Healthy Sexuality After Sexual Trauma #MarriedToATherapist

I was sexually assaulted a couple of years ago . Now whenever I have consensual sex I feel no pleasure no orgasm. I just go completely numb . I feel like the man who assaulted me has also ruined sex for me

This is the first video I've seen that resonates with me. This month is 9 years since my assault by someone I was dating. I have coped by remaining single ever since. I have not been in a romantic relationship since it happened, telling myself that this will never happen to me again. I feel a combination of safety in my singleness and longing for a safe relationship. I am ready to heal.

Breathwork and herbal therapy helps with my cptsd 😊

Making Love

The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform, and fear of failure. If you have been sexually traumatized, it is even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being, at any time, can do. Even sexually traumatized people can do it, if they are by nature, loving people. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. What is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and one can love oneself and others physically. I hope this might helps you.

Great info, thank you! One thing though…. It’s “dissociation” (dis-OH-see-ay-shun). There’s no “a” in the beginning. I have a dissociative disorder and it’s hard to hear professionals mispronounce it.

one of the most significant things i have is my husband made me a little corner in the house it has curtains and pillows and blankets and i can retreat there and feel safe

I have serious sexual trauma. I was assaulted as a teen. It has effected my feelings surrounding my body for over 20 years. I don’t know if I will ever have a healthy relationship

Nice video

Gotta keep hanging around empowered people. 👍🏻

now im a housewife and the young men of this generation say i should have sex with my husband and my value is gauged by my virginity and beauty. i hate men. all of them.

I have an issue with this topic. I've experienced something which definitely could be called a sexual trauma. But I'm not sure if it really traumatised me. For example you said that we take blame for ourselves. But in that case it wasn't a thing. I was instantly 100% sure it was all his responsibility, that he was a bad person in this situation, that my reaction was the best possible and thanks to me it didn't go further than what's happened. Is there a possibility that a sexual trauma could be nontraumatic? Or it's just my deep burn denial?

WOW 😮 You look like Kristen Stewart!

It happened to me a few years ago. I saw myself as a monster because I let it happen despite my constant efforts to say no. I was drunk, I was taken advantage of, and when it was done I tried to make amends with her by saying I just wanted to be friends despite what happened. She didn't speak to me again after that. I felt like I did something wrong, and it was only a year or two ago that I realized what had actually happened. I'm still healing from it, and realizing that it was sexual trauma I experienced opened up that door for me to begin the process of moving forward. This video is so validating to hear. Thank you so much.

I tried to ‘rebuild’ my foundation in a with a guy who basically viewed me as what he was settling for because he couldn’t get anything he deemed ‘actually worth his time’, to the point he once somewhat complained to me about how he couldn’t go hook up with another woman because he ‘had to be here with me’. Once when I told him I wasn’t just his ‘freebie to get his pleasure met whenever he wanted’ he looked at me and told me ‘yea you are’ and tried to play it off as a joke. I think most stinging of all was that after being intimate, he would tell me all about the other people he wished he could have sex with, and how sad he was he couldn’t. And I just… sat there and took it. I thought it was healthy, that I was ‘lucky’ because… at least some guy was willing to respect my boundaries and consent, as if that wasn’t just the bare minimum after my SA, and it’s effects. Now, in the wake of all that, him no longer around, I’m beginning to realize how fundamentally damaging my sexual experiences have been to me, and accepting that, I honestly don’t have a concept of what intimacy I actually enjoy, that is safe, and healthy, for me, feels like. Like all I’ve known has been settling and trauma. And honestly, it’s left me feeling emptier than I could have imagined.

thank you so much.

Does anyone else just feel gross? Like any time I think about what happened u just feel disgusting. Like I'm the grossest person in the world bc of what they did. Idk I just feel gross. Like I'm not angry or sad or anything from it Idk I feel weird. Also anxious lmao I feel extremely anxious all the time now.

Thank you for this