3 Harsh Truths About Finding Love | Mark Manson

So inspring. thanks Mark and Lewis.

Lewis looks great in a collared shirt, as opposed to a T-shirt. Good interview about how love & respect & trust go together. Different values will cause conflict between people.

This podcast is my ride every morning and afternoon. This episode has being one of my favorites and I love every episode. But this one blows my mind. ❤

It was like a therapy. Thank you😊

Asian wives save lifes❤

I would have liked to have a longer discussion about their definition of love because I get confused how love can be connected with jealousy, hurt, etc. Is that true love or more of a attachment pattern which is associated with the illusory belief of being a separate self and needing the other to experience completion?

wow i loved this interview, loved the energy between Lewis and Mark, seemed like they are on the same vibration, similar places in life. I love Marks simplicity to things, its difficult on these interviews for people to genuinely open up on their struggles and you can tell Marks done the work and is so open and honest. Perhaps its the fact that Marks an author and he's had to self reflect to in order to write. Whatevers got him to this place. Its Amazing!!!

I really admire Mark's wife that she did her thing without pushing him to do the same. It's obvious that with health, they weren't aligned for a long time and she seemed patient until he finally met where she's at (maybe not 100% but overall). Not wanting to change your partner is REALLY difficult.

"The people closest to you are the ones who hurt you the most' ......that is because those are the people you have the most expectations from, but they are NOT the ones that hurt you, your own attachments to said expectations are. So basically your own conditioning is hurting, and it's only hurting your own identity of self, not the actual Self. Essence cannot hurt.

Such a great conversation!! Loved Mark's points he mentioned - take care of your healthy, your limited circle and just give back to society and do more of it till your last breath. It's amaze to see how obsessed people especially boomers and the generation prior are with kids omg its not even funny. Kids aint your legacy or anything. They are a different soul, who come on earth to continue their own journey not to take your so called legacy or in a lot of cases nothing as substantial forward lol. Also, even if you do make a choice of bringing a child in this world you sure need to be sorted yourself first. Most people just do it on auto- love then marriage then kids without introspecting what they want from life or knowing who they are really.

Disagree with one point. Mark says a healthy relationship is how quickly you repair after a rift. In my case, my abusive ex used to cause problems then “quickly” move on from it, but the hurt and pain he caused was so extraordinarily deep and wounding that it didn’t matter what he did afterward. There are some rifts you cannot come back from. A healthy relationship involves two people who are unwilling to hurt each other like this in the first place.

I don't know why Lewis would think that a man and woman in a love relationship would have to be on equal ground. That's no guarantee, what's more important is how secure each of them are on their own. Great questions Lewis. And Mark is so wise. You two men are great together, and you have the same color eyes! Kindred souls.

I think most people need respect class, they can't even date if they don't have that. People need more class. Where's the basics.

The world 🌎 can't even relate only online so how can they date. It's like temperaments, we not the same. We need to ✍️ ON giving A f* because we need courses like that! People don't care that's the problem why their not together. What's wrong is that he had to ✍️ the book to realize that by not caring through a book which is ironic.

❤️ Love is based on the attachment they had from whoever they attached to younger, some toxic that's how they assimilate.

Love most people can't feel because they haven't understood healthy love, and If they do they run from what is supposed to be love.

Yes children change thr game and define love. It's consistency, sacrifice, and the 5 A's. Without the 5 A'S there is no love.

Excellent 💫

I have a flight for 20h soon and I bought his book to read during my flight. I am glad now that I watch this before reading the book. I respect Mark so much ❤

Thank you so much Lewis, I needed this so much and I am pretty sure there are many other younger people like me who needed to hear this.

Love is (an affinity which was created from the past & continue next life) or (a couple's emotional closeness connections)

Of course soulmates exist! Siegfried and Roy were absolutely soulmates!

Two legends meet ❤

I hate to tell you that they do exist.❤ I know for sure.

Mark is a great writer .. his mind is full ok knowledge

Lewis; as a Counsellor/Psychotherapist I just love your encouraging minimal prompt’s with guests, they are immaculately timed with perfect pitch! Your “really” comment for instance, is said with genuine fascination and you effortlessly connect and build rapport! Your heartfelt reflections and disclosures further enhance your amazing interviews! ❤love your work!

you never wast your time if your listening to Mark Manson

I love his honesty and comfort even when he talks about things that makes ppl feel uncomfortable. Great transformation

Where’s the part where they talk about soulmates?

I have a question for you guys where you guys going to do for me now your indisposition now are you going to give me something what belongs to me

I love watching your videos. Keep it up sir!!

Very cool with shorts ..🙏💪

Good Lord...no one ever talks about differences in ability. Intelligence. Depth of thought. Fail to match these, see how well it's working out. Growing apart is a guarantee then.

I really enjoyed this interview! My biggest takeaway is this: Life doesn't have to be overly complicated. Find a few friends that you love and spend time with them, find a job or career that is half-way satisfying and do that. Find some activities that you enjoy just for the sake of fun and enjoyment, and find a way to give back to the community. That's it! In 2024 I'm definitely leaning into simplifying my life. Thanks for another great interview Lewis!

I wish we could just live in tribes where we can depend on a lot of people. Like a big family. That’s probably a pipe dream too though.

1. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s an amplification of feelings present in the relationship
2. It’s okay to have one significant difference in values, but having more than two will cause partners to constantly butt heads
Career
3. Success is not the elimination of problems but having better problems
4. Maintain bottom of the mountain mindset “I’m a beginner” for freedom and flexibility
5. Success can’t buy happiness, but it can buy unhappiness
Life
6. I just completed a new decade, what am I investing my time and energy in my life?
7. Life can be simple. Have a few close friends/family you love, have a career you enjoy, and give back in some way. In the same way, breaking up doesn’t have to be complicated, 12 steps, rehearsing etc. Just break up—it’ll be emotionally painful but that’s just how it will be.
13. Don’t be afraid of fear and pain, that’s where many joys and successes are hidden.
14. Be careful how you define yourself and how you measure success.
15. “Love is not enough” - it’s great but cannot be the foundation of a healthy relationship. It amplifies a healthy relationship.

No timelines?

I just bought his 2 famous books last week. I am learning a lot. 😊

SIMPLY MIND BLOWING
GREAT QUESTIONS
GREAT INSIGHTS

NY living is a great place to be deceptive.

NY people is a special kind of hard, they can know their is no truth to what they are seeking and play it out anyway for what it’s worth. Meanwhile, they are waiting for the next big thing anyway.

such great interview questions! tysm

People don’t communicate but they probably have bad motives

Down to its core, humans are animals trying to reproduce

Love the Subtle Art book, and really love the combo of candidness and humor with which Mark talks about serious and important stuff. Really liked this conversation as well.

Loved it!!!

When people get to control what you say and don’t say you’re no longer an individual! 😢

lewis is such a wonderful interviewer 👏🏼

What an incredible interview of two very intelligent and insightful individuals !

I really like the self-analyzing questions. I do something similar: going back to the root-causes

lewis is such a wonderful interviewer 👏🏼