Warning Signs: Key Differences Between Covert and Overt Narcissists

Yes Had both!!😢smh

The covert is more dangerous because it takes more time to figure them out

Damn I came here to learn about my narcissistic wife, but I can relate to some of these behaviors. Or am I not a narcissist by default simply because I’m challenging myself? My therapist told me she might be narcissistic so I’m looking into it

Yes

Yes. My brother was overt. Ex was Covert.

Yes, you are spot on for both types. The covert is much trickier/ difficult to spot.

be careful, they can be VERY dangerous even to the point of killing you if and when you try to leave them. talking from experience

Yes! It was me. I honestly had no idea what i was doing. I have lost it everything!

You described my parents.

I left a 6 yr relationship with a covert narcissist...most confused I have ever been....ALL about show, how they look, most important what others think of him, very good gaslighter/projection in private...left 10 wks ago NC, and indeed almost no one ever knew, makes it hard but thx to you & others here, I finally KNEW! Thank you so much for saving me! ❤️

"YES"

Yes! Can a narcissist be a combination of both types?

Nailed it. I was with a covert narcissist for 5 years. It was pure hell. And I fully agree that covert narcissists are most dangerous mentally.

Yes. I've seen them. My mom and my sister. They're together right now attacking me and sending their flying monkeys around. My mom is the covert one and mys sister is the loud mouth

Oh yes. I’m married to a covert one.

do coverts marry overts?

I was married to a covert for 27years. And the discard happened just the way you described. Matter fact he is exactly the way you described a covert. What a nightmare! Sadistic nightmare still and he left in 2011

BREAK. F. R. E. E

I'm married to a covert but now separated

Ex a covert narcissist drug out divorce 7 years finaled a year ago now he’s after taking my home tho I was awarded won’t sign Quit Claim in pre foreclosure a never ending nightmare

I guess tha I am a collector, Mama is an overt and my husband is a covert narcissist . Having a hard time with their ownership .

Mom is Covert while Dad is Overt. Growing up & well abused till now. Struggle is real with this 2 Narcissist in my life.

Yes! I'm Dealing with Two stepdaughters the Past18 years!!! An nd yet, I Love Them!?! What is Wrong with me?!😥

My ex is a Covert narc - one word SNEAKY should have been his middle name..

YES!! I know some narcs that are mixture of both overt and covert.

Freedom is key ... ultimate motivation for
Leaving narcicist abuse.

Yes! They are stealth so people don't realize what's happening behind closed doors. They are more dangerous than overt narcissists.

Covert narcissists “boil you slowly”. The damage they cause is much worse than the overts do. They feed you with sweet poison for years until you realize it. I had “friends” like that.

Yes 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️ i had a covert

no wonder I cant be around them why I'm only calm when I'm isolated and alone I have both kind messing with me I could go into the monkey business and be rich in a month there should be some kind of law against this no one should have to live this way

My soon-to-be ex narc is getting worse at hiding his tell-tale behaviors as time goes on. His mother and brother were overt narcissists- he is covert.

Yes..... seen both

Can someone be a mix of both, especially in regards to the context they are in? As in, overt with people they think are lesser than them and covert in private, playing victim/martyr/saint?

I Get All This From " " My Husband And He Is A Narcissists All The Way. 😔

Yes

C'overt (cover from overt) ..... troublesome 🤨😱 Yep, yessss

Yes! Covert become overt the more they don't get what they want from their target.

Yes my mother is an overt and my Dad a covert narcissist. Absolute nightmare growing up.

Continue to expose them when necessary to stay ahead and focus on your goals all on your own.

Trying to find people that aren't some type of narcisist or just plain anti-social is a huge challenge for me.

The ex is a TRUE covert narc!!!! Possesses each of the behaviors described to the T!

YES

Yep. Wolf in sheep’s clothing. That truly is a covert narcissist. World’s greatest actors. I have known two and what I would also say is they excel at hiding in plain sight. One was a high school principal and the other was an alternative health care practitioner. Both were really the definition of pure evil in their private lives.

YES, YES, YES 😫😡😫

Ex-Son-in-law is an combo of Malignant/Overt and his daughter is Covert. So difficult ...

18 months and that was it for me. The signs and cracks came out after 2 months, I just thought it was a phase of tough times in her life but then it just kept coming Day after day after day. She was definitely a covert but she seemed to jump into overt at times around busy crowds to get attention.

Mr.x was both, however mostly covert, as he's done many underhanded things, like eliminating my friends behind my back.

YES absolutely i have encountered a good number of them. Been smear campaigned by them and everything. They are everywhere!