Staying Together After Cheating | Couples Can Survive Infidelity

A broken mirror put back together still has plenty of cracks.

Anyone who consciously cheats on you, takes the necessary steps to hide it, book a hotel room, check in, and put on a condom knows every step of the way exactly what they're doing.

You can decide for yourself if that's someone you want to invest any more time and emotion 'healing ' with, or if it would better to spend the same resources healing yourself and finding the person who deserves your love and your loyalty.

This is the best video that I have watched. Very helpful. Thank you so much for this I feel that I can get on the road to recovery and work on my relationship.

I’m 6 months pregnant and had recently found sexting messages of my partner early on in our relationship (before I got pregnant) but we were offical and just moved in together at this point. I never EVER had a indication of not trusting him as we were always together and I had access to his phone at anytime. When I found the messages of him sending nudes I was livid!!! he freaked out at first and played dumb then eventually owned upto it and said he had a weak moment because when he moved in he realised we were getting serious and he had never had a real relationship before.
As I am pregnant, it’s so hard to discard him and forget all the good things. I have appointments and parenting classes coming up. And obviously this wasn’t part of the plan…If I wasn’t pregnant I know for a fact he would be dead to me but I don’t want my family destroyed before my baby is even here. He is not an emotional person at all and for the first time I saw him cry and let out his emotions. I wrote down a list of conditions that he will need to obide by if I am to forgive him and he agreed. He are going to therapy next week, he has gotten rid of any social media platform and has been making an effort. My guard is still up but I understand I must work on letting him do what he needs to do to rebuild this. It’s very hard when your family is jeopardised.. BUT if he EVER does something like this again, he will be dead to me forever.

Would you allow someone who robbed your house come stay with you? Hahaha😂

Lies if she cheats maybe you can be together if he cheats its over there is no recovering after that!!!!!

Folk, cheating is never a mistake. Cheating is a series of planned conscious decisions, the cheater justifies it, they determine that it’s worth risking their current relationship to do so, then after further consideration- they move forward with the act of infidelity. It’s fascinating how they pretend to be remorseful instead of confidently owning their decision. When you forgive a cheater and remain with them, they interpret that as a slap on the wrist. A man or a woman with no self control is a liability. I can’t think of anything more degrading, humiliating and pathetic than getting emotional over, fighting or making plans to remain in a relationship with a known cheater.

Is it possible to heal together and become happy again after both partners cheat on each other? I was cheated on by my boyfriend and did my best to forgive him for a year. It was the most excruciating pain I’ve ever experienced and I was depressed for a long time. In the end, I couldn’t forgive him and felt the only way to move forward with him was for me to sleep with someone else. Only then would I feel like I’ve done something horrible that I have no right to hold onto resentment. I now regret all of my actions and caused so much pain back to the person I love. I wish we could heal together but I don’t know if it’s beyond repair. I’d love to get some advice.

My husband told me a rumour was going around about him and a young girl in a cubicle while I was in the other room 20 years ago. He said nothing happened 20 years ago. I stupidly stayed cause I was pregnant and believed him. Last year, Easter, while he was drunk, the truth came out that he did kiss her in the cubicle. I can't trust him, move forward, or get the betrayal out of my head.
20 years of I dont know what. What was my life. And he doesn't try, take accountability, or care that he lied for 20 years. I feel like im losing my mind 😢

Hi,im a cheater. I cheated on my girl to have an intimate relationship with someone else. I really dont have any kind of feeling towards that person who i had an intimate relationship with. It was purely based on the sexual tension that we had. I really have true feelings for the girl i love. Yet i thought I'd lie and keep things hidden. Now that im caught. I regret that i shldve said everything.but the problem is i was too afraid to tell her everything,coz i didnt want our relationship to brk..so i chose to lie.. but i realllyy realllyyy understand that what i did was wrong and i reallyy want to redeem myself.. i really want a second chance, do i deserve it tho ?

I've also been in the situation.

It was happen in me now being pregnant to 6 month, he is bringing up the past and blame me n want to get divorce. . It hurt me so bad.. Then after two days i knew that he had a relationship with one widow ...

