For the woman who has never dated

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This was a pleasent surprise to pop up in my YT algorithm.
Thank you Emily and thank you Lord for sending this lovely message my way. Amen
God bless you always 💕

Thank you. I am one of these women. I settled and got married at 19. Was never asked in a date. And now I’m 51. Still never asked on a date. Been divorced for 12 years. My heart breaks at times. So thank you. Hugs to the rest of you who are feeling this way

hello from Iran. I just wanted to say that even though I`m not a christian, everything you said resonated with me. Thank you for sharing your love with us. Have a wonderful day💖

haha how is this even a thing??! im a guy and multiple times ive shown interest in girls, of different types, not just mean ones haha. every time I get turned down by them. im honestly confused haha

i think it comes down to people being too picky, am i really that ugly? lol

Your video won't just help women and men in their mid 20s and up. It helps single teenage girls too who have never dated...like me.

I was about to study when this video popped up into my recommendations, by the title i could relate so much so i came here to watch it. I'm 21 years old and i've never had a date or my first kiss, whatever. It's something i've wanted for so long to find someone good who i love and who loves me back but looks like my luck on love is so low because nothing happens and it's so frustrating sometimes. I see younger people already dating or people by my age already into long term relationships and i wonder what's wrong with me, am i that bad that no one will ever be interested on me. I try keeping my heart open and sometimes i meet someone who i genuinely get interested in but they never feel the same way, so looks like i'm onto a loop of liking someone but they don't feel the same, so i will feel heartbroken and take a time for my heart to heal and once it heals and everything is fine someone else will appear and make me go through the same thing again and it's something that hurts.

I wanna keep my heart open for love because if i don't i might lose someone that would be good, but it's so painful sometimes keeping my heart open because looks like it only brings me frustrations.
Well i'm mostly working on myself nowadays, trying to be a better person and focusing on my studies/career, it's the only thing i know that i'll never regret and no one can take it away from me.

Our current society is incredibly focused on labelling people and assigning them value based on their circumstances instead of embracing all aspects of life (kinda ironic if you consider how we are always told to "embrace" diversity and individuality). Even taking out the aspect of any religious connotations, everybody should know that there should not be a need of justification for you existing other than you simply being alive. Life holds value on its own.
Faith though (for me at last) does help/console/comfort through difficult times, offering a different perspective to situations you may feel stuck in (plus for me, fairytale/fantasy/sci-fi stories).I´m 27 but my worst time was when I turned 20 and everything around me was moving with only me apparently stuck in time, it was heartbreaking. Now, some people around me are already happily married, some already with kids, and I´m supper happy for them. One friend had a difficult broken engagement behind her and I´ve aways been supportive of her through all stages of that relationship, another friend is (sadly) more or less stumbling through dating life without any apparent goal and I´m supporting her as well even if I don't agree with her choices. We all have our own journeys to master and no two paths are the same.

Thank you ❤️☺️ Emily. I needed to hear that God 🙏 loves me and cares.

I know I'm ridiculous to think I'm an old maid at age 20.

I’m 27 years old. I went on my first date last year when I was 26. Actually, I had two different dates with two different men. Hasn’t happened since. I’ve never had a boyfriend, never even got asked to prom.

Thank you so much for sharing this am 30 years old never been dated, kissed or had a boyfriend. This is something I had to hear

This is the first video of yours I watched, and I can't thank you enough! I turned 22 a week ago, and never had a real date, a real boyfriend, or even a first kiss. I always had crushes, but none of them ever saw me as gf material. This video was so uplifting, and adding the fact that it also has Christian beliefs makes this 100x stronger. Thank you, and God Bless You.

I don't feel like it's always about self-worth. It's definitely not why I'm looking for someone or even thinking more about dating these days. I just want that romantic kind of love in my life. Really, as simple as that sometimes.

That's me 🤗 then I again I am ace aro in some ways. I never understood why society was so hard bent on love relationships children as of that's the end goal. Although I am curious to fall in love or "crushing" I just never felt that. Being single is great truly, but being a lonely is very sad with zero friends 😔 Do I need a partner? No absolutely not but we are unfortunately social creatures and there nothing we can change our human construct. If I wont have friends in this lifetime I guess pets will have to do.

I should add, even if "god" (I'm not religious) gives people partners, that doesnt mean that one time is forever. Life is not guaranteed and neither are relationships. So dating once is not going to fix peoples internals problems itll make them worse

I have rejected because I don’t have any mutual feelings for them. I’m still optimistic about finding my person.

