The Cure for Unrequited Love

The thing is, we might feel love for someone which is not reciprocated. But also, someone else might feel that for us, which we do not give back.

For me, all because of two sayings together. "The heart has reasons the head knows nothing of" & believing despite it all, Shirley it's true, "'Tis better to have loved & lost than to never have loved at all".

I appreciate many of your videos, but this one is lacking, feels like a very superficial hallmark card that doesnt quite get the issue of people who are able to see who they are in love with , flaws and all, in love, not in “crush” . 2 different issues

All I can say is, you never unlove someone. You just eventually do learn to live without them. The love remains because love happens inside of you, alone. Something to consider- you might have been someone’s “all” and not have known, or not have chosen them as well.

Refreshing video

I learned my friend(crush) already has a bf. I genuinely thought we could have been more than friends but no point in orbiting around someone who’s taken, right. It just hurts a little having to accept that I can’t protect her smile and laughter. It hurts so much more the fact that she genuinely cares about me to. I was so stressed cause the last time I caught feelings it didn’t end very well I was depressed for months and it was dangerous. But thankfully she’s a better person and the feelings aren’t as painful. I’m glad she is part of my life even though her stay won’t be permanent. I don’t want to say one last goodbye to her. Thank you Viky for being an amazing friend in my lonely life. Whoever you are reading this, I hope you find peace.





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But... Even when I acknowledge her donwsides, I still love her. I still find her very attractive despite her worst downsides. THAT is the real problem most videos do not address.

Moral of the story: you won't like them once you get to know them.

Today I'm sitting in the corner of my room and crying because the guy whom i fell for just played with my feelings. I can't even blame him fully as i was blind enough to trust his words which wasn't even true. I feel bad. I am 34 and still single. I hate this feeling of unrequited love. I feel so lost now.

In a way this has helped me, but it took time to get past the hurt to see it. Its completely normal to feel the pain of rejection; dont avoid it or make excuses for it. It took a few months to get over the last person i liked, to find new distractions and goals and then see things about him that I realized wouldnt have fit into my life (and they werent necessary flaws, just incompatibility). We wouldnt have been happy in the long run. This month I started liking someone new, a friend who has alot of qualities that I like (and flaws that I can accept), and had my love unrequited. Im hurt, but Im hoping in a few weeks or months I will realize that he also has things in his life that wouldnt have fit into mine, and I can sufficiently move on

What if you meet a person and did not really fancy him at the start? You felt ok and quite comfortable with him but slithly annoyed with some of his personality traits and you found him a bit boring and naive. Then you got to know him better and noticed that he is quite a good catch and actually a good person and quite cute? Thats what im dealing with atm and it sucks even much more. I actually never liked a person from the start, im quite cold, after a while i open up. I noticed man find me interesting because of that but dump me if i show more interest in them.

The cure for unrequited love is detachment

Sadly its a useless video, reality is that your pain will last forever as your love for that person.That is the nature of love its too pure to understand anything.The only way to evade from this misery is through D,that would be selfish as your beloved.

This is the only thing I know, and I’m 34. I feel like I’m cursed.

I broke up with this girl that I loved so much, she was so surprised when I did, but good thing I didnt tell her we were dating.

But... and listen to me... what if she actually WAS perfect... (i mean it as a joke... but then i dont really...)

Well, this sounds like copium...

Not a bad video. I built this person up in my head, now I must build them down in my head lol

WOW!! JUST CAME OUT OF THAT. I'M STILL HURTING FOR THE LOVE I HAD FOR HIM. I GOT THE STORY FROM HIM THAT HE WAS ABUSED BY HIS MOTHER PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. IT'S A "MOTHER WOUND". I WISH THINGS WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER FOR US BUT HE IS DAMAGED AND I CAN'T FIX HIM. HE KNOWS HE'S MESSED UP BUT HAS NO PLAN TO GET HELP. HE'S BEEN LIKE THIS ALL HIS LIFE AND JUST ACCEPTS IT. HE'S A GREAT GUY TO HAVE AS A FRIEND BUT ONLY ON A SUPERFICIAL BASIS. HE'S FEARFUL WHEN THINGS TURN EMOTIONAL BECAUSE HE CHANGES. NOT A GOOD EXPERIENCE
LIKE A JEKL AND HYDE KIND A THING.

Yep got dumped and was trying to move on then she came back after a month of no contact. I know all her faults and her issues but I still love her. She tells me she’s confused and doesn’t wanna lead me on but why even come back. I just love her and wish I could hold her and tell her I’ll always be here for her. But reality is usually painful.

Very helpful to me. Thank you!

the reason im still single 31 years i must be ugly or i just dont have enough money.

I think the cure could be self love and dignity is hard to move on ,sure but giving your love to someone that doesn't reciprocate harms your self esteem and self worth the most important things we have as humans

To all the people who are saying so version of "but what if I know their flaws and I still love them".

This is the cold, hard fact of your situation. You deserve someone who can love you back, we all do. If the person you want can't or won't do that for you, let them go. You can't force someone to love you, and you can't force them to change their minds. Take it for the lesson it is and work towards making yourself better so that the next time someone shows up in you're life, you're ready.

I think one of the most important things I've understood about dating and relationships is that you should never put someone on a pedestal so high that you constantly have to doubt your own worth to be with them. If you cannot see your partner or a potential prospect as an equal (not just in a particular moment but always) maybe it's best you don't indulge with them in that capacity or else you will end up hurting because it will always feel like a 'chase', it's never an ease or state of comfort with them.

Sending this video to bowser with his princess peach problems

There is no cure, live with it. It will hurt like hell

This is dumb. What if you already know their flaws? What if you know them super well?

