that. I have a teenager and I do feel pressured by one of my friends to find a mate. I love my friend, but I don't feel the same. I'm just not interested in being in a relationship or marry in the future.

who said you cant be attractive in your 30s... you gotta take care of yourself well then!

When are you going to lose your freedom and take on drama??? Never!!!!!!!

Sir, I cannot stop being single because I am hideous. I enjoyed pandemia because I could wear a mask all the time. 🙂

The right relationship does not have problems ❤

Good Video

Interesting how algorithm got me here, just as I turned 30 and got out of a long relationship. Good pieces of advice. Nice work mate !

Good book to read:

" Should we stay together"
dr.Larsen .

What a beta male

Oh yeah? Try being single in your 50's! Widower. I've accepted the fact that I will most likely die single. The solution? Make a lot of friends and fill your time with activities that make you feel better about yourself and puts positivity in the world.

The realization that you dodged a bullet is beyond freeing. It's like you started aging in reverse.

Stay single gents. 👍

Being single as a 30 year old man vs 30 year old woman is completely different so don’t get it twisted.

I wish I could just turn off the need for a gf idk why I want one so bad I've been shot down like 20 times this year alone and no matter how embarrassed I get I still put myself out there but women are always so brutal or unkind

If you are 30 and still care about stigma and how people look at you, you didn't grow up properly.

Being single is great for men especially in your 30's and 40's but for women it's a different story:)

It's a scam invented by society.

I am 33 and I got married at 22 . Ever since I got married , I am all lonely. I never knew about lonliness before I got married. I was alone mostly during my pregnancy and I took care of my son all alone. Some people make you feel lonely. They neither leave you or live like a partner with you. I have been on crumbs all my married life.

as somebody who grew up with abusive and mentally draining parents, i have learned to accept that im going to stay alone, it feels depressing and exhausting, but theres nothing i can do

outside of work i dont see a single reason to talk to anybody, except for a few friends i have, also i dont like the entire circuss party that comes with a marriage, all the people, the attention, the drama, i cant stand it

I wouldn't say that attractiveness fades at yours 30s. People aren't meant to change much in just a few years, especially in such ages. If they do, it's more a matter of bad lifestyle rather than naturally.

That's why i never go anywhere anymore. Being a fifth wheel is the worst thing ever.

👍🏻 well-said

I just notice that only cons of being single are the pressures.