I'm a 33 year old woman with no life. (my advice to young women)

Does putting the word out there make things go away?

I still need to get my ged and then vocational school because college is out of the question

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This is soo accurate, job hunting is a hustle :/

i feel you at 50.

Honey, this’s a very brave of u to tell others about your past experiences. You know today society with all this social media and everything. It’s created delusional fake standards of how life should be going and how “other” are doing great which is not true. Today is new year day so I hope for new opportunities for u to shine ❤

I needed to see this. :( thank you for sharing your experiences. Happy New year

I think you’re smart and you’ve got the right idea!!! Good luck! I’m rooting for ya!!

I relate a lot to this. Thanks for sharing.

Just get into teaching

I am somewhat in the same position except I've never been married and I'm at university again (at 34 years old 😅). I am a certified copyeditor, but I just can't land an editing job because I lack experience. So I've tried freelancing to get experience for myself, but again, since I don't have experience people don't want to hire me. And I completely understand, since I have no portfolio of work or anything for them to know whether or not I will do a good job.

im 27 no job just married dont really have any ambitions and wanna die but i guess its fine?? i like the sky

I mean you need to go in another direction or do some volunteer work in your preferred area to get experience

I also lost my job at 34 and couldn't get a job for a year. It all worked out in the long run -- 20 years later I'm able to retire early and have had a good one. Please don't lose faith -- a positive point of view will take you far.

Thank you for telling your story !good luck and pray for God's favour from this moment on before starting anything.

I thank you so much for this video. Nonetheless, I want to tell you that God is waiting for you, don’t take to much time to get close to him ❤

Commenting because I relate deeply. I’m 28 with a doctorate and have been unable to find more than part-time work for the past 1.5 years after being fired (imo, illegally) in early 2022. Just got rejected for a full-time position at my part-time job, so I keep killing time and waiting while I watch my friends and peers succeed. Best of luck on your journey. ❤

Most of us have been there…👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Start out at an entry level job that allows room for promotion at multiple levels and you will see your education pay off. Leadership skills are what most companies are looking for.

And on a side note: Go to college and be in debt!! We have so much to offer our beautiful brains by learning without instruction. To each their own!!

You are not a loser. You have so much to offer this World…find your thing and capitalize on it. This is a who you know World…get to knowing the RIGHT individuals. Find out what it is that makes the repetitive pattern of getting no for these positions. It could be something more than what they are telling you bc these workplaces have to be POLITICALLY CORRECT!! DIG DEEPER!!! Good Luck on your journey BEAUTIFUL!! Happy New Year ❤

So similar to my current situation except I have a child. It is very difficult times for sure. Wish you all the best in this, hopefully temporary, situation! ❤

This hits deep. I'm 35 with no sense of direction either. I have a decent job and I enjoy what I do, I'm thankful for that at least, but I've been single for years and I don't really feel like bothering to date anyone, and I have zero irl friends. My life is just work, eat, play games, sleep. :( All I can see is a very lonely future.. I wish I had kept in touch my highschool friends, it is my biggest regret. I have no idea how to make female friends

OMG! You need help because you don't look 33 you alot older

I’m 40 and just starting to get it together.

I needed this. Thank you❤

I'm 33 with no life too. Diretionless. Don't know were to go, what to do. But unlike you, I've been feeling this way for more than 5 years now, so you're still in a better situation than me. Depression gets in the way and it's hard to overcome. The social pressure gets higher when you get older, I feel judged. I hope I can make a change before my 40s.

Ive had a sort of panic attack today after a long time, and that's bc I felt such a failure. People around me makes me pressure, don't get at all my personality, my efforts, my problems. They just want me to do whatever job and move out, which I want to do but it's not so easy. I dont want to be stuck in a job I don't like, rents are very high and I don't tell anyone about my creative projects cause they wouldn't believe in them anyway. So I work a lot on them or developing some skills but they think I do nothing and waste time just bc I dont share all of that and I don't wake up everyday at 8 am to go to work. I hate the fact that im being judged anyway, no matter what, just bc Im 31, single, childless and i don't work a corporate job. Noone cares abt the fact that im the first one in the family to have 2 diplomas and 2 degrees, that I learned a number of skills and languages which they only dream of. I also was very unlucky regarding my health but its not my fault if I have those issues. I dont value what they value, I dont want the life they all had.

