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rare episode where the take on both stories is bad. story 1: OP did the right thing by getting out asap. story 2: dont yuck someones yum

I am a woman that enjoys videogames and I have encountered someone like the Zelda fan OP. I think it's normal for women to love video games and have lots of female friends who are gamers. It's nice since we can just talk openly about our interests together without receiving the typical female stereotype comments. I do have some chill guy friends who don't make a big deal of gender then discussing games, but it's a red flag when some one feels the need to say "wow female gamer" instead of just talking about the subject. From experience, those are often the people who don't really see you by who you are, but just by stereotypes or your hobbies.

A few years ago, I was playing games every evening (in person and online) with a woman who I had been recently introduced to. Everything was normal and chill until she started inviting her bf to hangout with us. I thought everything was fine until he started messaging me saying weird stuff about how he likes I'm a gamer and we have so much in common (just specfic game interests). I immediately got on a one-on-one call with my friend and told her how uncomfortable he was making me and how he gave compliments while saying not to tell her. She confronted him and he somewhat toned it down, but she still wanted him to hangout with us since he had no friends of his own. After a few weeks, she got him to confess that he liked me and she broke up with him. She and I both blocked him everywhere and continued being close friends.

That's when he started stalking me saying he knew from my particular video game interests that I was the one for him and all this bs. His now ex gf was more of a gamer than I am, but just different games and he tried to do what the Zelda OP was saying he is afraid he would do if he dated someone and then found someone else who liked Zelda more. You don't have a right to just reselct a new girlfriend if you find someone who happens to have more similar interests and you don't have a right to assume that person wants to be with you just because you like them regardless. I was never interested in this dude, but he started stalking me and writing letters to his ex about how I have more video game interests in common with him than she did and accusing her of being the reason I ran away every time he showed up where I was. No, the reason is that I was afraid of this man who thought he could claim me because I ticked off some of his stupid boxes. I guess having autonomy wasn't on his list. Also, his gf had told me owned a gun, was controlling, ans she believed he would use it to threaten me. I spent months thinking I could die on my way to or from work where he knew I would be (even tried changing stations, but hw figured it out eventually). The police had to intervine to get him to stop stalking me. All this from only knowing him through his girlfriend for 2 months before they broke up. The Zelda OP needs serious help. People are more than their interests and it's disrespectful to treat them like that.

Imagine if a girl comes home and 2 dudes start reciting poetry and touching her without consent blud would be in prison

Is he rich? How would he pay 2 rents? It's not his fault she did him dirty. She can get a full time job or a second job. Needs come before wants.

I think you guys might have missed something, when it was said how would she feel if he shared her nudes, I think that means she shared his with her friends along with other intimate details. the man was clearly humiliated and betrayed and chose to walk away, I don't see a problem with that

Her name on the lease meant she could have kicked him out at anytime.
Spending all money on new furniture against your views. This should be a couple decision if you are genuinely a couple. Not a meal ticket for her to get a better qualification. She absolutely believed, and you proved, that you would pick up the financial gap.
Sharing personal information about your family members. Not her's to share. She lost me at the miscarriages.
He could have paid one month notice. And probably would have been perceived a bit better. But he is absolutely not the a-hole.

LEGEND OF ZELDA:
GIRL here...
This guy is having a real problem, cause I love The Legend Of Zelda and I do understand having the games helped through some rough times❤ but you gotta try and be flexible😅
My husband likes the games, but I LOVE THEM 😂 since I grew up with Nintendo while he was with Play Station 😅

For me on sharing sex life, i was a virgin before my current bf so i would share with permission on what to do and such because i had no experience and reverse with friends when asked me things i tried, i do think hes nta for breaking up if those were his boundaries as some people are private on it versus others.

No way not his job to give her peace of Mind ! Don’t give her proof her nudes are deleted

He wanted out of the relationship 😂

1st story sounds like OP just wanted an excuse to leave. Didn’t put his name on the list, left immediately no talking, and leaving after that little? Like I’m sorry your gf talked GOOD about you and your response to immediately dump her? Super weird

Both people in 1sr story are AH both are clearly not ready for relationships and are incredibly immature

I do not care how you split up (unless it was abuse) you absolutely DO owe them the peace of mind of deleting their nudes. That is what you agree to when you ask for or agree to someone’s nudes. And showing nudes is not even REMOTELY comparable to sharing letters or talking about your sex life, and is 100% illegal

Disagree on the first story. Girl probably did worse things and gaslit. The trauma that the dude must have felt. You open up yourself to someone like that..I don’t think I can recover.

