His Silence Is A DECISION! The Sneaky Way He's Testing You And How To Respond When He's Been Distant

Leave and express that you are no longer interested . They know that you will come back as they listen to the same videos. When a man gives you nothing but anxiety and when he makes you wait and mixed signals ...he is not the right one and leave at once. Do not try to attract him ....let him meet a sneaky one like hi.

What if your married to him and the last you spoke he told me to lawyer up!

Thank you for the clarity

I have been in this type of relationship.." Hot & Cold"...& I tell you... it's NO Fun😭😭😭

It's OK if he went silent and went toward greener pastures..I hope he finds it. I wish him well. The hurt he has brought me needs my forgiveness so that I can move on.

Amazing tips, especially tip number 3 😅😊

Pls read my comment even its bit long & reply me if can :( My bf is 100% FA, we had a 1 year love affair with ups & down, but our love was so deep genuine .
But we r in 2 different religions & we have an age gap too, he is younger than me, but big made than me. Im small made, young looking..


After our 2nd breakup done by him in furious way, in September , he came back in October - November ,1st 2 days I ignored him, then I responded him by eye contact , smile as he showed he regret, he still loves me so. He took a video of my bday & He has been expecting my msgs as I understood later ,I didnt msg him for fear of his reaction , FA moods (bcos during breakup month he told not to msg him in shocking ways).


So he was in love wit me till December , has hacked my WA too bcos I go NC. He cant bear my NC usually. But as I didnt msg him, he has felt rejected , abandoned & he is in a rebound it seems ,he shared a profile with 2 girls wit the date in it ,wit a heart :( Dont know its to get my msgs.

Then I msgd him on 5th Jan asking my bday video ,telling him Y I didnt msg him, that I care for him even I was hurt, frustrated of him. I admired his good side ,wished him. I apologized for my mistakes. Then after 2 days he sent me my video. Then was waiting impatiently for my reply, I replied "Thank U, GBu" after few hours, then he showed me he read it.


So as he is silence after that ,I sent another msg to his other A/C which we used to chat ,then within 1 hour he responded with a 👍 . Thats all. I expected him to chat with me as usual. I learned FA wont msg 1st for fear of rejection , thats Y I msgd. He changed that WA profile after that to his alone photo.


But its still in his insta profile :( My friends tell it seems normal friends , but he has hidden his WA about to me where he use to put love quotes for me. Im worried he is doing the same to another .I was in so much pain for his silent, so I msgd last Friday that Im in pain, saying how much he means to me, that I care for him, I wont remind his faults & past breakup incidents , if he doesnt need me do whatever he likes ,stay where his heart & happiness is, (bcos FA ppl need love, assurance I msgd as that without judgement ) Then he responded quickly showing he read the msgs (to show he cares for me & wont get angry if I msg), but he wont chat wit me, SO SILENT Now its Monday :(


Is it bcos he is in a rebound (started in Dec for pain + anger as I didnt msg) or bcos he is FA & need space as he felt rejected , frustrated or overwhelmed with love? What Should I do, 15 day NC is enough? As this video says whatever happens , he always come back within 1 month of distance after I go NC & move on with pain, he never close the door, he opens the door for me. He never let me leave him..
I cant bear his SILENT at this moment :(

I love this well explained ❤

And those are beautiful flowers behind you

You can feel when someone likes you and some actions show it then you get a text, hey, good friend...get that message

Loving all the empowering comments!!!! Amazing strong women! Go us!!

Precious tips! Let us invest on ourselves girls, let the scumba*** find their matches he he

If he doesn't appreciate your presence, allow him to feel your separation from him. Your time is valuable and isn't to be played with.

Hi I loved the helpful suggestions ! I believe this is the way forward! Thank you for the free book Alex I’m looking forward to reading it 🙏🙏🙏

Thanks a looot! Your talk just literally saved me!

Distant, silent, 10-15 days, move on, got it. Thank you.

So don’t blow his phone up and say a prayer for him to get better but you doubt he will 😂😂😂😂😂my fault

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Never be a needy, we have our own value and if he can't appreciate us for what we are.. so... Get away dude ! 😉😎

truth well told!

It's the same with women too

Hi Mam , i am sorry to disturb you but i am in need your help for a small amount to make payments of my bills and rent, i am sorry i just need to send this message to random people with a pure heart

Men go into their private space when they're trying to deal with something. Let him be, and he will come back if he's just off dealing with something.

Amen - to all these comments

"I wish you well darling" but really you should be thinking thank you. Next.

I am an introvert who always doing sometheing and they always take me for granted and do this. Every one who seems interested turns out to be a flake.