I’m literally 22 and in the stage of not being able to find a job after uni, just rejection after rejection. I feel like I was meant to see this. Thank you ❤️

Great video

"This phase of life is not permanent ". This is key. Happiness and Suffering are temporary. I recommend signing up for a meditation vipassana retreat. It gave me so much clarity for life. I wish I did one sooner. Also, it's free.

I’m 24 now but I graduated from university at 23 few months ago. I’ve been working as a waitress for almost one year and now, even though it’s only a start after sending many CVs everyday for two years, I’ve found a new role related to my studies - however, the contract doesn’t last long. I’ve learned from the previous difficult moments I was living that I should accept the flow of my life as it is. Before, I was also living below my necessities just to make end meets. I was basically living only to pay bills at a young age - as a foreigner in a foreign country I did my best, also because I couldn’t rely on my family support as they’re living in my home country.

Also, comparing my life with others of my same age is only detrimental for my mental health. So I stopped also looking for others’ accomplishments and to focus more on my life and my goal targets.

Well you have a degree, you've had a good job, you've been married. Maybe you have had a sample of many things, but there is a higher purpose for you beyond these simpler things that you are meant for, but you need to figure out what that is. I am sure you will and I think your future is bright. These times in our lives are for reflection and redirection.

i’m you at 24 years and i have no intentions of getting married either. i’m trying to start an art business cause i’m tired of begging for a job i’ll probably not even love. i hope it will get better for all of us. thank you for sharing the reality cause nobody talks about it and it feels like i’m the only one dumb as

I wish i had just done a high school qualification in business admin and got a job like literally what a complete waste of time and money im now 25, i could have been earning better money by now. wtf advantage has this possibly given me

This video resonates with me. Thanks for sharing ❤

Setting your goals with God😢

I’m 28. A pharmacist and work in a big city. Everyone might thought I live a good life but no, i’m not happy at all. I don’t have any passion and I’m struggle with social standard too. As an average looking, I keep wishing I could born prettier and richer. That way people will love me more and I could be happier. I know people keep saying “ love yourself, no need anyone approval” but I really feel that there is nothing to be loved in my life except beer in my fridge 😂
Being pretty is a real privilege. At first, I think I have a good career but no, it drained me a lot. Helping people used to be my goal but NO ! when working, it’s totally hell for real. A pharmacist work is like making a robot out of you. You can’t make mistake. You can’t have your own life. Working in hospital, irregular working time is killing me, the pressure of the work, and things that I couldn’t control happened everyday. Oh, and I worked 12-13 hours a day in order to get enough money to live here, support my parents and for travel 🤣 I got burnt out. How I wish I could work 9 to 5, earn decent money, have time to hangout and go on a date, be pretty and got all the love and attentions.

I’m lost I think. No matter how people will see my life as a happy and fulfilled one. I don’t think so.

Pray and fast 🙌🏽

Omg same. Getting fired really takes you out

Don't feel bad. It's the curse of our generation. Just enjoy each day the best you can.

Your life is a mirror of mine. I'm 37 years old, single, had a really toxic relationship that put me back 10 years, worked in media and production and so many other places but never got promoted despite working so hard. Im taking time out to reset and start my own business. All my friends are married with careers and having kids. I still havent met the one. Im accepting my path is a big learning curve. It will all unfold at the right time. Stay positive. we are meant for so much more including being our own boss! If we dont fit into the cookie cutter life that means we gota create our own!! Stay strong and value yourself.

