New foster parent vs Experienced foster parent: Showing new foster child their room

Stressful in both versions

Im 14 my parents want to start fostering any tips for them?

You’re a good mom.

This lady is fucking weird talking to herself.

I think it’s best to get basic stuff and go shopping with them to buy stuff they’ll like unless you’ve been told their interests

A good thing would to take the kids shopping and make them pick out their own bedding and sheets and if they’re still reserved about it , just get basic colors and then offer to go shopping again alter once they find out what they liked❤

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Wall designs are amazing. My foster mom had a sponge, paint design in the room for foster kids. There were 287 sponge prints on the wall. I know because I’d fall asleep counting them.

Great video!

How I wish my foster parent(s) were like this with me. I stayed in 5 different foster homes within the 8yrs I was in care and I would say the very last foster home felt good. I Ended up aging out. Unfortunately my experience was that most foster parents aren’t this way. I’m glad you have this channel to help foster parents understand children and youth that are in care.

I’m a nurse & we’re taught Motivational Interviewing as a way of assessing our patients. I love how you show the “pros” and “cons” of each!

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Sickening 🤢

When you are a foster kid... we arent asking for opinions. We want the room we have and the rules we need to follow

It’s so nice how u make them feel welcome and loved. Wish my foster home would been this way to me and my sister . But it was not if I told u how we was treated u would be heart ❤️ broken it was horrible and unwelcome I wanted to run away deep inside. But I didn’t want to go to jail

Good video but volume too low. Hard to hear everything she's saying

These videos are sooo helpful.

You are so great and have such a calming presence

Lol why would anyone ask a kid who is literally being traumatized by this whole situation if they like their new house? I'd say all they wanna do is curl up in bed and cry! Poor babies 🥺🥺

i grew up in the south and the cultural expectation to claim liking anything someone gave to you or did for you was drilled into you… being honest was considered rude and you’d get in trouble…. it REALLY messes you up and to this day getting gifts is a point of stress for me and makes me uncomfortable and guilty and i’m not good at it when i need or want to respectfully decline… it just makes it feel like an audition where if you don’t pull off the appropriate level of excitement and performance people are disappointed in you … i remember finally one year building up the courage to tell my mom i didn’t want to do family birthdays anymore cuz it made my birthday the worst day of the year ever year and she was oblivious to it until i told her

Your videos are so thought-provoking. Great job.

I'm feeling overloaded both ways.

Therapy should be a must for all foster children.

This really hits home for me because I was in and out of fostercare my whole childhood. I was in about 10 different homes

you’re so wonderful ❤

You are so sweet, and I absolutely agree. I am not a foster kid but I have always had really really bad anxiety and as a child I was so stressed out visiting some of our relatives because they always put me on the spot asking if I liked the gifts or surprises that they got me, I know they did it out of love and I am so grateful for that but as a child it stressed me out so much to the point that I was afraid to visit some of my more “intense” family members. Thank you for making these videos🙏

Is it bad to wish someone was this nice and gentle with me as an adult?

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I got mad that a foster mom tried forcing my son to call her mommy and she said to him he probably won't be able to see me again.

this is dumb. all kids are gunna be happy to get toys and stuff even if it’s not a character that they like. it doesn’t have to be so serious

This is such a good channel. You talk about things that I would never even think of.

The level of compassion you possess is so admirable. It's really touching to see.❤

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I love your videos and our plan is to foster once our kids are grown so we can focus on the child or children that are in crisis and give them what they need

I don't know why but these videos always bring out all the feels for me. Thank you for doing these. ❤

I was fostered as a 9-year-old with a 6-year-old little brother (I'm now 25 and still treat them as my family). We we're actually having sleepovers 3 times in the new home before foster and got to know our rooms. Our foster parents asked for our fav colors and such and decorated our rooms with simple furniture with those colors. I don't remember much from the early days in the new family other than being exited to have a new home but my little brother took it much harder. But here we are living our lives today and being thankful we have a home and family!

A lot of kids who end up in foster care learn unhealthy behaviors to cope with their situations. Specifically things like people pressing when dealing with abusive adults.

No surprise then that they'd feel afraid to voice any actual opinion or like they had to agree with everything the foster parents said.

I know i remember feeling that way, out of fear of getting sent back.

So thank you for this, and for helping to educate people

With abortion bans, we are going to need SO many more foster parents. It’s heartbreaking. We don’t have enough now.

I am not a foster parent nor a parent at all. But I do work with kids and special needs kids and think this works for every kid

First night at a new place is always the hardest. Wen my wife and I had our first assignment. The kids didn't get to sleep until after 1am. They just couldn't settle down.

Thank you so much to all the good foster parents I hear of so many children abused when they go through the system and ive met someone that was abused horrifically by their foster parent. Im glad you are giving them a chance at a normal life and giving them so much love

This woman is such an inspiration

Yeah thats great n all but like I want that ghost peace shirt ☮️ 👻

How do you handle electronics, limiting or otherwise

I was in a foster home when I was 6. The hardest thing was seeing the bond between my foster mom and her adopted son she'd had since birth. She definitely favored him, even if she didn't mean to. I had a life size Barbie that I slept with because I missed my mom. Surprisingly, snuggling up to that hard plastic at night was a tremendous comfort.
Providing emotional security and affection as a parent (or substitute parent) is the most important thing a young child needs to feel safe. I still needed cuddles, and to feel bonded with my caretaker. Even if the situation is temporary, nurturing a connection with a child whose life has changed so suddenly is vital to their well-being.

Thank you for this. I want to become a foster parent one day and this is very helpful.

I’d love to know how you’d approach locks on doors. Obviously there are safety concerns and if a child is unwilling to unlock their door for a period of time, forcefully unlocking it, etc. can be traumatic. However, a lot of foster kids may not have grown up with their own space and may want to for what ever reason shelter themselves and feel protected with locks on the doors. How would you approach this in your experience?

I like how both mean well but one just need more experience ❤

Bruh those "do you like it" are making even me, a young adult, anxious... Like tf do you want me to say? Tell you I like it because you want to hear it or break your heart and tell you I hate it? Damn...