Achieving that dream body.

thanks for the informing discussion <3 totally get your point and can relate to many arguments

Jeeez! The analogy with the pencil is brilliant! I’ll be using this from now. You have made such a difficult subject understandable. Until today I had so much trouble with explaining my hmm let’s say distance/resistance to take ordinary action in life like shopping or go to the swimming pool. Btw. You’re doing great job in this part of internet. Thank you :)

I'm so glad you make these videos.... I genuinely felt crazy! Like everybody else had this figured out but I was messing it all up somehow... I'm just very grateful you're in this world 🌎 thank you again from the bottom of my heart...

Wow. So insightful. So helpful.
I’ll be watching this a few times for everything to sink in.
As a post menopausal person who had the “dream” body for most of my life and deriving much of my self esteem and confidence from that(thanks mum! 😠) losing it to life stuff and hormones has lead to quite the mess of low self esteem and putting my life on hold Until…..
This will lead to much introspection.
Thankyou.
Look out world. I just might do great and fun things again.

I love your channel and find it very helpful. I'd love for you to do a video on our female cycle/hormones and how this is related to our diet and how we feel.

English is not my first language so excuse the writing. I talked about this with my therapist not long ago, she made me do this exercise where I sat in front of two pillows kind of in a line (like this 🧎🏻‍♀️‍➡️☁️☁️ why’s there no pillow emoji) so the pillow right in front of me, was meant to represent my excess weight, and the pillow in front of my weight was meant to represent all of the things I would have when I got rid of the weight, essentially happiness , you see it? From my point of view it was absolutely necessary to get rid of the weight, cause unless I did that, I was never going to reach happiness, but once my therapist told me to stand from the happiness pillow, it seemed ridiculous even, why on earth am I restricting myself from being happy just because of my body, from that point of view, it seemed like I could do whatever I want with my body, because I was already happy

I’ve tried different ways of losing weight all through my life,I’ve struggled since high school and I’m 51 now .
I changed my diet to plant-based four years ago and all I see is all these plant-based people lose weight so fast and I am still struggling and having a hard time losing the weight.
I am so strict on the things that I eat and making sure that I have Whole Foods. I spend so much time in the kitchen, chopping and preparing and making my dressings from scratch that the amount of time that I think about my weight and the food and the prepping , but in my head, I would love to be rewarded with the weight that I would want to be in, but I struggle and I struggle and I struggle and I just can’t understand why why why I cannot lose this weight !
Thank you for this video 🙏🏽♥️
M:)

Thank you for the parable of the pencil (lmao). Explained so well. It spoke to me on another level, not just about body image but about my perspective on life in general. Shit needs to change.

The question you asked at the end, if all of that was offered would we take it instead of the dream body is interesting. I feel that if I answer 'yes' to that question, I will get my dream body though that, so either way I would be working towards a dream body. That doesn't make sense though, does it?

I came across your channel and all of this is me.

The problem for some of us is that the desire for the perfect body doesn't ever stop. I am in my 60's and still spend time trying to achieve it. I have lost weight and look pretty good in clothes but another problem has raised it's ugly head, because of my age my skin now looks like it needs ironing !!.

I feel so seen. Thank you Rachael <3

THE TIMING!!!❤️❤️❤️

Wow this is a lot to unpack and a perspective I haven't been aware of. Kind of terrifying and also exciting. I have struggled with weight for many decades now and I'm heavier than ever before and yes life seems mostly on hold, and now dealing with mobility and health issues that have made me hold that pencil even tighter. Will watch this video a few times to either let the concepts "sink in" fully, or have an "ah ha" moment where something suddenly becomes clear.

I can't believe how you exactly hit the nail on the head with your videos. like, you describe exactly how I feel.

It's all hard. Being in an objectively shitty version of my body is death to my identity, absolute hell. Getting to and maintaining the body I am objectively more confident, healthy, attractive and content in (and thus, overall more enjoyable to be around), is exhausting and stress-inducing to maintain. The main takeaway for me around this discussion will ALWAYS be that there is no serene, warm and fuzzy conclusion to get to. Oftentimes in life, several things can be true regarding a particular issue, none of them ideal, and it just is what it is.