After I had cut him off 3.5 years ago because he wasn’t clear what he wanted from our relationship he suddenly bumped into me and asked to have tea and then supper. Initially it was a friendly catch up, and I thought ok why not stay friends as we see each other in some community events on a weekly basis. But he started to light up - I had never seen him so happy and warm, he said he wanted that we kept dating but take it slow, and never argue again, and he held my hands and said he had been thinking of me, and that I looked so beautiful and becoming younger and younger in front of his eyes and opening like a rose. He had never been so verbal and so generous in compliments. And it was true - I am going to gym and yoga, i have found a new job, have a great social life. And he could see that from the regular community gatherings. I had never sought meetings with him, so it was simply hi m-hello. After so much time, his words shifted something in me, I may have melted a bit. And decided to give him a chance and watch his actions. And guess what - he never called or sent a text. I called him three weeks after and said never to seek dates with me ever again. And to forget my number. Then blocked him. So what was that? A test? But why he wants to be rejected all the time? Is that healthy? I really think this kind of tests are toxic and immature. We are in our 40-ies. I don’t even want to think what was on his mind. Maybe he was testing me after so many years (I have been single but very busy and happy with my life, i didn’t even seek to date ) I was happy without him. Maybe he needed a boost of confidence for dating other younger women. Whatever it was - I am so angry that will never ever look at his direction. If this happened once it will happen again in the future and even when we are married. I can’t trust him.

Bravo! Merci bien! merveilleux!

This guy lied to me at the very beginning. I intuitively picked up on it early on, but kept going back for more and more. Red flags were all around, but I ignored every one. I finally walked away after feeling something within and it's going on 6 months. He has yet to reach out. I'm having the problem of letting go and surrendering in spite of manifesting and meditating. My heart has been broke. I should know better.

great masculine perspective 😊 thank you Alex

Narcissist men do this, they have a new supply. These are men u love who you have been with for more than a year and more I've even seen up to 7 years. Especially if they were friends prior.
Then they start the Love bombing me .... the list goes on..
The good woman are "what the hell did I do, nothing makes sense everything was fine and boom"
it is bad
They were looking even when you thought things were great. Out of nowhere they gave you the silent treatment. They will have every excuse and then slowly when things don't work out with the other Supply they still want you in their life

Thank you..Very much appreciated 🙏🏼

Friend friend friend. Alex is so right. The minute I started treating guys like friends even if I REALLY wanted more. It relieved the pressure on both the man, but more importantly, me. I was in control, and not constantly wondering and trying to figure anything out. I let them come to me. The last guy I did that with is the man I've been with for nearly 9 years, and he wants to get married❤❤.Thanks, Alex and Helen. Such helpful information 🙂

New identity, step into your new identity and forget him, he will always come back

Love this

How to get over a 12 year long relationship? He proved time and again that he loved me a lot. I was diagnosed with chronic illness 3 years ago and he helped me a lot to get through it. I dealt with a lot of pain and my only motivation to get better was having a future with him. I'm now 6 months into recovery after transplant and all of a sudden he just stopped talking to me. He says he's not sure if he really loves me and he needs time.

I really don't know what to do.

What if I block him?

Good stuff! Thank you! Really useful! ❤

Very helpful darlings!!!!💝💖❤️💚🧡💓🎁🌲 happy Christmas from Paris chéri ✨💫⭐

What if he travels allot for business?

Get on Hinge and you will forget him in seconds 😂😂😂

The French expert is great ❤ thanks for this :)

Ladies please understand this , that a man's rejection is god's protection and this is for true

I was talking to someone for a while who would be in contact daily but never see me because he was "busy" - I did joke & t ell him my work aspirations & creative ones too... but still nothing. I finally dumped him despite how attracted I was to him... but at that point, who cares if he's not here? Thank you- yes, if he wants you, you shouldn't have to work so hard. But, definitely a good lesson not to wait for anyone!

Can you fix it if you already blew it?

I failed the text test. I replied right away. And he ghosted again. Does this work for only one month dating situation? It's kind of 3 months but it was on and off because of ghosting.

Agreed.

My ex boyfriend says he needs time, he doesnt talk to me for 1 month, he starts talking with other women after 1 week, he says he feels like he’s seeking for validation, then 1 month later he wants to talk to me saying he still likes me and he can’t forgive me, then after 2 weeks he says he needs time again because he’s not decided and can’t forget a situation from the past (I also had to forgive a lot already, but I’m ready to move on from these problems), he already did this 3 times, what do I do honestly? I’m dealing better with my anxiety because of this already, but I think I will not tolerate this again.

Great advice!