How Many Children to Have | Dave Rubin & Jordan B Peterson

I definitely thought one was way way easier than two. I had a big age gap between my two and an only child was easy.

If you have more than 3 kids it’s inevitable that parents drop the youngest child on the older because the parents don’t have enough time.

Old jp was 🔥😢

I think this is a pretty narrow minded view of only children

Zero..zero kids is best.

Came here cos i am wondering if i should have more kids and i think i have my answer.

Meh..... Not every child benefits from having siblings.... Just like not all parents benefit from having more than 1 child.... Kids are alot of work

I’ve noticed that people in these comments write really long sentences

I just found out my wife is pregnant of our third child, they will be no more than 4 years appart between them. I must say I am still in shock, but it's nice te hear I will have some peace and quiet in a couple of years 😅

I am an only child who was raised with cousins close in age, so I never missed not having siblings. I think only children are just fine as long as parents socialize them often with other children.

1 at most. At most! Yes, one at most. I said it. It needed to be said.

Somewhere between 0 and 2 or 3.

my dad has 7 siblings, they actually don’t get along because of inheritance problems, quite common in India and around the world I suppose.
So among these kids the 2 females weren’t educated due to economic constraints, 2 males dropped out of school, 2 males graduated but couldn’t have successful careers, 2 males graduated and had a successful and stable career (my dad is in this category)
Similarly my granny had 7 siblings - 3 females uneducated, 2 males graduated with a stable career, 1 male dropped out, 2 males graduated but no good career.
Pls check how much resources you have and then reproduce accordingly.
This is an unfair world and sometimes a cruel world too, so be careful with your decisions, sometimes your child may need an additional push from your side and giving that push at the right time can change their life entirely.

My hubby passed away 3 years ago. I have one child. I’m soon turning 38. How I wish I could have a second one. My son keeps asking for a sibling. And I also would love another baby. 😢

Siblings are great when they are close in adult life. Siblings who fight are awful.

Why didn't Jordan Peterson address the issue of homosexual Dave Rubin and his "husband", adopting children from a surrogate mothers... thereby depriving those children of a mother?

As many as you can physically bear, while barely making it work financially.

There is NOTHING more meaningful in life than your children, and nothing more indescribably fulfilling as having a horde of grandchildren running through your house every holiday.

Watching a single child to me its obvious that he cant become socially acclimated easily

If men had to give birth, one would be the ideal number … Now seriously, sometimes you want more than one but the first one left you physically destroyed unable to concieve again…what can you do? Life happens

Recent father of twins here: I dunno man, 2 seems like quite a handful right now. I can see how this gets better when they're older though.

none is the best

The issue is that our generation can't even afford to have one child. He is speaking from his experience from a context that this generation will have a hard time relating to.

3 should be maximum! Law should mandate it. Too many children going to poverty not having food to eat. 3 is actually a lot, but just to be a bit more generous. It’s crazy that parents can’t even take care of 1 very well.

As an only child, it's not good cause you can easily become dependent and narcissistic and have hard time in adulthood, we need to have siblings to learn how to compete and socialize at an early stage of development and through out life.

He’s right, I’m an only child and it sucks azz and have pretty bad anxiety as well

He is right in that point

I have 6 kids and I absolutely see this play out. I often feel bad for the older ones who got so much individual attention from me and I feel happy for the kids 3, 4, 5, and 6 because I feel like they were "saved" from my meddling in a way. Once we had 3 kids, they all just wanted to be in the same room with each other and I went from entertaining kids up in my face for the last 4 years 100% of my day (which drove me absolutely crazy) to them all wanting to be in the toy room together and sitting silently by myself for a few minutes (with them in earshot, of course). Now, having a gaggle of 5 running around helping each other (yes, fighting, but that's what I'm there for) and a newborn means that the newborn gets what she needs and the older kiddos lives are relatively undisrupted by a new baby - their life is stable and happy, with lots of joy to relish in a newborn sibling's smiles. I am so grateful for not stopping when I felt overwhelmed with 2-3 kids. Instead I asked for help of everyone and anyone of good will who would help me. We got through it and now I'm seeing the incredible gift a larger family has to offer both myself and the community at large.

Then you gotta make sure siblings don’t have so much age gap. Otherwise it wouldn’t serves the point.

I'm Somali so best believe I'ma start a whole tribe with 15 kids and then encourage my 15 kids to have 15 kids and so on. I'm joking btw.... Kinda 😉

Last year I got a ride to the airport by an Uber driver who has 11 children (all from the same wife). They live in Vancouver (one of the most expensive cities in the world) and still they manage. He also said he comes from a family of 29 children. That's right - he has 28 siblings and all from the same mom and dad! He moved to Canada from a Somali village where the population is around 300 people and they are all related. When a man in the village takes a spouse from another village, she moves to the man's village. He was such an awesome guy and I gave him a 100% tip :))

Zero

This vid hits different to me i mean i have a brother who is almost 2 year younger than me but there was a problem....i have autism....and it is like i didn't socialize with him so much and so good let's say :/
In school it was even worse, i was always the oldest of the goddam classroom plus i didn't socialize

Me, youngest, two other siblings, 24, nervous wreck. Nope, your theory doesn't hold up, Jordan.

I would like to warn to newer parents that if you intend to have more than one child, be wary if one starts to exhibit toxic behavior towards the other. Though what Jordan mentioned in this video is true, it can of course have the opposite effect when a toxic personality is thrown into the mix. My older sister is a Malignant Narcissist, and you can probably imagine it didn't do much good for my social development.

Love it. Grew up as 1. Hate not having siblings. It’s hard to make friends in adulthood, and having siblings would have been really nice for psychological health, imho. Not like I am a psycho, but it would have been nice to talk about your life and challenges to your siblings. I thank God I have many cousins though, they all live in different countries, but talking to them makes me happy!!!

Minimum 2 rest depends on your stamina 😄🤣

My sisters traumatized me

Yes more people that’s what the planet needs - this was stupidity at its finest from a man who claims to have wisdom - it’s interesting how people think they need to bring more and more people to this world —— why ?

You're an idiot Jordan. My nephew was an only child. I gave him alone time when he was a baby during the day for both of our sanities and he could entertain himself.
You're wrong. I'm lifelong single and will never have kids ever. I'll never be sorry. Boom!!!!!

i’ve always thought that two kids was the perfect number

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Studies don’t support his claims: according to the data, onlies are pretty much like everyone else, no less happy, with no less friends, no more depressed etc. than those who have siblings

My mother always says "one is less, two is to much"

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i absolutely respect your opinion; but I will also tell you this: sometimes adult things need to take a darn backseat to what the child wants, I seriously believe you missed the make here man! I think its not that other children get to be playmates, its that with only 1 YOU also are the playmate! got it, so you missed out on that fun!

Agree. One child is not optimal. It was great to have many siblings. I guess 4 would have been optimal and best if I were young enough but time running out for beeing the best father I want to be for all their stages in life. What the heck. Life dont just happen the way you wish.

I'll have 12 and send them all to mars

i want at least 6. 9 sound good. if i will be able to have more than 9, even better. 🥰

who is taking care of them?

I only want to have children if i can do it like frogs, have 5000 at once and then abandon them all