When my daughter’s started dating I told them to not date anyone that they wouldn’t want to be their mate. Everyone you date could one day become your spouse. If you are dating someone you wouldn’t want to spend the rest of your life with move on.

I don't know any girls that would share love letters with an entire group of friends. Maybe my generation is just built different. I fell sad for all the generations under mine when it comes to relationships; although, some of you guys are more emotionally communicative than my generation.

My ex girlfriend in collage broke up with me a week before our one year anniversary AND 3 WEEKS INTO A NEW 6 MONTH LEASE WITH BOTH OUR NAMES ON IT so we where stuck in that place for 6 months with me graving and her hooking up with girls from work she was "friends" with before braking up with me

My dude millennials are bigger Zelda fans than Gen Z is....

That girlfriend seems completely unhinged. Yeah maybe he should have originally helped out financially but at the end of the day she completely disrespected him and his family and didnt care whatsoever so why should he help her when legally he actually had no obligation to? She allowed him to be harassed and laughed about it. He had every right to go no contact. She got crazier and crazier it seems as time went on. If you give people like that a quarter of an inch they will TAKE miles. From experience. I have a crazy ex from when i was a teenager that ended up going to jail for breaking an order of protection like 3 separate times. Obviously all my opinions but if roles were reversed im pretty sure she would be commended for not staying with someone that allowed their friend and sibling to try to jump her and all the other things she did to him. 🤷🏼‍♀️

It's not an overreaction guys.What the f*ck is there to talk about??? I straight up disagree on this one with you. This chick put all their business and then his family business out there. And WHY is girlfriend posting on social media about to her followers about ALL THIS????? This deserved a clean break. If you break up with a person you're not under ANY obligation to continue spoiling them. Yes, him offering to pay on the next month after he left would have been idiotic to me. He didn't go into it to fool her. He legit wanted to live with her despite being frustrated about her poor spending.... again POOR spending habits. Also, she selfishly wanted the "credit" of having the apartment. I'm a female saying that. He would have been gifting money to her for bad behavior!!! I would not stand for any of my friends doing that. She betrayed his trust big time, 4 years or not. Intimacy between couples should be inate. No talking about the sex life...or any other obviously private moments. between you two. You can talk about them AFTER...if they are a one night stand or a short relationship. This chick had no likeability whatsover with the antics she pulled AFTER the breakup. He owes her nothing.

The brother wasn't an idiot Y'all are just missing the point It was supposed to be extreme because it was in response to what would she have to do to get back together so something extreme was said because it's a guaranteed no as in that would never happen

Riley’s girl voice FLOORED me 😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

As an adult woman in her 30s, I can assure you that women do not share personal details with their friends. Little girls do. I also think everyone is going harder on OP who left because he is a man. If the situation were reversed, we’d be calling him a stalker and harasser. She’d be cheered for leaving him with the consequences of his irresponsible actions. OP clearly needed to run because she is nuts! She threatened to kill him. Also, it is not okay to share nudes regardless of sex. I think there’s a lot of sexism surrounding this story.

I'm really baffled by this notion that girls aren't playing Zelda. But I also live in a nerd bubble, so I have a ton of fellow girl friends who play lots of video games, especially Zelda.

Obviously the point of this is to share their opinions but like it feels really weird in the first story to try and say op was overreacting by having someone else interact with her. I don't really see how they're missing the crazy girl behavior or just dismissing it.

I completely disagree with your opinions for story 1. It make across as she was manipulating and financially abusing him. She quit her full time job and i stead of being careful with her spending, she blew it all over unnecessary items. He mentioned she wanted to do courses to get a better job? Great, with whos money?? Probably not hers in a her to guess

Why would a landlord give a lease to some one they did a background check on? Doesn't make sense

I'm thinking this guy is exaggerating a lot

I'm wondering how long this guys serious relationships last? Is he self sabotaging?

Not a chance about the landlord. The more people the landlord can hold accountable they would. I've never heard of a landlord not letting couples put both names on the lease. That's unbelievable

In the first story I feel like he did the right thing bc if her friends and sister got touchy with him like the story has said... technically that's SA... and he should get out of that Situation and no contact if he felt uncomfortable

First story the man was not an ah at all. First off he didn't cut her off initially. He reached out after she sobered up and explained how he felt his privacy was violated. Her response was once you give me the letter, it is mine to share. That is such a self-centered and disrespectful view on gf's part. I get the impression that he was still being a respectful human being when he made his post and updates. He didn't trash talk her at all. Besides she was supposed to be paying half the rent but he has been paying it first few months. Sounds to me like she's only interested in saving the relationship when it would benefit her (rent). I see red flags all over the place. I applaud him for setting boundaries. I get the impression that if he gave her an inch she would drive more than 10 mi over his body

You're so so wrong. Such double standard... And you always think people should be saints even when something horrible is done to them. I hope you never experience really toxic people in your life, and if you do, i hope you like you say you would. What bs

Sorry but the first screams creative writting

Bro you guys ate too soft on these scumbag women, she literally shared intimate information for likes and views and he should have to pay for that 😤 that's a load of bull. She made her bed, and she can lay in it. If it was the other way around, you'd be screaming stinky man.