I'm 24 and I've never dated but I simply don't want to

I turned 20 just a few weeks ago and I constantly worry about not finding someone who will date me. I know in reality I’m still very young and God will place a man in front of me when the time is right but I always feel so behind. All of my friends have boyfriends and one of my cousins (who’s my age) is already getting married soon. The only men who actively approach me are unfortunately much older men (including some which assume I’m a teenager as I look young for my age). Anyway, thank you for this video, the insight you provided has offered me a bit of peace in the matter.

i don't even bother trying anymore have no hope may as well become a priest lol have to lough about it or you will go crazy

I literally thought i was the only one. 😭

Good to know I'm not alone. Thank you.

Pay attention to red flags. People who get angry over little things, those who repeated tell you who or what you are. - (The breakdown of male leadership? Lots of guys are trying to be leaders but lacking morals. I suppose this is what you're referring to.)

Hi, Emily. I just saw this on my YT homepage today (has to be a God thing), and, yeah, I am struggling with this. Up until august, I had never been on a date before. I am 34, and that one date never worked out, as it was meeting a guy in person after talking online. So I've still never been kissed either. However, I'm hoping I can meet another person, maybe as soon as this weekend. When it comes to standards, I have to admit they are a bit high, but also, I've had had it ingrained in me to find a good Christian man who shares my core values, because otherwise it wouldn't work.

My hurt is being 2nd place. I can't explain to you the hurt. Always getting asked out as a backup or guys staying friends with me for a just in case. It's so hard.

I just turned 30 almost a week and a half ago and I have never dated, never kissed , and have never ever been in love. I don’t want to say yes to just anyone; It has to be someone special. The last two guys that I had a crush were both taken (the most recent one which was almost seven years ago is married now to one of my friends but they started dating secretly before I had any interest in him romantically). A lot of people judge me for being now in my 30’s and having no romantic prospects

Jesus loves you

I never been on a date before, I don't want to get my feeling hurt third time by a guy and I get hesitate about it 😅

Wow this video is the first I’ve ever seen talking about this awful taboo secret I also been carrying. Thank you for letting me know I’m not the only one because in my circle I’m the odd one who never has dated. My best friends doesn’t know I’m never been with someone. Is just a big heavyweight on me because I wish I could find someone but I just haven’t. At 30 the hope starts to dwindle honestly. But I’m becoming more at peace with it.

I’m 28 and haven’t dated yet. Men have shown “interest” but they are either married or just not right. I’m just waiting and it’s certainly not easy; however, I know I will meet my purpose partner and things will flow easily because it’ll be God’s will.

I’ve been used for sex & never been on a real romantic date in many years. The only romantic date i’ve ever been on was my high school senior prom with my first love. Some random fuck boy dates here & there. We’ll have sex & he’ll pay for a junk food meal. None of these men love me.
They never will. It takes a lot out of a man simply to love & fall in love.
Women are tired. We are exhausted. There is only so much we can do with these self involved men

I've never dated, even though I've had the opportunity to do so a couple of times growing up. I'm kind of glad I didn't because there was a deeper issue I had to work out and I only realized it until recently. My tendency to overthink the worse started real young, possibly in my teenage years. It's the reason why I turned down who would've been my first boyfriend. I am sorry I hurt him but I wasn't ready even though I did like him. I'm older now and I'm taking the time to self improve. On a positive note, I have a better idea of what I need in a relationship. These values are important to me and if my future partner shares the same or similar values I think it could work.

Thank you for making this. I'm 28. Never dated, never been kissed, etc. On top of that my mom died last year and my dad got re-married two weeks ago, and due to several factors, I have never moved away from home either, and at present my step-mother is struggling with a lot of different things and can't show me any semblance of the unconditional love she promised stepping into my life. I feel like no matter how much love I show, all I get in return from many is scorn, persecution, and mockery. And the few who genuinely try to show me love have a hard time getting through my walls because I've been hurt so much. Before my mom died in Oct. 2021, I lost my grandmother in January 2021, and my best friend in September 2020. And that best friend, though there was no romance between us, loved me deeply. He showed me what real love was about, and losing him hurt really bad. Losing my grandmother was difficult because she was my dad's mom, and mom dying just broke both of us. And this new person that showed us so much compassion and love early is just not showing that right now. I love this lady just as I loved my mom that passed, and she looks at me as if something is wrong with me, which makes me feel even worse about my dating status. I'm hurting a lot, and no matter how much compassion and patience I try to extend, very few have any to give me and that hurts a lot. I know God is still with me. I know He sees me and loves me for all I am now and what I can be. I don't need the world to love me. And the right man, who loves and puts God first, will find me eventually. The waiting just hurts a lot more now because of grief and other things I've struggled with alone for a long time. I feel like I can't get anyone to understand my feelings, but I know I'll be alright in the end because God understands. That's enough to keep me strong and happy even in my suffering. And I am comforted in knowing that I'm not in that struggle for love by myself. As you said in the video, our identity doesn't come from our dating status. So what if the world mocks us or doesn't understand our dedication to putting God first in our lives. That connection to God is what's most important anyway. If you have God, no matter how difficult things feel in a moment, you win. God bless you for making this video and God bless everyone who has come to this video for encouragement. :) We'll make it through our seasons of loneliness and heartache. God has beautiful plans for all of us. Know it and live it. :)