I cheated on my husband, because of low self esteem, I didn’t feel like my husband valued me but still not enough to step out on my marriage , i have regretted it . I have been doing whatever it takes to fix it , he says hes not ready to forgive me or accept me now , he’s seeing someone else , I don’t know what to do ?

I just find out my husband of 15 years and we have 3 kids cheated on me, I called his work place and eventually his not working, So i called his phone and find out his in Florida. Worst pain ever, i had no one to talk too.😢

Hell no. Do not normalize this behavior.

No strength to even watch this video to the end. Just can't stop crying
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I was abusive to my own wife by not giving her the affection she wanted, I used to care about myself so much, I had pictures of my ex, I excessively have been doing habits of my own where I didn’t want to spend time with my wife yet and I get irritated easily because of the things I want to get done. All in all I hurt her feelings by offending her, taking things out on her. And ultimately she cheated on me and it made learn the hard way that I wasn’t a good husband. I found recently and things are rough rn, I instantly forgive her because I realized I was in the wrong and even if I deserve it for the suffering I put her, I also realized my love for her also outweighs the bad. But to all the things she went through because I took her for granted. It is difficult for her to trust me just as I’m in a difficult time to trust her. But I got one last chance to fix things. she right now is working to get my trust back and letting me see her phone and who when’s talking to. As much as I forgive her. I want to become better for her so I don’t hurt her again and she wants to become better and love herself so she doesn’t do things she’ll regret.

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Men, do not ever take a cheater back. You'll only kicking the can down tbe road and making things even worse later on.
She will never reapect you again if you show so little sense kf self worth that you'll stay with a cheater.
Save yourself and please don't learn what I'm telling you the hard way.

Na stuff her, she cheated now she gets what she deserves,

You are fool to stay. This is a money scam. Spend the money on divorce attorney.

He cheated bc on me after almost a 4 year relationship, I forgave him but it’s very hard. Asked for a break recently to see if I could heal outside the relationship but can’t help but wonder if it’ll end us. I love him so much and want my whole life w him but Idk if he does especially after what he did.

Why? Don’t!

Hell the phuck no. I’ll sleep with pigs for 365 days. Im not going back to someone who was humping someone else behind my back. No way. Thanks.

There is only one easy decision to be made when cheated on. Just cut off that people. There is no negotiation on it. Think of it, if you yourself is loyal then why set your standards lower. If you cut her off she will respect you. Dignity is non negotiable. Be strong

Anyone that has cheated had multiple times when the thought that they shouldn’t be doing it popped into their head and they still did it. It’s not a single decision. It’s a constant string of not making the right decision.

You RIGHT IT IS HARD💔❤️‍🩹💔

Never. My life is a total mess now. I barely believe in God anymore let alone good because of the things that have happened in my life. I hate what's happened and I'm far worse than I've ever been for having experienced all the things I have. I realize I have to harden my heart to this world. I prayed, asked God for help and for nothing except nightmares, failing at everything I do and a constant sunken feeling that will probably lead to my suicide. Therapy doesn't help. I didn't deserve this. .. actually... I've just made up my mind about it all.. and it's a sad sad thing. Thank you God for making sure is lose faith in people, in myself and in YOU

Only a low self esteem male would tolerate the overt disrespect that comes with infidelity. Walk away and find a trustworthy female partner.

I stayed for the kids after catching my wife cheating & that was 17 years ago. Today I wish I left her because we never rebuilt the trust & without trust she has been nothing but a burden that I have to monitor 24/7. Her lover dumped her and I'm nothing but her 2nd choice, that is a tough pill to swallow.

this man is speaking right to the simps out there.

Cheating is never a mistake ,Don't waste your life for a cheater.

Stay together after cheating it is so beneficial you will be cheated again and again. If one affair is gone are replaised with multiple affairs what you need to find out just pastwords ...

He always brings it up every single time, he's even me asking me for a threesome hust for him to maybe forget what happened. " not just cheat on me but wants me there! "
I left hem for no contact and tried something new but i love him so much no one could take his place ! But he thinks i came back just because I didn't find
Ove and bringing up every time it come to his mind every 2 hours and sometimes every 30 mins!

