Your Self Esteem Was Destroyed In Childhood

I am greatful for this video. I have lied to cover up my mistakes in the past. Thank you!

Interesting

I really wish to convince myself that I didn't experience all of it but it will be another lie I will tell you myself and I won't do that anymore. My mother treated me in all such ways.

I felt ashamed of myself after relating to each one of them. I always used to think -"why am I unable to speak in public?" Or -"why am I so indecisive?"
This video gave me answer to all those questions and many more negative thoughts I have about myself.
But now that I am aware of it I will do anything and everything to improve myself and will not be put down by anyone including my mother. 💖

This happened to me, I’ll do my best not to do this to my son 🥹

Other students can also destroy your self-esteem. Jealousy and being a bully to avoid being a bullying victim will cause other students to attack you which destroys your self-esteem especially if you are unaware of why they are always attacking you.

I dont remember if my parents doing any of the mentioned things. However, as far back as I remember, I have had self-esteem.issues.

What about self harm? Harming yourself physically....
Or extreme self hatred...
Where are they in this formula?

So we meet again 😏😅 this one has quite a few classics.. I have quite a few stories and memories playing and listening to a few a these songs on repeat... There was a time where radio would play these artists songs... They also feature a song from this album on an anime ending "ergo proxy". A friend of mine made an amazing cover for the exit music and probably is still available at soundcloud. Might share if not breaking rules 🤔 thx for the company 🙋🏻‍♂️

Low self esteem is not always the parents fault. This video is scapegoating parents.

My parents did everything in the video. They love me but i guess they also destroyed my self-esteem for good

I was compared to my sibling constantly and it ruined my self esteem really badly. They still compare me now, which is why we don't have a relationship. Also they used to ask me why my self-esteem is so low, well because of you guys.

My mother always compared me to my cousin's why can't you be like everybody else , I can hear it still so clearly ,40 years on 🥺

I agree that my self-esteem was destroyed in my childhood. But it had nothing to do with my parents. Didn't think it would be so black and white...

Semangat ! Sy ortu 2 anak yg sudah sarjana semua. Parenting penting.

Yes. My mom was very over protective and most times was hard on me. I dont remember her ever giving me positive encouragement or making me feel empowered. I do struggle with low self esteem but i am confident. Its a very deeo rooted issue. I am 41 years old. Im trying to heal.

I definitely am in this boat. I've slowly been building up my self-esteem by working out and pursuing my hobby, but it's definitely a slow process.

Thank you for the lovely video

Kept my diary from third grade and another from 8th grade. Both areas of childhood I struggled making friends and felt unloved by peers. It’s just really interesting I have these diary entries as I plan to read them someday to a really good therapist

So what do you do with a parent who is fearful, jealous or envious of their child? What if a father feels that praising their child will make them arrogant, or when they succeed, they child will think they're superior? Or they fear their child will out shine them instead of celebrating their victories? My father was this way and didn't give much positive support for this reason.

You people cant even comprehed the power an indiwidual holds within itself
All that blocks peope from that are fear, laziness , depression, not integrated personality ( shadow self) ,not enough time, low self esteem and bad habits
Once you break these chains you are free to go to become king/ queen of your life

🎉❤

I feel for these children grew up in such environments... parents can be the strength of the children, they can also negatively affect child's whole life . Parenting styles are important to help the child grow into a healthy individual.

Some of us were simply victims of parents who regarded parenthood as a burden rather than a blessing, and made it absolutely clear to us that this is how they felt. Our parents wanted us to be perfect little adults in early childhood so that they could move on with their own lives. This resulted in an upbringing where we were treated as "problem children" because we actually needed parenting. Some of this comes from parents who have already reimagined their own childhoods to cast themselves in a better light. In other cases, especially divorce, parents just outright put their own needs first and insist that "children are adaptable" and we were expected to deal with our parents' emotional baggage, including providing them with validation during their wars against each other. We got no praise for trying to do this, just condemnation for not doing it "right".

I experienced all in my childhood, and now I'm almost 40 and still struggle with that rubbish. What can I say? Psychology for children in the 80s and 90s were horrible compared to nowadays

I hope some day AI takes charge of raising children. Because, tbh, most people aren't qualified to raise a healthy children. Majority of parents sre frustrated themselves and will compete with their children or live through them, which is unhealthy.

