5 Signs You're Afraid of Falling In Love

We also made videos about bad habits few days ago too, did you get a chance to watch them?

Falling in love with someone either you can't have can't be with they can't be with you or whatever the reason is or it may not be mutual from the other person or it doesn't go anywhere and then you're left like well okay what do you do I mean also I don't mind being alone just not all the time it'd be nice to have an actual partner to be with after 18 years of not being with anyone else for the fact that you know I think something was going to go somewhere with and then it ends up not going anywhere and I'm like well what do I do like it's always at a standstill or question to wonder is it friendship or what is it does it is it mean anything is it matter because it doesn't go anywhere with anyone like what would it matter anymore feels like almost like to the point where should I just give up bonding with anyone or expecting anyone to be with me offline and then this sucks right now or breaker blew in my place so I have no utilities right now in my place other than extension cords plugged into a cord a power cord I don't want again one thing after another to where I have to worry about all of that like you know with my priorities and then how do I how do I feel that way how do I be that way to do with another person and not even to know the person that would have feelings for me I'm not going to make some fictitious feeling of somebody that would feel that way about me and then get the wrong idea or get the wrong impression and then feed myself with feelings that if they're not there you know what I'm saying like man I would feel even more horrified and embarrassed and that's another thing somebody can show me content all they want but that doesn't mean they're with me or going to be with me you see what I'm saying. I want to fall in love again also and it's like I can't do long distance relationship I just can't do that and it's almost making me petrified to put a feelings into someone again and it just doesn't go anywhere again I'm really getting tired of that after 18 years 18 years 18 years I have not been with anybody else 17 years was with one person only and we've been separated for 4 years and still wasn't with anybody else that would be fantastic if it could be local and off social media to know you know personally know the person in that way if they feel that way I don't even know anymore Belinda constantly having to worry about the expectations of what I'm supposed to look like to be enough you see what I'm saying on that it's like oh my God I don't even know anymore I haven't even gone on a date with anybody for 18 years single trying to date at my age is horrifying and why would I be expected to worry about it anyways when no one's dating me why would I do that to myself when I just need to get used to being alone. And no not at some Hotel

I'm scared of women

I love these psych2go videos. I might be an old man with a host of issues that usually only surface after a bottle of Jack Daniel's but I'll be damned if they don't help with introspection.

I'm not a good man, but I've got a lot of life experience and I'm self aware and vulnerable enough to tell just about anyone my faults if it can give them a better life.

Despite being a possibly terrible person I only hope my life can be used to improve the life of others. At least one person.

I think this is a pretty fair video that will be good for a lot of people but just doesn't fit me. I had a long distance relationship from 2015 to 2019 that got pretty serious. I'm not sure what was the final nail in the coffin for us. It could have been a form of guilt with me seeing local women (my long distance partner knowing and being accepting of) or something else. But when the situation came to my partner accepting a salary decline of more than 60% minimum I broke off our relationship.

I felt like she was dropping her self worth to move halfway across the world to live with me, and she shouldn't do that. I regret that everyday since, but hell, that's life.

For some reason ever since I haven't been able to have any meaningful relationship. At best I'd accept a one night stand if a pretty woman felt I could feel her needs without expecting anything longterm, but thats not filled the whole in my heart.

I don't mean to sound a fool, but of anyone reads this old man's problems and l sees even a glimpse of happiness don't turn it away like this drunken fool. Seize what you can and at the very least regret it once it's a problem and not when it's a joy.

This video suits only people who actuallly are or have been in love.
Too bad.

I'm not afraid of love, I've realized from a hard look at my past that not everyone will have love in their life.

Goddamn it!

The idea of being in a relationship hits so different to me. I love imagining myself being in a relationship which felt so freaking unreal like reading a book character's love life. But in reality I'm not feeling I'm into being in a relationship. I watched your "why higly intelligent people struggle with love" video and that felt so much like me. And I wanna add another reason for it. I'm afraid of being in a relationship. Because of the relationships that I saw, the relationship that my parents shared etc. And I'm freaking out when think of being in a relationship because I feel like it's gonna turn bad whatever you do or whoever you are in relationship with. And I don't wanna do any stupid thing which actually means falling in love to me.

May as well rant. Psych2go you dropped the ball on this one. I’ve been waiting for a video about philophobia from a decent source for a while now. And you immediately pull out Freud 101 with the “UwU people wif philophoba didn’t have wove in childhood” here’s why I’m afraid of romance for future reference.

I am afraid of romance and falling in love because it overrides my free will. I had exactly one crush and it was a fucking nightmare. Thoughts constantly looping back to the crush, trying to impress them even though neither of us wanted to date and, the fucking oppressive idea that I should treat what is effectively an automatic override to my will as a good thing.