You’re making a lot of valid points. Here’s the other side of this. There are hard statistics that show that virtually all women, reject over 85% of all men that approach them. The other hard statistic that is emerging, is that globally, at least 50% of all men alive today, will never in their lifetime, have an intimate relationship with a woman. Don’t even get me started about the underlying statistics of marriage and divorce……… There simply cannot be that many defective men in the world.

I really appreciate this video because I feel like an outlier at 26, so it's nice to hear I'm not alone. It's also nice to hear that my identity is not defined by the one fact of whether I've dated/been kissed or not.

I guess the frustration is that Christianity asks us to define our identity by a relationship to God and many (myself) use human relationships to model/contextualize that. It's not that it's wrong (especially if you had loving formative relationships)--it just can be slippery because God would have to "speak" louder than negative and painful relationships in order for the relationship with God to be a strong, secure comfort in the face of a lack of romance.

I'm 25 Catholic female and this video was recommended. Thank you for sharing I'm grateful for the comment section and seeing other women share their experiences.

Oof. This hits hard. It’s especially difficult when you’re constantly questioned about why you’re still single by family members. They mean well, but finding a partner is not as easy as buying a candy.

But everything you said is 💯 percent correct! It’s all in God’s timing. Whatever is meant to be will be. Rejection is God’s protection. Settling will only lead to heartbreak. And being in a romantic relationship does not define a person’s worth!

And like what Robin Williams once said, “it’s better to be happy alone than be with someone yet still feel alone.”

You're so picky, like so many women, that no man ever measures up to your standards.

how do you bible thumpers get the devil out of your church and out of your life?. PEACE.

Well with all respect we have to accept some people's lives are miserable others are lucky.

Why don't these women approach a man for a date? Men whom have never dated don't seem to care.

The crazy thing is that, even now as a wife and mother of 4, Satan still whispers these lies to me, especially when my husband and I aren’t doing so well. He was the only guy to ever show any romantic interest in me, so I took the first fish that bit. Not saying I regret marrying him, but I definitely thought my feelings of being unwanted or undesirable would go away once I got a boyfriend and then especially once I got married. Now I’m realizing it’s a me issue, not a husband/relationship issue. I need to look to God for my value and worth more than to the people around me, even the ones I love the most.

My partner was 43 when we met and had never had a relationship. Happy to say we are deeply in love and have been dating for over a year! Keep your heart open. He is the best man I’ve ever known

Thank you for this! It was definitely the message I needed! ☺️❤️☺️ God bless you!

Emily, I honestly believe god put your video on my video feed because he knew that my heart really needed to hear this. Now I know that there is nothing wrong with me and that I’m not the only one

Amen! Thank u for sharing this beautiful word!

Thank you so much Emily! This was much needed and welcome. I am 28 and I have higher standards and I’m starting to feel like it isn’t worth it at times. I know God approves of the standards but I’m feeling almost lost from the lack of good, godly men that come into my life. The fact that I haven’t ever been on a date while I see my friends and family marry and have kids makes me feel like a failure. Like my desire to be a good godly wife and mother will never be. Watching your video was a great encouragement. People like to sugarcoat things and I didn’t think you did. So thank you for this video. It was a blessing to all who watched it! ❤

I don't believe that I am worthless, i believe there is something wrong with me and I don't know what it is.
Also, they can take you out on dates and kiss you, even have sex with you and it can mean absolutely nothing to them. I think I am just meant to be alone.

thank you I needed this today, I was thinking about this today maybe I am not worthy but you showed me that God is listening to me yet again. people tease me about this like there is something wrong with me and I have too many expectations. I get told this by women so you have really helped me by talking about this. Again thank you

I am 27 now, I met my first boyfriend when I was 26 ❤️ keep praying and working on yourself. God will definitely provide when the time is right. We've got to trust and keep going, every single day. And yes, NOTHING is wrong with us at all. You're a whole beautiful and amazing single person!

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