Oh, that's me🤫🤫

Yes it sounds just like me. I am 55 now & im seeing a therapist once a week. At this age you would have thought I had overcome a lot of my trauma. But it’s like I keep going back. I’m finally doing something about it. Discussing a lot of my pain & going back will help me to become the person I’ve always wanted to be.

We all been there, learn to talk positively to yourself and accept mistake love yourself ❤

the animations are so cute. I love this channel. We ALL have our own unique strength!! That’s what makes the world so wonderful. That we’re NOT the same 😃

This was all my childhood.

But as adult now, looking back. Healing and other things. I'm getting better now. Like I say, my life is always play on Hard mode.

Labels are important, one second you are a ragging narcissist the other you have low self-esteem. Both are two polar opposites. I guess most people exist somewhere in the middle. It might as well be a spectrum. Hopefully I'm at neither extremes.

Bullying in school and family discord are also one of the very important factors which they have missed out on

I suppose it's all very individual, but it is interesting that for me some of these points work, while others do not coincide.

Indeed, I never had much validation in my childhood and I cannot stop comparing myself to others, up to the point that I simply do not understand how it is possible not to do these comparisons all the time.

But, on the other hand, I am irresolute even though my parents rarely scolded me for any of my failings.

Also, I do have rather ambitious dreams even though "flying in the clouds" was consistently discouraged by my parents.

So, perhaps some of the elements of low self-esteem might be caused by something else, not necessarily by parents.

Cleaning my place makes me feel good and doing the laundry

i question this for one reason, parents aren't the only ones in our lives, it makes me think of happy go geter' kid that ends up going to school only to be ostracized by all but 2 others (standard stuff for Main characters in cartoons like Hilda), now what if they don't have the 2 others?

You forgot a big one: the "you're just like _" comparisons

Man I hate my parents

Some nations of the world are shallow , so don't let comparison affect you , Older generations couldn't really see, and it's no fault of their own , just the way the system has been constructed , they only know what they deem to be normalisation and success , that's material value or achieving validation from their peers or societal ideology , it is very demanding living in such a system now days , every one knows your business to a certain degree , so we have to put on a front / mask on to try and please our peers and fit in , which in turn can be draining and a loss of one true self , This can lead to many un healthy psychological traits , such as depression, anxiety even psychosis and many more devastating mental disabilities , It's a "cut throat" /"Dog eat Dog" society let's be real , My recommendation is to analys and up skill your knowledge on what it is that you are living in , have a over standing on the system , don't sell your soul for anything , train ones mind and physical , to be robust and discerning , seek spiritual wisdom , love thy self and the natural , material and superficial status are only image's and tools , you as the being , body and soul are the treasure .

This video topic is very relatable. 👍

This video topic is very relatable. 👍

I'm WELLL aware how and where I got turned around but how do I unturn it

All things are relatable. Thank you

Sadly I can relate as my mother is a Narcissist, so my self esteem, confidence, worth, etc was destroyed by her. Happily I have found my way with resilience, tenacity, strength despite also being a Domestic Violence Survivor with PTSD. I have supportive friends, I am well educated thanks to me, I'm going to start my own business as a Spiritual Life Coach. Do what inspires you, listen to your gut, listen only to positive advice that guides and supports, never give up on yourself because you're special, you're unique, you're amazing , so don't forget that 🙏💐🇬🇧

Also has to do with how competitive you are, if you are competitive and then realize as you grow up that you came up short compared to others both in physical or intelectual attributes that may lead to low self-esteem, so it depends on your character too, some may be more susceptible than others to be affected by it. Of course if people call you out (bully you) for things you were already aware of or not, that may make things worse, and people sometimes do that on purpose or out of malice to make you stay in your little corner of shame.

Getting some PTSD from watching this.

I'm surprised that you didn't mention bullying or mean and judgemental teachers. As someone who grew up Autistic, the constant pressure to do good in school while also being harassed by my classmates and having careless teachers definitely affected me to this day.

I'm doing a lot better now, but I still find myself judging my abilities at times.

It almost feels like that unless your parents have advanced knowledge in child psychology and development your future will be screwed in some way by them

After watching this I have obtained more knowledge on how to point out parents who completely fail at their job, and it is horrifying on how many fall into that category

Her voice is lovely. So calm and soothing. It feels safe, grounded, and kind.