Thank you so much for sharing & being vulnerable about your situation. Sometimes it’s helpful to realize that you don’t have to have it all together to be a great human. This video has helped me to feel less isolated & alone, which seems to be a looming issue in my life. It’s reassuring to know that I don’t always have to have a direction figured out but to try & move forward however possible. Perhaps there’s a way for you to build a portfolio to get more “experience” to present to employers. Plus, finding recruiters & networking may be better than most of these online applications. Much love & support 🙏

I’m nearly 30 now and feel like I’m a worthless waste of a human being most days. I can’t help but feel like I actually died the year of my initial mental breakdown in college and that I’m just left here with the shattered pieces. I am not the person I thought I was or would be.

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I doubt anyone would read this, realistically, but I guess I’m going to vent anyway!

I used to thrive in an academic environment with my identity being that of a first generation/chronic overachiever/top student amalgam-of-sorts. However, I experienced a mental health episode in the last month of my last semester of college, which was almost comical timing…meaning that I didn’t turn in my thesis and thus didn’t complete my degree (and was too anxious to even see what I could do to address it while I still had the time!). I have never talked to a single person about this because of the ever-increasing shame and guilt. I thought I could evade this by getting a sought-after job in my desired field through a contact, but that plan deflated quickly when I faced a torrent of s*xual harassment and ridicule from a few co-workers and superiors (I wish I was exaggerating!).

I feel like a total loser for saying this, but I haven’t really recovered since then and have remained stagnant in a montonous day-to-day routine. I haven’t held a stable job but also haven’t been proactive in job-hunting—after all, that would mean addressing my own shortcomings and facing more inevitable rejection. Instead, I take care of my disabled mother and deal with a lot of the domestic responsibilities in a dysfunctional household. As it can be deduced, I still live with family, which is fine in the context of my own cultural background, but it isn’t socially accepted where I live. I’m in debt and don’t have the funds or credit to move out or even get a car (and I live in a heavily car-reliant city). I no longer have a close network of friends like before; I have never been in a relationship because, for one thing, who would even want me? I’m a mess (but at the same time I’m still picky so go figure). I know I sound like I’m wallowing, because I am. I don’t know how to get myself out of this endless cycle of depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and whatever else I’m dealing with as it festers over the years. I have never come across anyone facing similar circumstances and feel like I’m just too weak, too stupid to deal with the basic milestones in life.

im 26 still in college and no steady job. gurl i feel so lost

Get out of L.A

The big thing is that even if you turn things around you may still feel the same. Sometimes when weve been stuck for so long that even the thing we love and dream to do might not immediately remedy 10+ years of rejection and we'll fall into old patterns. When you do find what you want just know its not an overnight change, the volatile state of uncertainty still lingers, so just know the work continues even when we get ahead.

Love this video! Tried not to get emotional watching it (and failed). I wish you the very best and hope you manifest your dream life! Just subscribed, and will be following your amazing journey! ❤

I haven't watched this yet but I have to say I'm 40 and I feel the same way, the title resonates

I can relate in so many ways. The worst part is that as years go by women are forced to have children as if children will make things better

Capitalism be like

im 16 and im here because i am so afraid of potentially not having a career in the future. i grew up thinking i was an amazing and smart student, but i soon found out that in America, that is not enough to get into college. I lived under a rock for so long...in 8th to 10th grade, i never really took the initiative to join valuable extracurriculars and participate in competitions. Now that I'm a junior in high school, I want to pursue engineering or environmental science, but I'm so unconfident in myself because I know that my activities are nit enough to compete with the millions of geniuses applying for college in the US. As i start writing my summer program and college essays, I realky cant get myself to sit down and write because I have this insane fear blocking my way, it keeps telling me im not good enough or that im not getting in anywhere. this system is so so hard and im so sick of looking for opportunities but not getting anywhere. i have SO many regrets at this young age, and i can't help but wonder if i even have a purpose in this world, if my life is worth living, why everything is so much more difficult for me when other students are so high achieving and effortlessly successful

I’m 18 years old from London, I’ve just finished my a levels and did a 4 month internship at a media company. However I was supposed to pass an exam to progress me onto an apprenticeship, I failed. All of my friends have gone off to university and are loving it. I’m here with no job, no degree. No money, no hope. I’ve applied to jobs but none have gotten back to me. I’m depressed and I don’t see my life going anywhere.