The Only Two Questions to Repair a Relationship

If your partner were to ask you these two questions, what would be your answer? Let us know in the comments

Thank You 🙏 ❤

2 effective questions:
1. What are you angry with me about ?
2. How have i scare you recently?

Have 2 calm spirit : gentle openness & curiousity

A dear friend and I parted ways recently after some harsh words and targeted animosity. There was no goodbye, no long talk, just a "see ya," and neither of us have spoken since. As much as I'd like to try to talk to her and find out what's going on, I just feel like the relationship is mendable but shouldn't be mended.

You: "What are you angry at me about?"

Partner: "If you don't know then I'm even angrier."

These questions don't sit well with me. I think two better questions are:

1. How have I dissapointed you recently?
2. Is there something about me you find frustrating these days?

Even though, these questions are so very important in a relationship. My boyfriend and I have made it important that we communicate when something isn't going right. And it's SO refreshing!

You overestimate how often I’m maintaining outboard engines.

Have to be with reasonably sane person though

Complaining? You have no idea what you are talking about.

1. What are you angry with me about?
2. How have I scared you recently?

50 % here for Alain's voice
50% here for the message

I'll ask these to my malignant narcissist boss.

I'm sure it'll go well.

I absolutely think a lot of partners would use this to manipulate the other person. Someone wants their spouse to make more money or do more in the bedroom, but it just doesn't happen. They're going to say they're angry about that every time the question comes up and each time it will get worse.

great video! i watched a second of it and realized i would be better off watching paint dry on a turd and i am about to do a YT search on that topic, but i couldnt just vamoose without cussing you out on the off chance your video is as inane and boring as i imagine, but i have already been warned that pointing out how unappealing a specific video is is a science and not an art and freedom of speech is only for when youre on the toilet and nobody else is home. (expletive) you.

great video! i was unable to watch any of it due to lack of interest, but im assuming it was massively informative and provides 176 seconds of pure entertainment gold. normally i would cuss you as a closing to this type comment but i have been warned by you tube in a very non specific way that they dont approve 100% of my past comments on other user's videos and they have assured me that if i keep it up i wont be able to type my thoughts in here anymore, which would be fine, i dont enjoy this, i do it as a public service (expletive) you

That sounds good on paper. Sometimes it goes, why are you angry. Tells why. "THAT NEVER HAPPENED YOU ALWAYS..."


although for healthy relationships good advice.

These questions may address a woman's needs - but unlikely a man's needs. A good relationship needs to be able to communicate in both directions

Me: What are you angry about?

Her: You’ve gotten fat, you don’t make enough money and you don’t like to go on vacation to Europe with me.

Me: Ok… er, and how have I scared you recently?

Her: I got scared that you’ll remain fat, won’t muster ambition to make more money, and never go to France with me!

Me: Ok… that scares me and also makes me angry… at you!

What if someone refuses to listen or talk, instead shutting themselves inside their own little metaphorical box?

Asking a woman if she feels angry about something usually ends in one of the two answers:
1. "no."
2. "if you were a good partner you would've figured it out by yourself a long time ago."
Both means the same, which has obviously nothing to do with what she actually said, and doesn't clear up anything at all. She just leaves you behind puzzled, making you feel bad for caring about her. As a man you are expected to be a mindreader, since the "communicative gender" has a strong disability in communicating verbally as they never use the words that would express what they intended to express.

...you can't reason
with a person that puts EMOTIONS above reasoning.

This sounds like a total bucket of crap that only people who go to way too much therapy would buy! Never would I want to be in a relationship with a man I have to ask how I've scared him lately for crying out loud!

Me and my partner make sure that we are truly comfortable with each other and we often ask ourselves these honest open questions about our relationship and I’m so glad I found someone who is reasonable like that. It makes me really happy to be able to be honest with them and talk about true feelings without hiding anything and trying to decipher what they feel and need/want. Being communicative and clear is really important in a relationship in my humble opinion.

This only works when both of the parties have almost same amount of abilities to communicate

nibba spitting some wise words

If I ask these questions to my partner, he would probably never answer them and may even get offended that I think he is scared of me.

Wish this video came out 2 years ago.

I'll ad those to our family conference.
Thank you!

wow some of the best advice I've heard !!!! Thank you!!!

More good videos like this one, please.

these 2 questions never work with a narcissist, because they are never admit any mistakes.

these questions certainly are a good way of saving a relationship. but i feel like the main goal should be a relationship in which both parties are brutally honest while also always having the best intentions for their partner. having someone tell you what bothers them while being constructive and supporting without you having to ask is such a healthy thing for a relationship.
if both partners have no ego and tell each other everything that bothers them in the relationship you truly become one unit that simply wants to improve.
its easy to not get angry at your partner when you know that that person only has the best intentions for you and they simply made a mistake or didnt meet your expectations in some way. and when you dont get mad, but rather act in an understanding way and want to search for a solution together it makes it pretty easy for your partner to be open.

edit: ofc im talking about mistakes and behaviour that is excusable, not about cheating etc.

What do you do when you tell them sweetly and politely too many times but it's part of their character that won't change....move on.

Why am I watching this? I'm single...

1. What are you angry with me about?

2. How have I scared you recently?

I can see the benefit of asking if one has angered their partner. However, scared seems a bit weird. Iw ould have thought there were better questions such as "let down" etc...

Loved that last slide with the tool rack and the descriptions beside each one.

Ha yeah thats never happening. Anytime i try and discuss the wrongs made by both side, it’s automatically ALL put on ME likes everything my fault. What a fucking helpful this video was..

This works very well with non narcissistic people committed to the relationship as a equal member and a unified team. Add any narcissistic trait or worse a covert or overt narcissist, this idea goes in the garbage.

could never have uploaded at a better time

اتمنى تفتحون الترجمة بالعربي على مقاطعكم للفيديو

what makes one angry? being poor
what does everyone fear? being poor

Bahahahahahahahahahaha!

Funniest video on YT.

Those are good questions. The main feeling blocking my love is anger. I felt angry when he woke me up out of a dead sleep because I moved his broken computer out of the living room. He could’ve waited until the next morning to ask me where I put it. Every time he misplaces or loses something he acts like a maniac in a panic tearing up the house and going in circles to find it. I usually always find the item for him in the most obvious place. His doctor gave him Clonidine to take when he can’t calm down.