Riley: Don’t let your girlfriends stop you from finding your wife
Me: So you’re telling me Sophia still has a chance? 😏

I have to say that I disagree that he is an asshole with the apartment story. I think when John mentioned imagining the roles switched I feel as if yall would've HATED the dude. It is her fault for overspending, and her sister and friends borderline assaulting him is disgusting. She grossly exposed his family and information to the world not just her friends. Leave her with the debt. Yall would surely be so hype to put down a man that let his brother and friend GROPE. Bc getting handsy is just a polite way to say grope. After they already paid 2 months deposit + RENT + THEY WERE THE ONE WHO REFUSED TO LET THEM BE ON THE LEASE. I think man or woman. Op was not an asshole and his gf is a disgusting person who i think needs to get a reality check. Hopefully she learns actions have consequences.

Story 1: ESH in that situation. I understand being mad. I don’t understand instant no contact for a boundary that he ASSUMED they shared. I don’t understand posting the situation on TikTok. I don’t understand breaking up with someone for sharing info you did not want shared after sharing info that another person did not want shared (hypocrisy). I don’t understand harassing people to get back someone who doesn’t want you. I don’t understand comparing sharing love letters to sharing nudes. All of these people are downright immature and should not be in relationships for now.

I am really big fan of the show but this episode was very upsetting as the point yall bring up is that he should pay rent until she finds a roommate etc but that is not fair on him,he paid the rent as at that time he was in love with her and they were on amicable terms . First of she said she could share his intimate letters with her friends as it was "her property" completely ignoring that what she did was wrong and that it made him uncomfortable this is not a joke if it ends up with the other person feeling uncomfortable. Second off she was brushing off the fact that her own sister was flirting and coming on to him which made him extremely uncomfortable which he voiced yet she ignored. Third off you brought up the fact that this is could have ended if he spoke to her disregarding the fact that she took to social media to publicise his sister's personal trauma and experiences that shows no empathy what so ever , so I don't blame him for not wanting to speak to her as who knows if she would try to take to social media again after they had talked and used his words against him. Hence he owes her nothing, she publicly shamed him and his family, she kept going to his mother's house looking for him knowing he doesn't want to see her especially after feeling guilty for having to see his sister go through that trauma again due to him. She is not a child , she needs to take accountability and face reality and the consequences. Again this is just my opinion on how you should've approached this story, all love.💝

First story 😡🤬😡🤬

I feel like ya'll are just, glossing over the part where her frinds + siser got handsy with her NAKED BOYFRIEND (cause don't forget he'd just come out of the shower, he was probably only in a towl by the sounds of it) and grabbed his junk and she just laughed and watched. Like, you can IMAGINE if this was the other way around, a boyfriend's friends and brother groping and getting handsy with his naked girlfriend??? Like, that is a MUCH bigger issue than the love letter and sex life sharing (which is still a big violation of privacy).
Like guys, my dudes, that's straight up sexual assault, regardless of who it's done too. HE WAS ASSAULTED AND HIS GIRLFRIEND JUST WATCHED!

No Sam!!! Someone sharing your personal love letters in a group chat…😧 I have never shared what boyfriends have written to me… that is between them and me… not even my sisters who I share everything with. I may tell them they they wrote me a love letter, but not the contents!!!

Zelda guy good job 👏

You can't say he overreacted she shared very personal information about him and then they start touching him if the roads were reversed you guys would be saying oh my God how dare he do that no just because she's a fucking woman doesn't mean oh my friends can just touch you and say they want to have sex with you and I'm going to share personal private information with all of them

I'm starting to realize that these guys are really biased when it comes to their stuff like why should they pay for a house that they didn't even have their name on especially when his girlfriend basically was like oh yeah we decided to just do this without your opinion I want you to fuck my friends and I told them everything about our sex lives they even said if it was reversed they would not be saying any of this crap

If theyre in the U.S. they can find someone else to take the apartment for the landlord and the landlord will have no issue with dropping their lease and just essentially transfer it to the new person. The only issue landlords have with people breaking the lease is that it takes a long time to find someone new. Alternatively, they can probably agree to just pay for 3 months to cover the time it takes to find someone new, that's usually fine.