Clean vs. Dirty Pain: Are You Creating Your Own Suffering? How to Process Your Emotions 4/30

There's not enough sad movies in this world

Depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance. Who the hell do you think you are?

Can you make a video about when you feel empty inside. I want to improve my mental health. I too want to move on and not give attention to things that won't come to my life anymore and accept the reality without feeling pain. I want to stop relating every single thing to myself. I don't want to think about what 'they' are doing right now. I want to stop caring about people to whom I was a mistake and a pain in the ass.

Thanks!

Whenever I try to "remove" pain, I just feel like I become this emotionless stone hearted person. I can't find or can't understand a middle ground

So basically you are saying I caused my depression? And is my fault that i keep having it? Oh wow and I thought by blaming the real culprits was me finally defending myself and stading up for myself but I guess I was wrong all along and now Im the one who did it all after all like i thought in the beggining. Thanks lady hopefully I can finally snap out of my depression by stopping believeing i was traumatized, im gonna talk it out with my psych and maybe stop seeing him since ya know i am my own problem and i just need to stop thinking like this.

I’ll take the dirty pain

i feel like figuring out the difference between clean and dirty pain is a lifetime's work...when you get that down, you truly have the "wisdom to know the difference"...good luck everyone!

Gratitude 😊

Your explanations are incredible, thank you.

Also wanted to point out that for people who are struggling with anxiety, depression or any other disorder. Healthy coping skills are very important. Not the coping mechanisms which numb your pain but healthy ones to reflect. Because for people like us it's very easy to get false alarms and act out in most situations and make things worse. So please keep your healthy coping mechanisms close to you. This video might be good for people who are already healed and can trust their emotions and intuitions.

yes i’m the one creating my own suffering

Most of the people in my family and neighborhood make up horrible untrue stories about me, then when they finally tell me what they need to talk to me about, it s horrible accusations that I haven't even done. So, now I have learned to expect the worst because that's usually what does come to fruition. My real life is worse than my nightmares.

growth mindset is a really good term to use regularly.

she is very logical and very wise. very good to listen to.

isn't there a workbook for this course? I can't find a link :)

I found your channel at the exact time I needed it❤

I 90% of the time create my own emotional or mental pain.

I"m in a bad place and this helps a lot

The title alone is gaslighting. I won't be watching any of her videos!

Wow! The title alone gaslights immediately! I definitely won't be watching this!

Rosa is pretty self centered lmao

What an "A Ha" moment watching this video.

I'm not my 3 older sister's ARE,,, drama,,instigating,,gossip,,has borderline ruin my life ,,ANY HELP,,PLEASE !!

I can't tell you how much you have helped me. Thank you.

U may not know how these series of videos helping people, who r trapped n seeking for help
Thanks a lot sister for ur selfless service
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I'm a school teacher n I'm following ur channel since last four years
Very helpful for helping students n some of their parents also😌🙏♥️🙋

I’m very much feel empowered about the realization of creating my own misery. Going from blame to awareness to acceptance that I’ve created a dissonance with myself at a young age, 3/4. An erroneous belief that defined me until I did some deep deep work and uncovered my own self inflicted trauma thinking something happened that didn’t. I don’t beat myself up about that. Thank goodness for healing. I do take responsibility noticing how deep that is and how that mindset experience affected my relationship with myself, my parents and siblings. I still feel distant from them. Our lives are quite different now to though. My interests are different, I don’t share the family religion, I’m divorced - non of them are. I can accept that now instead of attempting to make myself fit into their paradigm or their opinions of me.

Emma is a mensch. Thanks for the practical tips on this.

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I appreciate these videos. I'm only a little in but I would like to offer a suggestion for the future. It's just my thoughts, but you might want to come up with a different name for the "dirty" pain. It kind of brings up shame. Like I already know I inflict pain upon myself with my poor thinking, but I don't need to think of myself as unclean & dirty in that sense, too. I almost couldn't click on this vid because I hate feeling ashamed of myself.

I sincerely hope there is some syllabus about Foundation of CBT can be taught since primary school, because this is priceless and valuable for humanity.

My ex and my parents piss me off, and I’m ok with that.

This isn’t intro to Mycology! Nice though.

Do you understand PTSD?

Getting "Peace" is the hardest thing in this modern world!

Umm... I need a little help here... Well ik now that the pain I'm experiencing is just created by my own thinking but ... Well about 2 weeks back a little misunderstanding happened between me and one of my very good friend .... Sweetest person i have met till now....I didn't know that it was my fault i was super frustrated and i put it all on her as i thought it was her fault.... But Ryt after two or three days i realised that it was me only.... But I didn't had courage to tell this to her.. Now we haven't talked since then and I'm feeling very guilty and i feel like I'm gonna lose her,.. plesse tell me what should I do to make everything all good again...?

P.s. ik the sequence of the statements aren't best but hopefully the message get conveyed...

What you need to do is just tell them "don't worry about it!"
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I love the stories you use to illustrate the concepts! This is quality content. Thank you for creating it and sharing it with us all for free.

What if the dirty pain comes from something you did to hurt someone and didn’t mean to and feel terrible but it still cannot change what happened. I have no idea how to forgive myself or even look at myself in the mirror

I love this channel, thanks so much 🙏✨👍

I have ulcerative colitis and I am suffering and its pain I am responsible for.

Six years ago I had a knee joint break and after the surgery I was left without meds for twelve hours. And only 1,5 years later I got my first flare up. Now you may think its a long time between the accident and the first flare up, but I had a second surgery one year later to remove all the metal out of my knee. After I was fully recovered I had my first flare up and almost died, because I tried to get to a hospital, but was simply denied.

After the first treatment like this with the absence of pain meds I developed PTSD and I was diagnosed just recently with it. Its four years later after my first flare up. I was so scared to trust, I didn't seek for help, I rather would die in my first flare up, then try again to get in a hospital... I also was left alone as a baby, which was the first experience for my beeing helpless and crying for help without getting it. I didn't try too hard after my surgery and also in my first flare up.

One year after I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis I broke up with my boy friend, it was too much to carry for both of us. And today I wrote him and thanked him for beeing there for me, helping me with everything I was struggling with. He told me he felt like he left me alone in a situation, where I needed him the most and I told him, that it was ok. I am not mad at him, I thought I was, but I was only mad at myself, but I forgave myself!

Last flare up I had, I started the therapy, the flare up took over four months! The longest I had. Since then nothing, I had diarrhea once, but solved a problem and it went away! I am not in remission, I am healing. Its the same feeling as the feeling when my knee healed, its totally fine today btw.

If someone read it all, thank you for listening to my story. I appreciate it a lot! It gives me a voice, that is heard by others!