Plus if me (A male) enters a relationship with an abusive woman I might be charged with abusing her. Think Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. If I end up in that situation I’m fucked. Even if the court rules me not guilty, there will still be misandrists who think I was the culprit.

Don’t get me wrong, I know most relationships straight, gay, poly, anything, will turn out fine, and most of the ones that don’t are usually broken off by an agreement of all parties involved.

Also, I am not an incel. I don’t want any part in romance or sex. I also don’t consider myself a misogynist. I do not fear all or even most women, just the ones who can abuse somebody and worm their way out of proper justice.

And no, Psych2Go, this neurosis is not because I had an abuse mother, grandmother or, sibling. Objectively speaking, my experience with humanity is mostly positive. But there’s always this thought In the back of my head of “what if I get fooled into an abusive relationship?”

For me, I fear both the state of having a crush and what that mental fog could get me into if I’m not careful.

Addendum: another part of love I don’t like is the cult like nature of how we treat it. It’s all you need, it’s all there is. Were somebody to say those same things about a god we’d call it a cult. We just don’t call our relationship with love cult like because it makes feel good.

Masterbastion can make a person feel good and we can say somebody can be addicted to it. Why not the same with love?

What I meant by weak when I first said this to a bunch of my friends was the broken hearted or trauma survivors or in general people who are afraid of romance

I’m not scared of love I’m scared of romance because it’s not pure I once said romantic love is a brave man’s game it’s not for the weak

idk anymore, after thrice heattbreaks in life, i couldnt trust any man..im scared it will be repeated, everytime i fell for someone, there will be something wrong, once they found out i have attached, really in love, sincerely, they start to be different, and make me feel worthless

I've had my heart broken and feelings betrayed in September by the woman I thought I would marry. The first time in my life that I was that certain about something/someone. I've had no choice but to accept this and I'm still not quite over it. I've recently begun dating again, but it's difficult to really get into it when you're constantly reminded of the last experience and how things went down. It's gotten so far as me realising that I'm catching feelings for this new person, and despite that I still feel like I'm doing this person a disservice by still thinking about my ex, and by being afraid of allowing myself to open up and be vulnerable again.

Everytime im with him acting very close i get overwhelmed but a worried type of overwhelmed that hangs in my chest and never leaves if i ever speak to him and it doesnt stop until i cut contact and it may be me the one who didnt recognize what i felt in the video but i feel like what i feel doesnt fall in any categorie that is in the video.

I don't love because I know that whoever "she" is she'll never love me on the same level. I'm more tolerated rather than loved by other people except for my family. I would much rather stay in an iron shell than go through another heartbreak like I did with my Ex. I know it's kinda childish to push women away, but I just don't think the pain is worth it or that I'll even be appreciated by anyone. Risk is to high with little reward.

when u had a toxic relationship and now you cant believe someone like you fr

Oh GOD this explains so much. My parents are great but I lived with grandparents who do physically harm each other in the past... plus our family is pretty traditional, marriage kinda means forever... :)

There's 2 things that make me afraid of falling in love and those are


1. I can't really talk to strangers idk I used to do it just fine as a kid but now i only say a word to answer a question and in public spaces not even a sound comes out of my mouth

2. I don't know what will happen in the future and how they'll treat me and i don't want it to be bad

I've always been afraid and never known how to read signs from people I don't really know what love is and I've never actually been on a date or had my first kiss and I'm 22. I'm always afraid because I don't understand if it's love or lust there is a friend a girl I've known since I moved to a new place back in 2018 she was the first person to talk to me and actually be my first friend when I moved I've known her so long and now I started having feelings after all these years we hung out a lot this year like we went to a lot of movies we went to her house she took me to a play and then we went to IHOP basically almost midnight after as well as going to a concert and my first con which was free. the night I actually realized it I was thinking in my head I want to kiss you we were in my car just getting back to her house I've thought about it so much but I can't make the move but the main reason is I don't want to lose her as a friend I think that if I did try I would lose her I've always been afraid I don't know if it's love or lust

Me as having been there!!

I dont have a partner lolz

Honestly, I'm afraid of everything 💀

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Great video. Thanks for sharing. God bless. THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH. AMEN. ❤❤❤

Love is afraid of me.

disappointed, came here to see anime girl smooching and it was all a lie!

Your channel has always helped me with my mental health, and as a man, I don't have a lot of help with that. I have started a relationship with someone, and I feel your channel is partly responsible for this, even though we live in different countries (I in Canada BC and her in Louisiana USA) I have never been happier. I guess I just wanted to thank you. I was afraid of love being open with someone else again was terrifying, but you helped me heal, and now I have to willingness to love again and will do everything in my power to make this work.

