The Science of Soulmates

I honestly think this is pretty good advice bc i dont think that their has to be a distinction between the two like obviously if someone found their soulmate but their soulmate talks too much and has a weird laugh and they have one argument about it no one should leave just bc of that like you can grow with your soulmate. Growth mindset + Destiny Believer. Both can coexist i don't really get why their is a distinction between the two bc for one to work it needs the other. For a soulmate relationship to work it needs the logical and realistic mind to help the intuitive mind. Which is the growth mindset mixed with the destiny believers. But also attatchment style plays a role in this too there's some important context being left out. Often the more extreme radical position of what they call the "destiny believers" in which one little tiny thing becomes a deal breaker is often an avoident attachment style characteristic rather than a stance of every person who believes in destiny and fate. So it also seems like a slighly inaccurate depiction of destiny believers bc how many of them have an avoident attachment style. Also some destiny believes can be naive and they may just be getting out right played by a "Don Juan" otherwise known as, "a player" and their falling for it like a dummy. Weather this player is female or male. And again that is due to someone being naive and guluble or maybe even in some cases a bit emotionally unstable rather than being caused by the fact that they are destiny belivers. Many players that actually put effort into their, "plays" can be really good at making it seem like a soulmate relationship/bond when its more of an addiction to women or vice-versa and they're learning that its quite easy so if a woman is falling head over heals for a, "play" then thats not your soulmate you were just gullible enough to fall for something like that so easily. Which most targets that players go after pretty much everytime is someone who is easy. So the players basically only go after the women/girls they know they can play. Which is often why they "play" in the first place bc since their so easy there's no way hes investing his true faith and feelings into her bc he knows he'd be a fool to do so. Bc ive heard of cases where the guy is trying and really emotionally appealing to somebody when really he was just trying to get some. And his play so closely resembled a soulmate experience that sometimes the woman in this scenario thinks that. But iften in those scenarios its due to lies that the recipient is telling themselves bc in those scenarios there are countless clues left and right that he is not the one but they lie to themselves. This is definitely not all people but can be a scenario that people have who may he considered destiny believers. Which again is not necessarily due to their belief instead it is due to their lack of awareness and maybe even disparity which is why a relationship needs both like the video pretty much is pointing towards.

I believe in soulmates.

This show should get Vanessa a guesting contract or this will die soon. Vanessa is the only reason I watch this show. This show is the worst. The hosts have seriously bad habits. Probably not intended but they just lack ethics, articulation and manners. It's subtle but they always like to throw that "yep, been there done that" kinda thing. They interrupt too. Vanessa should have coached and trained them before they started this show.

I see why you aren't " a believer in soulmates"🤣🤣🤣

I can feel the blonde's pessimism.

The mainstream idea of soulmates is the concept that they are the one person meant for you romantically, even destined by fate. And that's where this bad rap for the concept comes from, because people either argue the concept of one true love destined for you , either because they don't believe in the spiritual/religious aspect, or they argue about people who have been widowed and remarried. But from what I've read into the topic, soulmates means literally that, that your souls are mated -- as in, connected, so you will gravitate toward each other. So you could have more than one soulmate and they might not be a romantic relationship. This starts to go into reincarnation and past lives, so I'm still not sure how I feel about it, but it is an interesting concept. Basically it's the idea that your soulmates are there for you to help you learn in life, and each life you have teaches you something more, and these soulmates come back time and again to keep teaching you more lessons, and you "level up" each time you learn more in each lifetime when you're reincarnated, until finally you reach the "upper level" and have finally learned all you were meant to learn.

Thank U very much!!! Very helpful!! 👍💗💗💗

73%! No wonder their are so many broken relationships. It’s just magical thinking. You can have many strong in your relationships in your lifetime.

My relationships are definitely destiny based

And hence 70% American doesn't even know what soulmate is.

Seek the kingdom of God first and everything will be added unto you!

Excellent presentation, absolutely loved the discussion.
There is a huge difference between destiny mindset and growth mindset, and surprisingly huge disaster that comes with destiny mindset.
My mom had this destiny mindset of being partner to a guy in her teenage years, but actually that person was not a good man he was only a smooth talker and not a doer. Then later on my mom got arranged marriage with my father, and my father is caring, protective and providing man to my mother, but my mom has emotional affair with that man for so many years, it seems like my mom had destiny mindset to be partner of that jerk and not a growth mindset that even though having a great husband she refuses to see any good qualities in my dad! And the entertainment industry feeds their public the destiny mindset, and even every Disney movie like Snow white, Cinderella, etc etc storyline/plot is based on destiny mindset!
Thanks for sharing and uploading this wonderful and beautiful concept, this makes so much sense now. ❤️🌸

I like it please give me some advices my soulmate is younger than me!

What a horrible video. I was looking for something on the science of finding a partner, which does exist (quick précis: perfect partners are not identified by tickboxes, but by growing together from empathetic beginnings) and all I find here are two brittle, strident, honking harridans who sound as if they're looking for aspirin at Walmart and are trying to beat down the price at the checkout. Neither of them has conceivably heard of a gentle, listening ear, of rapport, of give-and-take, of wisdom. In
fact, neither of them would seem capable of listening to "the music behind the words" - of listening full stop - if her life depended on it. Sorry,, ladies: but as a man who has known some glorious women (and speaking as a former psychologist) I wouldn't touch either of you with the proverbial barge pole. In fact, I'm a bit sorry I live on the same planet.