This is so incredibly wise and helpful! You articulated precisely the problem I’ve been struggling with for literally decades… I’m 56…and have re-affirmed my recent commitment to stop the madness. Now it’s all about respecting myself by nourishing my body with good sensible food and keeping my body healthy and strong with movement that will help me age more gracefully. If these efforts yield a more beautiful body, wonderful! If not, I still win.

Looks like I'm the only bloke here. I am not sure that the dream body is a healthy body. I do not want 10% body fat level even if I could achieve it as I do not think it is the optimal for my health. On the other hand to accept the body I currently have is also not healthy hence the daily struggle. Maybe rather than what your body looks like how about what your body can do? Can you run your local 5K in under 30 mins, squat your bodyweight a few times and do a couple of pullups in the same week? If you can answer yes to that I would imagine you look pretty good. All those requirements would suggest a body composition that is attractive and you are a functioning human being. Dreams happen when we are asleep so leave them there and get on with living while we are awake.

Are you reading my mind?😮

I listened to your post, all the way through, and I liked your pencil-story approach.
In my opinion it will be even better with an added layer and then reveal more of the root issue.

In your example one could argue that the pencil isn't the dream body. The pencil is the identity attachments and beliefs you have that you need to be validated and approved by others outside of you to be worth something and entitled to be seen as good enough.
That's what's driving people to focus on physical appearance based on whatever trend ruling at the time. People chase all kind of stuff outside of them to please their ego-identity markers so they can fit in and believe they are good enough.

The sooner you can see this for yourself, the better. Then you can turn inwards to find your true self, beyond your physical body and mind.

Your video about abundance vs scarcity with food REALLY changed a lot for me. I put away my scale. Its tragic how many times i would give up on something because my scale wouldnt move. I was working on an abundance mindset already in other areas of my life, so that video struck a chord for me. I've lost weight (idk how much because the scale is gone lol) but enough that clothes from last summer feel loose on me! Anyways, this video just struck another chord for me. My job is VERY VERY appearance based. And i have been holding back because i want to do my job in a bigger city but, i keep telling myself im not going to be hired anywhere because of my weight. Unfortunately, instead of doing what i love, ive stopped working altogether which is actually pushing me further away from my dream. Its annoying because when im working, i eat less, i have so much fun, i make even healthier decisions, its very physically demanding so it makes me skinnier too. I just really got in my head that i cant work unless im where i want to be location and weight-wise which is actually counter-productive. I have a friend that is out here doing what i want and she keeps telling me to jump and i havent, but this video pushed me enough. So tragic that i was holding my own self back! THANK YOU 💜💜

Thats the issue. The peopple who says theyd have a PhD or a business feom what theyve "learned" and researched, did they they actually go and spend time DOING?

You are definitely up to something here! Indeed, dieting is something “to do”, where the outcome is solely dependent on me. I don’t have my life in check, but I can have my diet in check, so i can see why my mind is drawing a parallel between “if I can’t even do what I want so hard, and which is completely dependent on me, how can I archive something much bigger, where there are a lot of other elements involved”. It’s almost “I diet, so I am” mentality. 😳🤯

Pencil analogy is amazing 👏

The thing I struggle most with is my dream food relationship. I struggle with emotional eating. I know I eat for comfort and stress. I have added more tools in my toolbelt for coping but I still really struggling after 3 years, of really working on it, to let go of the emotional eating.

You channel is starting to change my life. Such a blessing.

I finally want to loose weight for reasons other than aesthetics but I struggle massively with disordered eating and I don’t know how to balance the two. I just want to be healthy but my mind is so consumed by thoughts that I’ve gained simply from habit because I used to hate my body. I’m sure I still have those feelings deep down but I’m a lot more confident and comfortable with my looks. I just don’t know how to handle my disordered eating and loose weight at the same time while maintaining my confidence in myself and my body.

I believe that we want to change our bodies so badly because we feel that if we get to a certain weight or look a certain way then it will give us the permission to feel confident, sexy, happy, content etc etc. but the thing is, we can consciously CHOOSE to feel that now, we don’t have to wait until we are a certain weight ❤️

Thank you ❤

You’re amazing 🩷