Love...... What a load of shit

Whenever im attracted to someone, i try to push them away by calling them names, or not smiling around them. I don't want to, but its just how i cope with my feelings. Is there any other coping mechanism to use instead?

I'm not afraid, I just can't activate anymore that emotion, been turned down too many times, always loved the wrong person (my incredible luck), and when I looked for emotional support from my parents, they laughed at me for being silly for a man.
Nowadays they tell me I'm cold, distant and filled with hatred. The only thing they care about it's family lineage. "Who am I to stop centuries of Family Tree?" Well sorry to disappoint you yet again.

Yeah but how do you know you're not going to be betrayed, attacked, gaslit and or suffocated?

it's difficult to admit and I had guessed that I was afraid. To think that I know I am afraid to fall in love yet crave the feeling of having an important person and being important to them is not fun.

As a men, it's difficult to not be afraid of love, and more generaly of womans. The fact that now some womans want every man to be abandonned or... dead even, it is not simple to live with.

Falling in love in todays conditions, where mens are just seen a the worst thing in the world because they're... well... born like that, is not a thing i can risk... i want to try love once more, even if i've been decieved, but now the risk is just to high, even talking to a woman can be a motive to go to jail now...

So it is clear to me. I have friends, but love is not an option no more. I know there are still some peoples that don't talk to mens like trash, but it is to rare now. My feelings... well, they're what they are. Like, think i am in love right now, and i know that the person i think about as feelings for me but... never again. I prefer to suffer alone than being betrayed and destroyed, just because i am born as a boy.

(If some mistakes in prononciation, i'm french, so... my english is not perfect)

May you please guide also that how to make that broken 💔 person comfortable?

Thank you very much, I really genuinely thank you.

I think I have philophobia but the symptoms are physical : When someone reciprocates my feelings, I suddenly get a severe nausea, shakings, anxiety attack and it cancels my feelings right away, like my love is gone until the person is a bit more detached and doesn't seem to love me back anymore then I feel safe to love the same person again. Does someone feel the same ? I'm lost 🥺

When there's marriage, why is there a need for these newly established unnecessary relationships btw young children, there is nothing real in these relationships. It's okay if it's just a matter of opposite genders being friends and laughing lightly. But it should not go beyond that!
Trust me, the only true & real relationship you'll ever have with that someone special is marriage, and that too at the appropriate time, there are many reasons behind this, from the shastras. But people these days , think that just an attraction of one body to another is love..❤ and because of developing an attitude of liking someones externals... from the childhood dating experience, even divorces happen very fast, and it never ends well..
It seems exciting initially for kids, but break many apart, mental health issues and then there's those arguments, threats, feeling s of possession, insecurities, bla bla, was it even needed!

everything was good. We were falling in love with eachother. He always said that he was scared though. about not being good enough for me... about how I deserved better. The last thing he said to me was how cute I looked in this dress and then he was gone. Left without a word. He was truly anxious.. and I loved him so much and now hes just gone. I dont know if it was me. if I did something wrong.. but we always laughed and talked about deep stuff. our paths. etc... Why did he leave..? But he was always so nervous about love.. I think he left because he was scared he was falling hard.. he always said he was scared of hurting me again.. I don't know what to do anymore...

Bruh my comment got deleted

I have philophobia too. As an introvert, I am very comfortable being alone. Yes, I yearn for affection but when someone started to become affectionate towards me and I feel that I'm starting to get attached, it overwhelms me so much that detaching feels safer than allowing myself to be vulnerable. Solitude feels so good because it's something I am familiar with and falling in love seems like a very terrifying idea. Too terrified to get hurt, terrified to lose my identity, terrified to lose myself in the process. I'm not actively looking for love but am not closing my doors for somebody that will make me feel that love is greater than my fears. But for now, I'm still enjoying my solitude and am completely okay with it.

Eh, love is overrated anyway. I have friends, gaming, metal music, and other hobbies to keep me entertained instead of being betrayed by love.

We're different and only love those who makes you happy but never enough to say I love you! Might as well love yourself cause this is how you become stronger......

all types of love are dangerous in my experience

I never realized how much I pushed away someone I truly loved because of the fear if falling in love until I lost him 😢

I always try to avoid falling in love because I didn't want make sacrifice for another person .😁

While I am somewhat concerned of love, it’s because it steals my freedom from me, and we act as if relationships don’t go wrong at all.
Love will only take someone so much, and we don’t need external validation cause remember: You are Enough.

I also don’t get why people think love is magic pill: it isn’t and that’s a fact. So if anyone doesn’t want love: you need to know this:
YOU ARE ENOUGH

You don’t need the outside world to tell you what to do

i was afraid of falling in love even before falling in love for the first time, then I ruined things with my first love, maybe because of my fear