I just wanna die

Damn that’s some strong bullshit

Oh lord I know my lane I hate this situation im in how do I brake the spell of love from Portuguese people??? It’s real I see how obsessed some girl fell into me….

I'm in the same boat, and I've had this experience in the past but moved on from my previous "crush" In love with someone else but I think she's way out of my league, one time I was going in the store where she works shopping for my neighbor friend and she was outside on her smoke break talking to someone on the phone and I overheard her saying that she had a great time last night, referring to the night before this took place, so thought the worse that that "good time" meant a date or something along those lines, and last night when I was walking home from my job, I was walking past her crib because it's on my way to work, I see a black little pickup truck next to her house, so my dumb fucking ass decided to turn my head to see who was driving said truck because it pulled away from her place of residence, I unfortunately couldn't tell who it was but I sure felt some sense of heartbreak.

This does not help. If you still see the person you love everyday.

He takes beautiful girls to high-end restaurants. He spends time with them after work or on weekends. It's ok... I'm ready to live with the unrequited love for the rest of my life.

Yeah, I know him well. That's the issue. He has flaws and I'm well aware of them but they're not deal breakers. The only one that is a deal breaker is the fact that he's straight. Aside from that, he's perfect in my eyes, flaws and all.

😢😢😢😢 one sided love and feeling alone 😢😢😢

Am suffering from last 7 years 😢😢😢 everyday i feel like hell... please help 😢😮😢😢

Personally I have to disagree with the title of this video.

I believe this might work as a cure for INFATUATION, not unrequitable love.

When you love somebody, you accept their flaws because we all know nobody is perfect.
However, when we're infatuated with somebody, we don't see their flaws as we keep them on a pedestal and are enthralled with the idea of them.

Unrequited love is when we love someone - flaws and all and we desperately wish they felt it return.

I am not a psychologist, but from my own experience, the cure to is to build up the courage and then physically and emotionally separate from them all together. Avoid all contact. Permanently. It will never get easier or better for you unless you completely separate yourself from them. It won't be easy. It's very hard, but essential. Then, evaluate, grow and heal.

Will you ever be 100% over them? No, they'll always have a place in your heart, but then at least you can move on and be open to love once again.

Positive energy to all those watching this video and reading the comments. It's no accident you're here. It's clear you're going through your own similar journey with this topic. I hear you, I understand and empathize with you. I can't fix it for you, but take solace in the fact that you're in similar hands. You're not alone. 🤍

YOU DONT WANT UNREQUITED LOVE ITS MANIPULATION NOT LOVE AND ALSO A PERSON WILLINGLY IGNORING YOUR FEELINGS ISNT LOVE ITS ABUSE AND YALL WEAK IF YOU WANT THAT

For awhile I had this issue with my best friend. They're in a long distance relationship with someone in Sweden, we're both in the US. I was able to get past it though by gaining the mindset that feelings change and nothing is permanent. Just because she's unavailable now doesn't mean she won't be in the future. I'm not going to wait for her, like if I find someone who is available and compatible with me, I'm going to go for it. But I feel like if we're really meant to be together, then it will happen at some point. And if it doesn't? Then that's okay, that's just how it is. I've accepted the situation. I still value her as a friend.

but i love his flaws too 💀💀

The comments make some very good points; I’d like to add (and it is possible) what if the rejector is actually almost perfect; because they’re super intelligent and super accomplished, and actually well loved and well respected by everyone around them.

This video is not compelling. It's not that anyone believes the OoA is perfect, or that they could never irritate you; or that you can't discover down the road how annoying or difficult they can be. In fact, it is a myth lovers only see perfection in each other. What's scary is that they love through and despite the flaws, while remaining perfectly aware of them. This is what makes strong resilient marriages. The traits that make people compatible and inspirational to each other - this is what drives love, not a naive belief that the OoA is "flawless." When highly compatible people come together they can work around each other's flaws. With someone who inspires less, the flaws become very difficult to overlook. In unrequited love can happen for many different reasons and in the end it makes no sense if not reciprocated. On the other hand, love that is reciprocated but impossible can be truly devastating.

I dont agree with this at all. The person i struggle with as constantly being in love with, who doesnt really return that feeling - does not have flaws that would make me stop caring for them. I already understand people are complicated and human lmfao. The difference is being cold, distant or uninterested is more then enough to start feeling less about that person than thinking about how annoying they would be. This video is nonsense lol

It’s worse than heartbreak.
Because a lot of time, they were just themselves, and never meant to make us feel this horrible.
Crying right now. This is just breaking me.

There is no cure, however you can live with it.
Move far far away, cut contact, learn to love yourself, be happy with yourself avoiding romantic relationships.
It is a happy, but solemn life.

Just dont do law of attraction/assumption videos to get them, i did for a long time and thought I was attracting him and he was leaving because of me and what i believed, but it was narcissistic hoovers and I was being abused 😅

It’s beautiful. May be finding ways to let them is my only option . But I guess this is the only option that brings me most peace.

Ugh 5 years of one sided unrequited love.

This is so wrong. You don't focus on all the flaws someone has, and if you truly loved them, those wouldn't even deter you. Those of us truly in love know the "flaws" their beloved has and they love those flaws too. The only reason they are "bad for you" is because they don't love you the same way/amount you love them, or if they even care about you at all. And you owe it to yourself to find someone who does love you, who loves you as much as you love them. That's the important thing to realize and to focus on in order to move on from unrequited love. The blind "idolization" they're talking about isn't unrequited love, it's just an obsessive crush.