Will I ever gain his trust? "There's no way i would give him a pass to cheat on me just because of what happened "
So would it still work if i let him be disrespectful and him leaving me in pain and act like he doesn't care ?

Cheating effects men more than it does effect women.

ONLY If both parties are willing to take accountability. When one person tries to rebuild the relationship, & the other one doesn't, then it's useless to stay together. Especially when children are involved, it's difficult to.

Hey.. my husband cheated on me now he want some time to reset his thoughts. He is not doing any efforts. What to do give him sometime or just leave?

There are a million reasons to break up, thousands are valid. There is never a reason to cheat.

My Boyfriend had been cheating on me for a few weeks, as he picked up his old sexting habit he had before he met me. It’s been 3 weeks since he came and told me. I broke up with him, but then I realized I’m not so sure I’m ready to call it quits. This act of trying to forgive is probably the hardest thing I’ve done in my life. He understands, and takes full responsibilities, but I’m worried he’s not willing to do what it takes. I’ve asked him to sacrifice something for me, something he enjoys, something physical, so that I can see his devotion to me. I’ve gave it some thought and would like to see him maybe giving up snap chat, or social media, or getting drunk with friends without me for some time. He doesn’t seem willing to do so. I’m hopping he comes around, because if he doesn’t, I see that he really is not as committed as he says he is. To my fellow betrayed people. Breathe, know that in the end, everything will be ok. Live your life how you want, and don’t give a damn about what anyone else says. There are no rules for love. Love is your choice. Don’t leave your partner simply because it’s what is expected of you. Make your own decision. Personally, I’m still not sure if this is what I want. But for now, until I have a definitive answer, I’m trying. Betrayal hurts, and coming from the person who you held closest, it hurts even more. So take some time to feel. Feel all the emotions, walk the path of pain. It’s ok to not be ok. Remember that you are strong, and in the end, you will be ok.

I have been married 11 years, together 12. My husband admitted to cheating on me when I was pregnant with my first daughter. But he said it didn’t count because we weren’t married. Well fast forward to 11 years later 3 kids together, and 1 recent miscarriage I just learned that he cheated on me two months ago. He admitted to it, and when I talked to the other woman she said it only happened once but after learning he was married she cut it off and she said he tried to do it again, but she told him no. What upsets me is that not only did he cheat and admit to doing that, he tried to go back for more with her and didn’t bother to mention that. He also said that he was incredibly drunk and high. I am so devastated and I am trying to figure out what to do.

Staying together after cheating!! NO F’N WAY!

This is nonsense, nobody ever forgets where the hatchet is buried.

How to heal after cheating-----> find a new girl.
This video is the worse. Basically the channel's owner is sharing a toxic behaviour. You should be reported

He was the bestest boyfriend ever…He wasn't toxic he did everything to make me happy and loved me very much. That's what makes it 10 times worst..he was ả perfect green flag for me but what i did was so worst..i made mistakes several times in 3 years of our relationship…hể forgive me every time…but I always took advantage of his kindness😔..Even if we break up, I will not be able to accept that the boy is not in my life now…This regret and guilt is killing me..

I cheated on my boyfriend who was amazing as a partner.It's hard to let someone go that you perceived as your future.🙂..I apologized countless times and told him how I feel about him but. It wasn't enough and no matter how many times I say sorry..because it was not a small mistake though..I made a million mistakes and I threw away a loyal boy who always there for me no matter what situation was..That boy loved my parents more than me..he always tells me to fulfil my parents dream..he motivates me always ..but I know i am the worst girl ..He always gave his 100% in this relationship…

At the moment I simply wish I'd just not cheated or taken my boy for granted.💔…

Thank you for this.

How do you make them work for it? Do we go on dates? Ask him to now see other ppl?

I broke up with my bf of 6 yrs bc I found he asked a girl out that he drove on Uber. He says it’s his lust and he even said he might do it againbc we were rarely having sex. I wanted to get married he knew that. I’m so freaking sad. I’m so naive to think we would get married he knew how much I love him

I cheated on my girlfriend and now am regretting why I did it... I told her the reason but now she doesn't want to forgive me and we stay together but I really love her so much

Do you do couples therapy? If that can we have some suggestions

Once broken can never be the same again