I never used to, until about 5 weeks ago

Sorry I don't believe in soulmates. It's hogwash do people really think they are so special one person out of billions are set apart for them .nonsense there are probably a lot of people compatible to you

No such thing as soulmate. We just meet from time to time people who have specific things they seek in life in a certain situation.

Thank you !!

Adam and Eve were soulmates. God made soulmates…those connections exist.

Vanessa you have actually been wonderful always,I have learned a lot of things from your videos

A soul mate is first and foremost a friend who brings the best out of you. They understand you, and you understand them in a way it hasn't happened with anyone else. In their presence you spontaneously feel comfortable lowering your guard and being your authentic self, because, instinctively, something tells you they wouldn't ever hurt you since you also know that that's how you feel about them. When you are together time stops. You can walk for miles and talk with smiles or you can just sit indoors somewhere and for hours not say a word to each other - each absorbed by some task or doing what they love or feel like doing at that instant. The knowledge that the soulmate is around and accessible is a joy that can be understood only by those who experience it.

Soulmates are also 0 protective and defensive of one another at all times and in all situations. A soulmate is averse to adverse verse about the other.

Whilst romantic love may give the lovers joyful feelings underpinned by sexual attraction, soulmates are a different kettle of fish as they have a connection that's beyond words. Some call it a spiritual connection. It is akin to being mirrored in the other person and feeling subsumed in them and they in you. Such a relationship has everlasting bonds. Even when occasional differences crop up the soulmates quickly weather the storm heroically, doing all they can to remedy the situation. No blame or power games. Just earnestly striving to understand and be understood.

The soulmate is a soul connection it doesn't have to be your partner sometimes it's your friend or one of siblings... Etc

Thank you so much Venessa this is so important and inspiring 🌺🌸🌷💕

* 67% of people believe in soulmate= not found jet
* 33% dont= found and regrets
U are right... fortune is eyesless, unlucky see very well

* What is a soulmate?? A person of ur dreams= u are sleeping
* Sometimes it can be a fairy tail= God save me... prince charming save me= u wanna make a dinner for blue blood??
* A soul mate is someone who take cares of u not 4 purpose, and see what is real life
* And u take care in the same way... with some few rules
* A person who see target with u, want to build something
* A person who wants to see all the small details, it means that u will create problems for her dreams= she/he wants u outta her/his way
THERE IS A NICE MOVIE... WATCH IT

Isn't the "science of soulmates" an oxymoron? 🤷‍♂️ One's spiritual and the other one is materialism.

Her eyebrows are definitely soul mates

So positive and powerful! Much needed. 🙌👏

Where’s mine…..??? 😩

Lol people watch too many Disney movies

found my soulmate after endlessly begging from god to give her to me i finally got her she is mine forever till eternity she is forever mine and she is beautiful the most beautiful girl on the planet there ever was and ever will be she is my baby . the extent to which she loves me no woman can i bless her soul

I believe in soulmates! I believe that there are multiple soulmates not just one. Love your videos!

I haven't met my soulmate yet.

I am a growth believer, but I think I have found my soulmate. Whatever...

That is not so true because soulmates are desten to be together and no mater what divorse u went thru or other relationship u had that was not u desteny u can not change that untill u meet ur soulmate

A soul mate doesn't necessarily have to be a partner. They can also be a friend or a relative.

I don’t believe in soulmates I’ve never been married and I’m 35 years old and I male

People absolutely don't know what real soulmates are.I see so many people in the comment section here saying they met their soulmate. In a real soulmate connection the soulmates get a series of gifts from the universe. What is the second gift all you so-called soulmate connections couples? The first gift is a soulmate connection. what's the second gift?

Interviewer is overidentifying and projecting.

There is probably darker than @ronnesher By definition @2real4real Too easy to get that one

We’re part of the nature and nature showed that it never puts all of it’s eggs in one basket! sexually we have millions mates and i don’t know about what soul is.

100% true. There are certain people whom my brain/soul doesn't naturally resonate with and certain people that it feels special with

I 100% hate this planet

If there is a soulmate for me, I wonder if it would be a good idea to marry her, because a relationship should require work to grow. Master Wang Drawings does soulmate drawings should I find the lady I see in the picture I well date her and all that but I would always work on building the relationship.

Hmm. I believe everyone has multiple soulmates. To me, soulmates are people who have had similar life experiences and subconsciously give off signals to each other that they can trust and open up to each other. Meeting your soulmate(s) is a mathematical probability thing. This was super interesting to think about~

I believe in love. And people's messing up their feelings of like and love. One have only one soulmate and only one time love which will never break whether you meet or not or die. It is a spiritual Bond between only two people throughout life and death and all times. Sometimes you might break up and think i loved someone and broke up then i love again. You never love twice. But you may crush on or like. And you misunderstand that like as love. You may or may not find your soulmate in life and you may not even know if he/she is your soulmate even being with them but the spiritual bond and love remains alive with you all the time😊

So do they exist or not then can sole one respond to me plz