Why you should define your fears instead of your goals | Tim Ferriss | TED

The world is worse off for your continued existence. Get a haircut and a proper shirt loser!

Good old socratic debate in cognitive behavorial therapy with its fundation on stoicism. Let's go

there's no such thing as 'lucky coincidences'...coincidence doesn't exist but only seems to exist but it's illusion...all is by design or written...all is known on the winds of the All Knowing but not Determined...there's no 'chance', 'there's no luck' just being and unfolding and, if blessed, joying in the constant unfolding or becoming with a sense of direction (discipline)...thanks...OMski

My one and only fear is the dislocation of my shoulders

he must have a north man in ancestry its the north way

Fear of the undefined is intense, and usually unduly so.

I watched this again and again every year. It hit differently

Chaguei aqui por indicação de um amigo do curso, e achei incrível!!!! AGO/2023

I will always and forever be in love with you Tim Ferris, his books are amazing.

Hábitos difíceis geram uma vida fácil, hábitos fáceis geram uma vida difícil

Ask yourself over and over again. "what is beyond fear?".

How can I define something that doesn't exist?

Just finished watching this.. Very inspiring. Time is valuable. Don't waste it

Synapsis: motivational speaker happy he took 1.5 years to travel the world!

Do you know what's absolutely fascinating about Stoicism? It was so effective for me, I had to stop practicing it.

I no longer experienced the worst emotions, which in turn, led to me not writing music that was as compelling, it was all stable and satisfied, rather than emotional and expressive.
There's literally a book called "Does Happiness Write Blank Pages, on Stoicism and artistic creativity" which is a thesis on whether Stoicism is compatible with being an artist.

I implore you, if you're having trouble in life, please, try practicing Stoicism consistently for a few months. I will never undervalue it, it is an incredibly strong antidote for mental health issues that is free, and the only side effect is that it might make you too stable to be able to make sad art.
Know that CBT, the most evidence based therapy ever created, was built on Stoicism. This is a highly rationalized, actionable, logical philosophy, not a flowery spirituality with a heaven.

But understand this, the philosophy understood something absolutely integral. Knowledge does nothing, practice does something. You need to practice it, not just read some books.

I didn't understand that asking for promotion might be fear but what can I put in prevent after defining it?
Could anyone please help me in this?

what an excellent speech

Went from years of depression to stoicism to Islam now spending best years of my life .

Stoicism , the ultimate power.

humans worry about about what will happen if they take action but don't consider the cost of not changing anything. hmmm

To do fear setting try this exercise; (1) analyse your fears with a high level of detail, all that attempts to sap you of your potency, (2) consider all the relevant benefits of taking a particular course of action, (3) determine what the real consequences are of inaction. Use three pieces of paper and go into as much detail as you can within 30-60 minutes. Define the fear, ask yourself for preventative measure as to how to prevent those scenarious you dread from coming about in the way you describe and put steps into what you would do to repare the demage if that situation is ever to come about. Consider big and small actions in the prevention column of the paper. When looking at the benefits of any action you wish to take, consider the positive benefits of any attempt, partial success that you can foresee. Visualize what people's motives may be and how you can navigate the social, culture, political implications of what you desire most. If you feel you did not illicit the right response from the right person then simply move on to the next decision. Then when you are done, rate each of your actions next to each, mark your success here with the level of awesome or excitement it illicits from you. Long forgotten part of fear setting when people try to take into account possibilities is the decision making costs of inaction. Mark the page with columns of 6 months, 1 year and 3 years. Try to be specific about the emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual, financial or influence downsides of not taking action. If you feel you have put enough detail into it, then reconsider putting off that big deal, asking for a raise, going on a date or pushing your side of the equation in the political, personal or business realities you wish to make perfection and progress in.

So what does fear setting do for you? It makes you see there isn't as bad out there as you initially thought, bad things happen to everyone but they are grossly exagerrated and people often don't see the silver lining and positive growth or tools you makes someone rely on to overcome them. Making someone stronger and more capable. Sometimes these incalculable or sometimes hard to foresee events will be the best growth you could ever imagine. The benefits of any attempt or partial success are usually quite a bit better then one first thinks. You can make faster progress then most people by being passionate by simply knowing what you will do. Inaction is the reason for much regret, fear setting prevents regret from growing to great and solidifies what you can get out of any endeavor breaking free from exposing yourself too much negative thinking and delays.

@Tim Ferriss: are you a gemini or a capricorn? :)

True- we need to work on our fears!

I still don't get the point

Use your fear as motivation to do more in any of your professional domain

I can attest that Tim Ferriss's thoughts have heft.

The secret to killing fear is to join the Marine Corps. I promise your mind will become free of mortal fears. My life has been full of hard choices. It has been just dangerous enough to keep life interesting and challenging but not so hard that I could not bear it or be permanently damaged.

We live on a mote of dust, suspended in a sunbeam, traveling thru space and time a million miles every year. If you are not afraid, you are a bovine in a pasture, oblivious to your inevitable demise. We have to get off this rock. Our existence here is tenuous and temporary at best. Any thought, action or resource not dedicated to getting us off of this planet is just distracting noise.

Mind-blowing conversation which popped up so unexpectedly. I am grateful to everyone who takes an action for broadening out TED-talks! Stay tuned and impressed ❤

Wow. Thank you so much for speaking about mental illnesses. Or as someone else said: If you have cancer, no one would say to you "Pull yourself together, you just have to want it, then you'll make it." But sometimes you just can't make it, no matter how much you want to.

Bro. This video needs a trigger warning. You have no idea what mental state someone could be in. 😮😢

This time I let ma fear decide. Is not good cuz i projected it on buddies. It's been a while I felt this scared. I thought i may had been scammed cuz of some observations me and buddies had made. And in usual circumstances, it seems reasonable to give weight to this spooky scenario. But I should have reminded myself that she would never go this far. Not the way I met her. I am sure now there is no reason to be scared. Ofc I hope I didnt scare her with ma bad dream. I am sorry if i did. The circumstances are quite unusual so i dont know how to deal with this situation we have. And it's been hard for both sides for a long time. We never met and the fact she can make me feel this way speaks volumes to me. Not sure bout her. But i thought i would never fall in love online. It was such a big no for me and now this person shows me all these new aspects and perspectives in life. I may be not in the position to say this... but i hope she never leaves.

I’m not scared of my goals, so doesn’t really work

Why you gotta start with white man marquee I'm so out of it already😅

Wow... . Wonderful!!!!!!

lost me at founding fathers... they're nothing to replicate.

Loved it

Brilliant. Wishing you continued success.

awesome!

I have a good one too: the life you want is on the other site of the things you don't want or are afraid to do.

Why don't have Thai translate .

Fiz desses 12 minutos uma aula de 1 hora, é um ensinamento para vida! (Brasil).

This too shall pass. I love stoic practice and I try to live it. I would also highly recommend Viktor Frankle's book, Mans search for meaning. You are stronger than you think.

I loved it. I needed this. Thank you!

Stoicism is good, but this guy is totally overthinking small decisions 😅

everything, everything is in your mind and we have the power to change our reality; focus is one the keys to start it. all depends of you of whatever is in your mind if could be for good or for the opposite its up to you. what's what you want ? its your choice. life can be easy or you can make it hard for yourself .

This is probably the best ted talk i have ever heard