The Trauma Of Abandonment | Dr. Gabor Mate

Also, this sounds very much like the "refrigerator mother" theory of autism. Which has been debunked.

So, what studies support your theory? This is very important. Because multiple studies, including FMRI studies, show that you can have ADHD without trauma.

Ok but wasn't this present before as well 100 years ago? I assume not all children were well connected then. Why do we see more cases of adhd and autism now? Was it the same before and we just didn't diagnose it?

I wish I could talk to dr Gabor Mate. So much. Spinning wheels with my doctor for answers about why at 63 I develop
Painful anxiety.

It's good that we are starting to understand the reasons behind our issues. I have been to see a very helpful therapist today who pointed out the root of my anxiety issues. What is the solution though? Can we heal the subconscious or biological 'damage' that happened?
I have been struggling with alcohol addiction issues for the past 3 years, I need to stop so I can be there for my wife and kids.

The traumatization of trauma =
Vicious circle.
Catch 22.
= There is no end.

I must know who am I. Really.
Not just Philosophically.
Not Spiritually Speculating.

That's the end of trauma and of that traumatization of trauma (trauma biz 💸💲).

So... Who am I?

I AM what I am.
I am Pure Awareness 💗

thank u for sharing very helpful

Incredible! This content is a true masterpiece. I recently read a similar book, and it was an absolute gem. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

Oh so scary they knew what they were doing. 😢 They knew everything

I remember my father abandoning me at three the event played everyday in my life. To everyone it was a joke. They even recentlybrought uo the fight and laughed cause i was crying. I said i was three 😮 and its not a joke to me but apparently my whole life is. Joke

PTSD flashbacks rape me
the past rapes me
rage and grief consume and torture me

How can I let go of à depression which I Feel deep down inherited from my mother who really wanted me but I suspect was for her a way to get out of her sadness and depression caused by an unhappy mariage.

You are so wise ❤🙏🏽 thank you for growing and cheering your growth. It makes the world a better place ❤❤❤

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Wow, this was profound! I identified where my people pleasing comes from. Now how do I change that?

I was abandoned at birth never got the chance to be complete always knew I was missing something I’m a jigsaw puzzle with a piece missing.

WOW. Explains a lot about my life, sadly. Older and now wiser. Thank you so much, Dr Mate.

Gabor, you are wanted and certainly needed. You have helped me understand me. Sad thing is I hate myself for being so dysfunctional due to maternal abandonment.

My Mom left me and my brother at 12 years old. My father turned into a pimp. My mother left us with the same person who abandoned her.

What if a child loses his mother at age 2?

Wow, insightful

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When the talk tiself is good, there is a deep lack of understanding how genetics work.
The heritability of certain traits, like ADD, is there. The genes dictate if the trait will be developed in response to the stimuli. So, the environment is still the key factor. But the genes affect the probability of developing a trait
Put a child with genetic predisposition in a healthy environment, and they will not develop the trait. Put a child without genetic predisposition in an unhealthy environment, and they will be fine too. But if both genes and environment collide - boom!

Of course, this picture is extremely simplified. There is a generational trauma effect out there as well. In addition to myriad of other factors.

This connection to ADHD is stunning

i think just by listening and understanding my life bit more its already a begining of healing. thank you

I have tis from being given up at 4 months after keeping me
She was a selfish see you next tursy

The worst trauma of my life has been the sense of abandonment. To this day my relationships are affected by it, even though I want to move beyond it. My biological mother abandoned me, my stepmother emotionally abandoned me (also abused me), peers excluded me, school ignored me, society failed me, and even my ex-wife left me. It has been very difficult to divorce myself from those negative feelings that inevitable spring up, like a muscle reaction, when attempting to create healthy attachments and relationships. It’s been a long and arduous journey towards finding that secure attachment and healthy relationship that I so crave and need. I look ahead of me with positivity.

Это на века

Interesting stuff from Doctor Gabor 🙏
What is the background music plz! Much love to all of you out there ❤️

That's the collective. I'm happy on this side of town.

I like to say that you actually can remember things from babyhood I know I definitely can add rather not. Now that my brain has fully recovered some of the memories it keeps wanting to go back to it. I hate it.

Always blaming the mothers. This is B.S.

Sounds True!

My mother died after birthing my brother 3 yrs younger than i. I was just 4. My father remarried to an aweful monster who then sent me off to kindergarten 9 minths later turning 5 just 3 months later. Then he died when u was 10 of a brain tumor keaving us with her until i left our home at 18 to get married. I felt so guilty leaving my siblings. Im 68 now...im finally healing & at the time didnt know this was not nitmal for children to endure

Powerful.

❤ Thich Nhat Hanh

A BEAUTIFUL MIND......❤❤❤❤❤ GREAT MOVIE ABOUT ADDICTIONS,MENTAL HEALTH, MENTAL ILLNESSES, YES, MULTIGENERATIONAL TRAUMA'S!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢

WE TUNE PAIN OUT... OUR BRAINS DO THIS.....🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🤑🤑💰🤑💰 WORKAHOLICS ARE THE SAME AS DRUG ADDICTS ACTIVE ALCOHOLIC PARENTS THEY ARE UNAVAILABLE FOR THEIR CHILD

THE BRAIN 🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠 LEARNS TO ADAPT TO HELPA CHILD SURVIVE TRAUMA'S, GABOR MATE' DR.'S DO SAY ADDICTIONS ARE A DISEASE.....A WAY TO ESCAPE PAIN TRUE 😢😢😢BUT ALSO A DISEASE ☠️☠️😥💀☠️☠️😥💀☠️👺☠️👺☠️ A VERY DEADLY DISEASE ☠️☠️😥💀💀💀💀 ADDICTIONS ARE MALADAPTIVE WAYS YOU DEAL WITH LIFE!!

GABOR MATE' AND ALL HIS OPINIONS ARE BASED ON HIS OWN CHILDHOOD TRAUMA'S 😢😢😢😢😢😢 IT'S VERY VERY VERY OBVIOUS!
12/11/2023

Mind blown

Can anyone recommend any useful books about childhood parental abandonment in the form of a substance addiction and alcoholism?

Critical times hard to deal with

How did my counsellor in a rehab in 2005 know something about me to the point of her asking me to ask my mother about my birth? When I did ask about my birth it turned out the she nearly died from her reaction to opiates and as such we were parted for two days. My earliest memory was deciding wether to carry on crying in my bedroom when my my father told my mother to leave me and making a decision to stop crying

Dr Gabor orphanage age 3, mother mentally ill, 70 and alone, homeless how in this USA.

So you recall being told your mother didn't want you cause she feared her death, You went on holiday to your nans house ya bellend

I feel every thing he says every time he opens his mouth. 😥

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.