How long does it take to get over a breakup? | Am I Normal? with Mona Chalabi

This is so hard

Its been said but still the best way to get over a guy is to get under a new ond

Over 3 years with my ex, we were getting married and moving country and now that’s all gone in the past few days. My feelings are up and down but mostly I question how and why I’d want to do anything without them, I was in hospital a few days ago because those feelings got too much and I’m kind of just venting now… Hopefully I can look back on this and be in a happier space so I can tell anyone feeling the same that it gets better.

Been 6 months for me and I still feel just as heartbroken with no sign of stopping

The worst thing about the breakup are the memories. Memories u loved before and shared are just painful from now on.

I was with mine 6 months and I adore him! But due to circumstances we are now separated. The first day was the worst. I am a born again Christian though and can literally FEEL the Holy Spirit comforting my heart. The pain just disappears and instead of sorrow I feel a warmth in my chest. I’m so thankful I don’t have to do this alone because I literally felt terrified! Ask Jesus to help you-he really really wants you to! ❤

i am inmy third year... i feel really desperate

My problem was she kept listening to everybody else, people that hate me, and she had previously led on, still having to let go is so hard.

The problem with reappraisal is you're basically lying to yourself. If you're even moderately rational and self aware, you'll know that fact and so won't really be able to buy into the reappraisal.

2 years. Still not over her yet. Still want her to come back saying sorry.

The thing is that they are involved with everything I find fun or that would distract me, my sports, my “fun” classes, etc, what do I do then?

It has now been two weeks and one day. Not a day goes by where I don't cry. It's the hardest at night. They used to read me to sleep. I have trouble sleeping, they used to help. Now I toss and turn every night, trying to explain to the little girl within me that this is not her fault, that she is safe and loved even though this person who looked after her for three whole years is now completely out of reach.

I know love is not enough to make things work. But god do I wish it was enough.

I’m over it already

we dated in high school for 2 years and broke up. I made the mistake of remaining friends hoping that one day ill get her back. 3 years later I actually did. we dated for 2 more years and things ended once again. It’s hard for me to lose a best friend especially one I’ve known for so long. Idk how to get over the “what ifs”. people say I have to learn to move on but i battle that part of me that tells me “you just gotta keep working on it together to see better days”. I’m devastated

I'm captivated by the clarity and insight of this content. A book with comparable insights was a defining moment for me. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

5 anni e mi fa ancora male. Fanculo l' andare avanti e le frasi motivazionali. Puoi scopare, distrarti, fare cose incredibili ma se ti hanno cagato nell' anima nel modo giusto non è detto che ne esci .

I broke up three weeks ago. It is hard. Needing alot of friend and family support! Wish all strength

The man I was seeing for three months and even went to Italy with, told me that he couldn’t see himself with me seriously because he didn’t like the way I communicate (i struggle with adhd, which makes my speech unstructured and random change of topic) and it doesn’t match him. Fair. Communication is central in a relationship so I can understand that it was a turn off for him. But it still triggered me because I am committed in my adhd journey, that I discovered 2 years ago. I see a coach for that and I can feel the significant impacts. All I needed was more time .. being rejected because of my adhd, I felt a shame I never felt before and I don’t wish it to anyone. It was like a humiliation.
I even felt more humiliated because he told me that since he couldn’t see himself with me because of that, he suggested me that we should be in a situationship. He wouldn’t even mind If i find myself a boyfriend soon, but we could still talk and link up.
Man. I felt humiliated. Disrespected. Put in a box. Can’t believe a man I saw something serious with, just suggested me something like that .. he was my first crush in two years and I was finally ready to let my guards down for the first time in my life with him..

My self worth has been affected. My ability to trust men. It feels so wrong to suffer while the other person is at peace and living life. I wish I’ll never see him again. What is even more unfair is that he will never miss me because one can’t miss a person he never cared about …

Nah… I came here for the magic number exclusively

I’m going to do a deep video on this, mainly aimed at the men (in hope people can relate and to help people)

And I think this is what depression feels like

We decided to take a break

Only dated for 3.5 months. But it has been 3 months post breakup now, there is still no days went by without me thinking about him. I still cry myself to sleep and cry when I wake up as well.

It's been a month since everything went down. I'm hoping that I can process my feelings and begin to move forward in life. <3

It’s been a year progress has been made but I have not stopped thinking about it every single day

5 years now and I still feel the same. Thinking of ending it at this point

we dated for four months and I felt like he was the one. He made promises of our future and told me he would support me through everything. This is the second breakup i'm going through this year and I really don't think I can make it through this one. I hope I can come back to this post in a year and feel different.

i miss her so much i just want to hug her and smell her again. my heart aches for her

LOL. Three years here.

It’s been a year, still not over her.

3 days into the breakup of a 2.5 year relationship. Ican hardly believe it ended, much less believe I could somehow get over it

It was a 9 year relationship and 2 year marriage, it's been 6 years. I was the one who ended it but I can't move on from the pain, don't know if I ever will.

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The end makes me really think

Day 2….this hurts so bad

The only thing that retriggers strong feelings and melancholy for me is when she appears in my dreams. Then it takes me multiple days to fully get my mind straight again. Over 4 years have passed, and what I noticed is that it never really heals, I just learned to handle it a little better nowadays when it happens.

SO SHE DIDN'T SAID NOTHING IN THE END... FOOL

It can take a lifetime to get over a breakup, Maybe more than a lifetime, I pray all yall heal, I pray i heal as well

it hurts so badly

I don’t think you ever move or or let go or get over an impactful relationship. I think we learn to live with the grief and hole in our hearts and just hope that one day someone better for us will come along.

It's been a year. Come on!!! Urg I'm so pissed off with myself 😡

What a useless video lol

I was only with her for four weeks and it hurts so bad

The answer for me is never. I'm ok being alone for past several years

It's been 5 years I'm still suffering grief and pain everyday like I'm a grieving widow

My dumb dumb feels takes about a year to totally move on and another year to work on myself

Very fun stuff I guess?

Well two years later i still stay in bed all day if i can. Got no reason to get up

I had to walk out of a friendship of 7 years.... It was beyond the hardest, most heartbreaking thing i have ever done.

I watched this 6 months ago wondering how I would ever be able to move on. Right now I'm probably the happiest I've been in my adult life. Don't underestimate yourself and your ability to let go!